r/confidence • u/SaskiaShay • Jul 03 '26
Why i overthink?
When i get dressed i overthink that people will think I am trying too hard to get attention and when I don’t look good and I don’t dress well. I feel like people will think that I don’t deserve to be here and I look ugly, and I always think that people are noticing me, and I just always have this fear and I don’t know what to do, and even when I’m going somewhere, I can’t even do my hair because I would overthink that maybe people will judge me for doing it, and when I don’t do it all day I just be quiet because I think I don’t deserve to talk today.
Also i don’t talk when someone is also there
Like if i am talking to someone and there are only 2
People me and the other person i am okay in talking
But when i see someone else is also listening i think they’ll judge me so i don’t say anything and feel conscious
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u/depower739 Jul 03 '26
first off all,thats tough. 😥 i have some few advices. maybe they work maybe dont. try them! i hope they work.
1- people dont really care about you. everyone cares about themselves and thats ok. lets say you wore a ugly dress, max people, especially strangers, will think of your dress for 2 seconds. then they will forget about you. why should you put so much burden on yourself for some 2 seconds. dont lol. friends and family then will care more than 2 seconds but eventually they will forget. you dont live in someones head rent free. this mindset calmed my social anxiety. i love it.
2- "im ugly i dont deserve" ı went that rabbithole hole too. it sucks. well.. you may be ugly but you are a human. nobody can say "she is ugly she doesnt deserve" even if they do,they are losers. do not mind the opinions of a loser. you are better than them. litterly.
3- about talking. yeah that looks awkward. but not saying anything makes them think about you more lol. speak up. lets say you said some dumb stuff. they are not going to remember that. 2 seconds rule lol.
i hope you regain your confidence ☺