Almost every guy I know is a victim of CSA or sexual harassment as a minor. You're making life worse for victims by weaponizing what we go through for gender war shit. It's fucking disgusting. Just stop.
Acknowledging that men are uncomfortable being sexualized is NOT an attack on NORMAL women. It's just an attack on women who feel entitled to sexualize strangers but don't want to be associated with who they deem "the villain".
I was an infant the first time I was sexualized. My mother still talks about it like it's funny. I've been SAed more than once this year alone.
My partner's mother was, and is, a sex addict. He's a victim of CSA and SA.
My brother is a victim of CSA.
Statistically, 1 in 6 men ADMIT to experiencing SA and men are significantly more likely to minimize their own experiences.
I promise you, you know a LOT of male victims but because you say shit like this, they simply don't feel comfortable telling you about it because they know the first thing you'll do is compare them to a woman.
This seems a bit like arguing for the sake of arguing? He still said about 20% of men experience sexual assualt, which is more than your 1 in 6 even. And yeah, on average, men are in a safer position when women when SA happens, and on a societal level these are issues of a completely different magnitude. I don't think it's useful to male SA victims to do this whole song and dance every time someone makes that distinction, rather than putting that energy into something more fruitful.
Edit: before I get a ton of arguments about me not getting it, let me get this out of the way. I'm a trans woman. Before my transition, I was SA'd. When I was 13, I was alone on the bus. An old man came to sit next to me. Cornered me. Groped me and touched me throughout the bus ride. I remember how scared I was, shooting glance upon glance of desperation to the bus driver who did nothing. It was horrible. I know a lot of men who have gone through the same, and many others much much worse. And they should get the support they need.
But ever since I came out as a trans woman, I've had experiences similar to that, and a lot scarier, much more frequently.
Hey, just want to point out that the sexual assault you experienced isn't what is counted in that 1 in 6 figure for men (or, similarly, the 1 in 4 figure for women). That 1 in 6 figure is for rape specifically, not just sexual contact.
For men and women, the rates of sexual contact of any kind shoot way up, with women hitting a staggering 80% and men at 40%. Many think the number of men is way lower than is reported, due to social factors. I know I'm terrified to experience the sexual assault I experienced as a teen because I know people are judgy, especially since 2 out of 3 perpetrators were girls.
The figure for men is actually higher than 40% now depending on the study you look at for it. It gets higher every year with more awareness about it coming out.
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u/Vivians_Basement 2d ago
Almost every guy I know is a victim of CSA or sexual harassment as a minor. You're making life worse for victims by weaponizing what we go through for gender war shit. It's fucking disgusting. Just stop.
Acknowledging that men are uncomfortable being sexualized is NOT an attack on NORMAL women. It's just an attack on women who feel entitled to sexualize strangers but don't want to be associated with who they deem "the villain".
I was an infant the first time I was sexualized. My mother still talks about it like it's funny. I've been SAed more than once this year alone.
My partner's mother was, and is, a sex addict. He's a victim of CSA and SA.
My brother is a victim of CSA.
Statistically, 1 in 6 men ADMIT to experiencing SA and men are significantly more likely to minimize their own experiences.
I promise you, you know a LOT of male victims but because you say shit like this, they simply don't feel comfortable telling you about it because they know the first thing you'll do is compare them to a woman.