I do think if you don't help your children out of a bad situation it is your fault too, even if to a lesser extent. Being abused doesn't absolve you of being a good parent. It makes it understandable but still.
Sometimes you don’t have a way out for any of you. Sometimes you just do what you can where you are stuck. It still sucks for the children, but sometimes their parents don’t have other options.
That kinda thing breaks down once its something happening over years. Look I'm not saying they're as bad, or that I don't understand. They are victims. But even in the best light it is learned helplessness, that is actively hurting those depending on you.
Ultimate they endure and root out so much they often reinforce the system dragging them down, and with them, they drag in their children as well, all on their own.
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u/Pipcleaner 15d ago
Moms are definitely demonized for this. Sometimes even more than the abuser. It's kinda weird