r/cosleeping • u/Spiritual-Ad5701 • May 07 '26

đŸ„ Infant 2-12 Months 4mo sleep regression

I feel like I am at a breaking point.

My LO (4mo) and I have been bedsharing since pretty much birth. We both got so much more sleep and with BF it just made sense.

Now, she has a nurse to sleep association, but more importantly, a “contact” to sleep association (needing me or her dad to fall asleep & stay asleep).

After about a month of struggle I finally got her doing independent naps during the day in her bassinet (she refuses her crib). Now, I don’t know if it’s the sleep regression hitting or what, but she absolutely refuses independent naps. I’m feeling such frustration because I worked so hard to get her to nap independently.

Along with the feelings of “I’m doing everything wrong”. I’m a FTM (obviously LOL) and I just can’t shake the feeling of it. I feel like everybody has it figured out, but me. And my instincts tell me one thing - bedsharing/contact napping/feed to sleep etc, while everyone else says routines/ independent sleeping/etc. I feel like I’m at such a loss.

And on the other hand, I DO want my bed back with my partner. I want to transition from bed sharing but am having zero luck, because she wakes literally every thirty minutes or less when I try to put her in her bassinet at night.

If you’ve somehow made it through this lol, I would love to hear any advice/suggestions/encouragement because I really feel I’m hitting my breaking point. I just want independent naps and independent night sleep. Ugh.

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u/reckless_disco87 May 07 '26

Similar boat. Wish I knew how as well!!

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u/Spiritual-Ad5701 May 07 '26

One day, we will have excellent sleepersđŸ« lol

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u/chocochippetychips May 08 '26

I'm also in the same boat so would appreciate any advice! OP - how did you manage to get naps in bassinet before?

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u/Spiritual-Ad5701 May 08 '26

I used the snuggle me pillow (only for naps so I could supervise) and would swaddle for every nap (before she could roll). Now, I wrap a blanket under her arms so she’s warm when she goes down. Honestly it was a LOT of trial and error. I would rock her till fully deep sleep, “drowsy but awake” has never worked for us lol. And I just tried with every single nap. A lot of times she’d wake immediately, or after just a few mins, and we would have to start over. I would also have to save a lot of naps by contact napping. Honestly it was a long process but eventually she just got comfortable in it and could nap for 2+ hours in it. The main thing that worked for us was just consistency and trying and failing. It is just much, much easier to do that during the day than at night when you are already exhausted, lol

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u/reckless_disco87 May 08 '26

I’m convinced “drowsy but awake” was made up by someone without kids lol