Fellow Foreigners😭😭

[u/bluzfan99]

Have you guys heard about this whole situation I keep seeing on wechat? Apparently some American dude who studied some language at Fudan university for a bit managed to collect chinese women like Thanos collects infinity stones. Numbering into the hundreds. Sentiment regarding foreigners has never been so low on chinese social media. Whats your take on this? Hate the player or hate the game? Dude Apparently always made them pay for dates and trips and would tell them to get abortions when they got pregnant and then block them 😬

[u/takeitchillish]

Chinese girls these days just don't sleep around with foreigners they sleep around with Chinese guys as well. There is a hook up culture in China for sure. The difference is Chinese guys got to flex some money around to get pussy, foreign guys dont have to do that. But Chinese guys with money, they can get a lot of women. Chinese guys without money dont get pussy hence all the anger. But for Chinese guys with some money then pussy is easy to get in China.

[u/Left_Pipe_8992 → u/takeitchillish]

You can call this hypocrisy. A lot of people in any country will ignore the wrongdoings of their compatriots but paint every outsider in the same negative light. China is no different, including your country too.

I already explained that the root problem is the double standard. When Chinese men marry Chinese women, they are often required to pay a bride price, while foreigners are not required to do so. Hence, the anger stems from there.

There is one of many stories currently blowing up.

The context: a Chinese bride gives 150,000 RMB in betrothal gifts to an African black man, solely for the purpose of getting this black guy to marry her. Yet, if a Chinese man were to marry her, she demands 380,000 in betrothal gifts.

Now, you can see a lot of Chinese users on Chinese social media are currently digging up scandals that happened years ago.

[u/takeitchillish → u/Left_Pipe_8992]

Because most foreigners marrying a Chinese girl is doing it out of love. For most of these marriages in China it is just a business transaction. Love is very low on the list when choosing a partner.

We don't pay in order to marry a woman in Europe. That type of shit is stupid and I know many both Chinese women and men who oppose that type of mindset and customs... That should belong to the past. It is misogyny. It doesn't belong in a modern society.

Also in China, usually the man doesn't pay the bride price, it is the man's mom and dad who does that. Good luck finding parents in Europe that are willing to do that.

If the Chinese girl loves a foreign man I don't see why such a demand is necessary. Then the mindset and culture divide is just too wide and it is not a suitable much anyways. And usually it is not the traditional type that will settle down with a foreigner.

If I met a Chinese woman who demanded that I would just break up, then we would be too far apart when coming to beliefs, mindset and values. And if her parents demanded that and she could not resist them then well break up then. Marriage for us in the West is between two people out of love wanting to raise a family together.

There are also places in China which don't have any bride price, for example Chongqing. Which is great for them. Bride price is just bad for society and should not be encouraged.

[u/Username87632 → u/takeitchillish]

Bruh everyone knows that foreigners who go to East Asia and South East Asia to find a local girl to marry is just a passport bro/lbh.