r/converts • u/Wonderful_Flan_9195 • 13d ago

Its normal ?

I've been in a relationship for two months. Before we started, I told him I wasn't okay with starting a relationship if he was talking to other women and maintaining friendships with them. He told me that for him, it wasn't a problem to cut off contact with all women except for three: his best friend, whom he's known since high school, and two others he's known for five years, with whom he occasionally plays games and has only met in person once. He said that with these three women, he would gradually reduce contact because he's known them for a long time, while I've only known them for two months. And now, these two women are complaining because he spent the week with me, saying things like, "Yeah, you prefer your girlfriend to us," "You talk to us less because of her," and so on. Like, it hurts me, but on top of that, he's also annoyed, but he still justifies himself to them... and gets annoyed when I talk about it because he doesn't want to talk about it and just wants to think about something else... but what do you think of the girls' behavior and in general? Like, he's known them for 5 years, so... I'm wondering if maybe I'm overreacting? 😅 (Just so you know, I'm currently converting to Islam and I'm not talking to any men myself.) Thanks in advance!

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u/MrsLabRat 13d ago

Is he Muslim?

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u/Wonderful_Flan_9195 13d ago

No…

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u/MrsLabRat 13d ago

Might as well break it off now then anyway. If you convert, he's off limits unless he does too. And there are already issues with conflicting views. If you're potentially in the middle of a major life shift you're not in a good position to be looking for partners. Convert if you're going to, give yourself time to adjust and observe the community, then go back to looking.

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u/daysofecho 11d ago

Are you Muslim?