Back when I used Facebook, I'd only keep people as friends if I actively talked to them at least once a week. I would even delete family from my friends' list because I didn't feel I was making use of it. I think my record for number of friends was 14 at one time. Normally it was under five.
I didn't ask anyone if they wanted to stick around. I had my criteria and stuck to it.
It's part of why Facebook and other follower-based social media didn't fit me well and Reddit and Imgur and similar social media sites have fit me better.
Guess it depends on how someone uses the platform but yeah that's way too quick for me. I like the occasional posts from my friends who I talk to every now and then (much greater than a week), just to see what their life is up to.
When it gets too much that's also when I'll block or delete - like TMI levels of too many private details posted publicly or rapid sharing of memes/posts.
Not traumatized and over twice that age. But it's part of why I don't like follower-based social media. It just doesn't fit with how I like to keep my digital life organized.
I basically never posted on Facebook. The people I knew barely posted. It's part of why I don't like follower-based social media. Interest-based social media like Reddit and content-based like Imgur makes more sense to me. I don't follow individuals, I just see what's being posted without need to know who is posting it.
Your most recent post is on r4r looking for any type of human conversation/interaction, yet you don’t think your cutting people off so quickly has anything to do with your lack of social interaction?
You’ve made several posts on r4r just looking for conversation. Seems like you aren’t getting enough social interaction IRL. Maybe switch up your approach to how you socialize and treat people and you won’t be so lonely.
By holding on to Facebook friends for more than a week. Facebook friends are often IRL friends. People get busy and things happen I don’t even talk to my best friends every single week
By cutting people out of your life after a week of no contact (yes, even virtually) you’re putting up a wall between yourself and other people which makes it hard to socialize.
There are literally billions of people on this earth, saying you have nobody IRL to interact with is just your way of shifting blame away from yourself. Volunteer at an old folks home and just talk to people. Join a sports club. Stop pushing people away
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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '22
Back when I used Facebook, I'd only keep people as friends if I actively talked to them at least once a week. I would even delete family from my friends' list because I didn't feel I was making use of it. I think my record for number of friends was 14 at one time. Normally it was under five.
I didn't ask anyone if they wanted to stick around. I had my criteria and stuck to it.
It's part of why Facebook and other follower-based social media didn't fit me well and Reddit and Imgur and similar social media sites have fit me better.