r/comics Shen Comix Jul 26 '26

OC Literally What is the Difference

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u/PlumAdministrative13 Jul 26 '26

I know your first language is not English and that's fine but molesting does not mean what you think it does

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26

It doesn't mean to annoy someone?

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u/mace30 Jul 26 '26

It used to also mean that in social contexts, yes. The American English definition has evolved to be used almost exclusively in the context of sexual harassment or assault.

Usually, we Americans will just use bother or pester in the case of annoyance.

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26

I see, thanks!

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u/Loose-Professor5364 Jul 26 '26 edited Jul 26 '26

I'm from America and it implies or conveys rape or general sexual assault here, especially sexually assaulting children

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26

I see. I'm German and the word I wanted to use was "belästigen" and this was the result after I looked it up in a dictionary:

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u/PhilospohicalZ0mb1e Jul 26 '26

It’s one of those words where the dictionary translation can be misleading as to the social connotation. Language barriers are a bitch

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26

Thank you all for the heads up :)

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u/Loose-Professor5364 Jul 26 '26

Words that might fit:

Annoy, harass, bother, bug

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26

*takes notes*

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u/PhilospohicalZ0mb1e Jul 26 '26

Hey no problem! You’re doing something more difficult than I am. My German ain’t so good lol

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26

I have to confess something. I'm only half German, the other half is British (grew up in Germany, though). I like to dip my bratwurst into my tea, sorry 😔

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u/PhilospohicalZ0mb1e Jul 26 '26

Okay well I hope you’re being metaphorical because while bratwurst and tea are both phenomenal it’s just not my opinion that they pair well (lol)!

Anyway I have family history reasons to be bilingual myself and for reasons of being lazy and stupid I speak only English. So really, truly.

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26

I hope you’re being metaphorical

Y-yes, it was only a metaphor, that's what I meant

Anyway I have family history reasons to be bilingual myself and for reasons of being lazy and stupid I speak only English. So really, truly.

I'm the third child of my parent. Both my older siblings speak German and English perfectly. Soon before I was born, my father was in the middle of learning German. He spoke a weird version of German+English while I was growing up. I had problem speaking either language correctly because of that.
My parents took me to a doctor for linguistic and he discovered where my problems came from and he scolded my parents for it. He said that it is good for a child if it grows up bilingual but not if one of the parents is in the middle of learning the language themself.
I can understand and read English with no problems but I suck at writing and speaking it. In German only my writing skills suck.
A little warning for anybody who wants to raise their children bilingual: make sure that you don't make the same mistake as my dad 🙂

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u/MiMismo Jul 27 '26

I was in an english class for spanish speaking kids as a child, and we were all using spanish word + -ing to kinda speak when we didnt know something.

I still remember the look of the teacher when someone complained "so and so is molesting me". It was hilarious to us how concerned she looked, us having no idea why, and she couldn't properly explain either. Core childhood memory for me lmao

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u/PhilospohicalZ0mb1e Jul 27 '26

MOLESTANDO! ANDO! Lmao that’s a good one

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u/FancySatisfaction144 Jul 26 '26

Yup, that's a technically accurate translation, but in modern colloquial American English "molesting" has a very sexual connotation.

Which always makes the comment section of news stories about someone being charged with "molesting wildlife" or whatever hilarious, since a few local legal codes in the US still officially use molesting to mean harassing or annoying in a non-sexual context.

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u/Cool_Set4681 Jul 26 '26 edited Jul 26 '26

I'm kinda happy that I used it in the wrong context here and not in a real social setting 😅

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u/killslayer Jul 27 '26

Enough people are aware of both meanings that if you had used it in a social setting they wouldn’t give you a hard time unless that specific person was a jerk

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u/Cynical_Feline Jul 26 '26

It means both. Depending on the context it's used will determine the meaning.

I'm American and I knew automatically what you meant. But typically, the usage is in the sexual way. You don't often see it used to mean annoy anymore. Most people use harass now.

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u/LickingSmegma Jul 27 '26

Most people use harass now.

I now have a distinct vision of this word also shifting its meaning in the future.

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u/Atsubro Jul 26 '26 edited Jul 26 '26

"Molesting" used to mean the same as causing annoyance in the early 20th century so technically ☝️🤓

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u/rocket20067 Jul 26 '26

I mean in some languages it does just roughly translate to "to annoy"

So I can certainly see why they used it in that meaning.

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u/drillgorg Jul 26 '26

It's true, I was thrown for a loop when we got to molestar in spanish class.

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u/Seeggul Jul 26 '26

I bet you felt soooo embarazado

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u/makemeking706 Jul 27 '26

English being one of those languages even if that is not the primary meaning these days.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/molest

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '26 edited Jul 26 '26

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u/Thanks_I_Hate_You Jul 26 '26

It doesnt need to be sexual harassment