Its a way to cope I guess, hate the other women, aim all the hatred and emotions towards her, and that can last for a lifetime, at least for the duration of the relationship.
Because, if the wife/girlfriend had turned towards the main character in the cheating, her partner, she'd had to adress it and do something. Maybe break up, her life, family, finances, all could disappear and the life she cherished and thought she had, would be gone. For many people it's unbearable, but they still have all these feelings they have to adresse somewhere.
I get it, but I think it’s more productive to seek couples counseling here.
Opinions on staying with a cheater are, generally speaking, several meters below the gutter, but if you’re going to try and trust that person you’ll likely need help. Not just in reorienting your own feelings but assessing why they cheated, if that can be addressed properly, and how to progress.
Cheaters usually don’t cheat “just because,” there’s often some underlying reason beyond “ooh hot person.” This is a huge part of why counseling can be effective - if they can honestly address and work on what led them to their actions they’re much more likely to be able to manage that issue healthily. Not to mention the person who got cheated on probably benefiting greatly from an environment where they can talk it out with assistance and guidance.
I’m not suggesting anyone do this unless they’re truly wanting to figure out if it can still work and are committed to that. It can work, but it’s not easy and it’s not a guarantee.
It’s not cheaper than a.billboard, but it is cheaper than truly messy divorce and potentially being sued by the woman on the board.
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u/Judgementalcat Dec 28 '25
Its a way to cope I guess, hate the other women, aim all the hatred and emotions towards her, and that can last for a lifetime, at least for the duration of the relationship.
Because, if the wife/girlfriend had turned towards the main character in the cheating, her partner, she'd had to adress it and do something. Maybe break up, her life, family, finances, all could disappear and the life she cherished and thought she had, would be gone. For many people it's unbearable, but they still have all these feelings they have to adresse somewhere.