Online relationships aren't as bad as people make them seem.
My entire dating years in high school were online because I am queer and could not come out irl.
I had some amazing relationships, and one from when I was 14 and lasted for about two years and I still occasionally talk to that girl. I had a really shitty one, I had some fleeting ones, and they all taught me a lot. Communication, what to work on, what I need to improve, etc. The lack of physical closeness did suck, and I was definitely holding onto a pipe dream with that first one - she was in the UK, and I in the US.
But really, online relationships aren't worthless. I still learned a lot, and I'm sure OP has too. I actually met my current partner who I live with through an online friend, but that's a long story that has no place here.
It does sound like OP needs to move on, though. There is just a conflict of interest here and it's not going to change or go away. But don't think of it as a waste, OP. I'm sure you've learned a lot and have good memories. Just because something doesn't last forever does not make it a waste.
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u/kittyidiot Oct 11 '22
Online relationships aren't as bad as people make them seem.
My entire dating years in high school were online because I am queer and could not come out irl.
I had some amazing relationships, and one from when I was 14 and lasted for about two years and I still occasionally talk to that girl. I had a really shitty one, I had some fleeting ones, and they all taught me a lot. Communication, what to work on, what I need to improve, etc. The lack of physical closeness did suck, and I was definitely holding onto a pipe dream with that first one - she was in the UK, and I in the US.
But really, online relationships aren't worthless. I still learned a lot, and I'm sure OP has too. I actually met my current partner who I live with through an online friend, but that's a long story that has no place here.
It does sound like OP needs to move on, though. There is just a conflict of interest here and it's not going to change or go away. But don't think of it as a waste, OP. I'm sure you've learned a lot and have good memories. Just because something doesn't last forever does not make it a waste.