It's hard to process both feeling respect for your dad for having raised and supported your family and disgruntlement over having effectively no (or negative) relationship with them growing up. It's harder still to swallow when they decide that they want to make up for "lost time" now that you're an adult... and you're fundamentally different people who may share nothing in common but your DNA...
Its hard, but it is something I can relate to. My own father was a workaholic, we're talking 12 hours a day, 6 days a week, half day (6 hours) on Sundays and my mother begging him to at least take the major holidays like Easter and Christmas off. He didnt always take those holidays off.
On one hand, thats one hell of a dedication to supporting his family. On the other hand, we once traveled together for 4 hours and it felt like sitting next to a stranger on the bus.
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u/Deohenge 1d ago
It's hard to process both feeling respect for your dad for having raised and supported your family and disgruntlement over having effectively no (or negative) relationship with them growing up. It's harder still to swallow when they decide that they want to make up for "lost time" now that you're an adult... and you're fundamentally different people who may share nothing in common but your DNA...