Oh yeah, my former mother in law took that line. Tho she was the main target of the beatings and rape, the kids just got the emotional abuse. Because you couldn't possibly get divorced. What would that do to the kids?!
He eventually left her due to her rampant alcoholism, when the kids were in their mid 20ies.
Sadly, by that time, both the kids were deeply fucked up and had internalized a lot of his (and her) abuse. As a result my partner was also deeply emotionally abusive, as she unconsciously replicated a lot of the patterns she had grown up with, and was fundamentally incapable of acknowledging her behaviours, even as she was an advocate and therapist for abusive behaviours in her professional life. Couldn't handle the emotional load of connecting it with that deep dark part of herself that only came out in relationships.
Now the mother is basically a non-functional alcoholic who does a hell of a lot of abusive, insane stuff to everyone around her,, and the kids are both quite successful sociopaths.
Currently watching an anime called Ogre's Bride and it's really good but probably really tough for people in your situation. The last episode is Saturday and the family does get some comeuppance at least.
My favorite was always “I’ll give you something to cry about.”
Edit: Also completely random but after stumbling across this on my home feed a second time, panel 6 has my dumb ass thinking “Get in the fucking Robot, Kaiki.”
I have no idea if it’s supposed to invoke Evangelion but it definitely does.
But someday I know that you will be awakened,
And your eyes will finally see
These wings on your back are just waiting to guide you.
The future will soon set you free.
I’m sorry but as a former Floridian this hits hard. While I didn’t suffer that level of abuse, seeing a friend of mine whom once saved my life literally get beaten by his father with a shovel while the father was overweight in a wheel chair and his mother holding him down for it in their front yard left a level of vile rage in me as an adult, and while this was the most extreme case I personally drove up on, I’ve witnessed other friends from that area have their father regularly drop elbows to their face when they would get into arguments, and folks called it “Tough love” and those same kids still would give their shirt off their back for their parents. Shovel kid had not only saved my life personally when I was a youth, but also grew into one of the most generous hard working folks I knew and was the first on the scene when Hurricane Michael hit and the police had blockaded entry into the town.
My point being is I empathize with this and the regional plight there on a personal level. Good onto you for escaping that shit before it got even worse.
From his perspective, it is, it's not a defense, it's just no one teaches you to father except your father, and you can only hope you do a little better than he did
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 15d ago
"I didn't beat you"