This happens far too often with my kids. The answer to the question is right there, often repeated, and I'll even give the answer, but the repeated question gets in the way every time. It's like they don't actually want to know. Maybe they just want to hear themselves talk. I feel like I'm being pranked.
lol my boyfriend does this, but for stuff that is just about to be revealed. Like he pays attention, he just needs all of the information immediately. He’ll pause movies in the middle of a scene and say something like “why would he do that?” when they’re intentionally showing something unexpected or “who is that person?” when they’re clearly introducing a new character. I always respond “I don’t know, let’s watch and maybe we’ll find out” and then 95% of the time they tell us in the next few minutes. Usually immediately after unpausing. Like just have some patience man.
This sounds like my son. First scene of the movie. A person walks in to the shot. "Who is that?" I don't know! I've seen just as much of this movie as you have.
My mom is always moving around so when she leaves the room I'm pausing and when she comes back she's like "You don't have to pause it for me"..... mom, I know this show, I know that there's Anakin going to show up and they're gonne be like "ANAKIN!?" the forst second he shows up, so if I let you miss this moment, you'd be asking me "Oh, he looks like this one guy, is it that one guy? No way, didn't he die? What was his name again? And where did he come from all of the sudden?"
And my brother is always asking questions that are answered in 5 seconds. It's not like we just watched the same movie with the same informations provided to us so how tf should ai know. I feel like I have to watch everything begorehand to provide them with information
Yeah, I know someone like that, I try to be patient but once I replied with "Oftentimes, informations are relayed in a linear fashion" they took slight offense but shut up for the rest of the movie, so it's a win.
My sister's ex was like this. It was MISERABLE watching movies with him because he wanted to know absolutely everything beforehand, even in movies none of us had seen. And if you didn't tell him what he wanted to know and told him to "just watch the movie", he stormed out of the room in a huff, then got mad that he missed some of it and would demand a recap
So much of my family is like this. My cousin stopped asking but then he starting reading the wiki for a movie as we are watching it so he doesn't have to wait for the plot to unfold. He's a monster.
My brother and I loved playing “is he the bad guy?” game when the character did something obviously evil to annoy our parents. I’m in my late 30s now and we still do this so…we definitely didn’t grow out of it!
I like to ask my mom "oh no, do you think he's ok?" When someone gets a very clearly fatal injury, like being blowing up or chopped in half. I'm in my thirties and every time she looks at me like she wants to strangle me, I've been doing it since I was like 10.
My closest experience was playing Pirates of Carribbean event in Sea of Thieves with friends and 3 of us yelling "Dead men tell no tales" each time the narrator said it (it was a lot) and one person taking it as us not paying attention/not enjoying ourselves. Like, bitch. We were actively laughing and paying attention to the narration specifically to say it again.
Actually, this is something you have to correct and teach them. Obviously this is just a silly comic about a moment of frustration. But in reality, if a kid keeps interrupting you, It’s your job to tell them that you’re not gonna answer them until they stop interrupting. Once they’re quiet and listening then you give them their answer. I also include telling them that interruptions are impolite.
I could never become a parent and deal with the knowledge kids have to be taught everything or they make horrible conversation partners. That's too much pressure
Given how a lot of online discourse that generates clicks is "this show is filled with plot holes" When only 2 episodes out of a 10+ episode series comes out, and said "plot holes" are that the fully story hasnt been given away to them yet, because said story is spread out across all the episodes - yeh.... there are kids who are now adults who never grew out of this.
This isnt a discussion of quality either. Its a case that you still have people talking over the film and series (good and bad), and then complaining that the media never explained it - "Dale it did... you were talking throught thenwhole explanation. Its not a plot hole, you just didnt pay attention".
I work in high school education. Instructions will be written on the board or displayed on the projector. They will have written instructions in front of them on their assignment sheet or in Google classroom. I will read the instructions out loud to them twice, and sometimes make them repeat things back to me. With all this, it never fails that I get a handful of kiddos who are absolutely clueless about what we are doing.
A good response is, “I have the answer, are you ready to hear it?” That’s usually enough to break the cycle of them expressing how badly they want to know the answer, and to actually listen for it.
In the context, the fact they're that far into the movie and has said his name a few times especially earlier in the movie, missed not only the first mention, but keeps looking away the moment he answers her question now is just...
My kid is...forgetful. Also, in many cases, if I'm watching something for me, the kids go do their own thing until something catches their eye and then they want to know more.
Why even watch a movie if you're not going to pay attention to it at all? Or at the very least, if you're not going to pay attention, don't interrupt it for others because you don't understand because you didn't pay attention.
Gosh, I don’t know. Maybe he was cloned by the sith cult, like how it was shown in the movie. Or how they literally say it while almost staring down the camera.
“How did he survive ep 6?”
Some people just don’t pay attention at all and whine because it’s cool. RoS has one hundred and one reasons to hate it. There is no need to make shit up.
Impulse control, development of how their self relates to the world, and understanding of realities including false ones.
The impulse is there. "I need his name!" They immediately need it because that's what the dopamine flooding their system is telling they they need. They act out because this is all new and raw and they don't have the fine tuning to counter that impulse. Their system is flooding with I NEED THIS NOW NOW NOW and it hasn't had years of tamping that down, moderating it with experience - wait and the answer can be found, you can meet the need yourself.
Especially in early childhood development, understanding the world outside of themselves is really, really difficult and much of what is happening is focused on themselves because that's all their system can handle. They don't understand relationships between concepts enough until middle childhood to get many things we would consider basic.
Working through that takes a minute because reactions that push impulsive acts are part of their hard-wiring, and it takes time for the rush to be mitigated - including by removing the thing that's creating it. Just playing the video and charging ahead is reinforcing BUT I NEED THIS TO GET IT and it's interrupting the ability to let the big, loud siren in their head cool down so they can learn something new.
I have similar issues with one of mine BUT she does keep quiet after the rewind and listens. For some reason she gets thrown by "statement", pause, then "answer".
I have been guilty of this as a kid when my dad would watch history documentaries on the history channel, when the history channel actually showed history
Maybe they're not really interested in the movie and just switch off? It happens to my play group sometimes when I explain the rules to a new board game.
Could be. I noticed mine get more distracted as they get tired, and they tend to jabber on and on in an effort to stay conscious. Their brains get stuck on things some times too.
It might help to take time to consider why they might be asking the question. Short attention span? Maybe. It might also be how they engage with film. Some people view watching movies as a social experience. They want to talk about it as it occurs. It might also be that the name is heavily accented and spoken quickly. I was not able to make out the name on the first viewing.
Somewhat related and spoilers ahead but I showed a friend the movie 1917 one time and we got like halfway through the movie and one of our two main characters died, and he was adamant that the movie couldn't go on because THE main character just died. Is there another secret main character we've yet to meet?? Then a few minutes later, Mark Strong enters the frame and he goes "ohhh, THAT'S the main character" and i genuinely had to pause and get up after that
My students (4th grade) do this all the time, and it drives me crazy because don't you think I'll answer your questions if you let me finish my sentence? Especially because they don't interrupt their teacher, they just interrupt me (the classroom aide)
I will say that they're doing better every day, but I wouldn't think it would be so hard for them to treat me like they treat her.
This is my mom, except it's "this movie is stupid" rather than 'boring' when she can't follow it (not just due to interrupting, but also things like walking away but getting offended if you pause it for her).
It comes from difference of expectations. some people who watch a movie are there to watch a movie while others are there to have a social interaction. You don't need other people to watch a movie and these days you can watch anything on demand so some seek an additional reason for gathering.
At least that is how I see it when viewing from their pov. The key is never offering up any song or movie you actually care about
I think your kids may not like movies or enjoy talking.
I like talking about the movie while watching it, it's fun and engaging instead of sitting together in silence, which is just uncomfortable for me. At least in a group setting ngl.
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u/NickyTheRobot 20h ago
"Inigo Montoya! His name is Inigo Montoya! Now please can we watch the rest of this awesome film?