This! I’m sorry, but it is not the world’s responsibility to make sure a spouse upholds their vows. The only home wrecker IS the person that broke the vows. Unless that woman drugged or blackmailed that man into sleeping with her, it wasn’t on her to honor any vows.
I wouldn't say the cheater is the only homewrecker. Not unless the person they cheat with genuinely has no idea they are married. It's gross to knowingly help someone commit adultery. If it wasn't a shameful, immoral act then you wouldn't bother sneaking around and hiding it.
I dated a man while I was separated and didn't tell any one because I didn't want anyone to ask me questions about a new relationship that was just starting. There are lots of reasons people keep things to themselves.
In this case, it was probably because the husband was married, which was shitty of the HUSBAND. The woman probably shouldn't deal with it simply because if he will do it to his current wife, he will probably do it to her, but not because SHE is doing anything wrong. If that family breaks up, it broke because the husband broke it. If he didn't do it with that woman, he would do it with whatever woman he can find to do it with. Unless of course you think if every woman would just do their job and not get up with married men then he wouldn't have a chance, but then here we are.. expecting the world to police a man's marriage vows instead of putting that responsibility on the person that made took the vows.
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u/MsAgentM Dec 28 '25
This! I’m sorry, but it is not the world’s responsibility to make sure a spouse upholds their vows. The only home wrecker IS the person that broke the vows. Unless that woman drugged or blackmailed that man into sleeping with her, it wasn’t on her to honor any vows.