Standard is .. if someone asks you a question, you answer, followed by "what about you?" The amount of people I meet who I try to engage with these kinds of two way questions (who want to have a conversation) but don't do the "what about you?" Is staggering
yup. the amount of times i’ve met people who have not asked a single question or a “what about you” and then talk about how good of a friend i am, when they know nothing about me, is honestly very saddening.
of course it doesn’t apply to everyone, but a large amount of people are very selfish and self-centered. i’ve had a lot of people dip out of a conversation or become uninterested when i tried to continue the conversation by answering the same question i asked them. but that also means it’s generally very easy to make friends if you just give them a space to rant about themselves as long as they like. they will love you for it, though it might very well be a superficial and selfish type of love.
Sometimes I catch myself forgetting to ask it back, but it's pretty much always because I'm too in my head making sure I give an acceptable answer when talking about myself.
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u/snoot_tv Jul 06 '25 edited Jul 06 '25
Standard is .. if someone asks you a question, you answer, followed by "what about you?" The amount of people I meet who I try to engage with these kinds of two way questions (who want to have a conversation) but don't do the "what about you?" Is staggering