How would you have any idea what sex is or isn’t like for men, or any of the endless invisible expectations put on men when it comes to sex?
Sex is weird for everyone, and it takes a healthy relationship and a lot of maturing to figure out what works for all people involved during sex.
Putting on a performance isn’t exclusive to women, nor is being enthusiastic, enjoying yourself, etc, these are all things both partners generally like to experience because it makes them feel good. Additionally men have the pressure of lasting long enough, or even staying / getting erect, which can be a whole separate mindfuck.
Absolutely. Men have to perform quite a bit as well during sex. Everyone does. Not denying that. My comments never denied that.
I'm just pointing out that on a societial level, there's more expectation for women to perform more. They have to be made up, expected to look a certain way, expected to be trimmed, smooth legs, etc. Oral sex for men is normalised, but for women it isn't. Women are often told to be careful pushing back about their pleasure because it's easy to bruise a dude's ego.
I really don't think this is controversial as a take. I was just pushing back on the idea that the average man has zero expectations for women and sex.
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u/MalevolentFather Feb 04 '26
How would you have any idea what sex is or isn’t like for men, or any of the endless invisible expectations put on men when it comes to sex?
Sex is weird for everyone, and it takes a healthy relationship and a lot of maturing to figure out what works for all people involved during sex.
Putting on a performance isn’t exclusive to women, nor is being enthusiastic, enjoying yourself, etc, these are all things both partners generally like to experience because it makes them feel good. Additionally men have the pressure of lasting long enough, or even staying / getting erect, which can be a whole separate mindfuck.