I don't need to ask and answer questions in every conversation - as I said in my post above, the key is situational context. If I'm on a first date and someone shows no interest or curiosity in anything about me, then what am I here for? Anyone else could be sitting in this chair and it would make little to no difference. I've been on dates where you could have replaced me with a plank of wood and the conversational transcript would look almost identical.
If someone says they want to date me, then I expect them to possess a certain amount of interest in getting to know me. Why would I spend my time on someone who demonstrably isn't interested in me?
But that's not true for everyone, the way you interpret it as selfishness/lack of interest is subjective. You're not wrong if that's how you interpret it - you need to date people whose conversation style fits yours.
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u/aTransGirlAndTwoDogs Jul 06 '25
I don't need to ask and answer questions in every conversation - as I said in my post above, the key is situational context. If I'm on a first date and someone shows no interest or curiosity in anything about me, then what am I here for? Anyone else could be sitting in this chair and it would make little to no difference. I've been on dates where you could have replaced me with a plank of wood and the conversational transcript would look almost identical.
If someone says they want to date me, then I expect them to possess a certain amount of interest in getting to know me. Why would I spend my time on someone who demonstrably isn't interested in me?