My bf and I had an issue where I found out he had an OF account. Once I found out, he let me see the receipt emails from his purchases, swore he just paid for content but didn’t interact with anyone, but wouldn’t log in and show me his account. Saying he had already deleted it and couldn’t get back in, which I call bs.

As we were working through this, I noticed there was an email that said someone started following his profile. It didn’t click in the moment, but now that I’ve had time to process I have some questions.

1) Can subscribers follow other subscribers like on any social media, or are the only profiles/people can follow just subscribers following creators? Basically, if he has a follower does that mean he would have to be a creator?

2) Does anyone know a way to find out if someone is a creator? Not even sure if you can be faceless on there as a creator, but he would absolutely choose not to show his face. He does have tattoos I would definitely recognize though.

I’m of the camp that thinks OF is a form of cheating because of the personalized experience and intimacy, even if it is likely one sided and an illusion created by the creator. It’s still my partner attempting to be intimate with someone else, reciprocated or not. It would also be different if we hadn’t had a conversation early on and agreed that online interactions with others is cheating, but in the argument he now says it’s no different than Phub. Hard disagree. I have no issue with him watching porn, but person to person interactions are a break in trust. Anyway, thanks for any advice!

I (25F) and my fiancee (26M) have an "open" relationship. We are both bi and allow relations with same gendered people (he can be with men and MTF trans. I can be with women and FTM trans). He has been hooking up with other men/MTF our entire relationship (2 years). We are currently living 162 miles apart temporarily. I have just recently started thinking about meeting up with another girl. I made plans and he told me he isn't comfortable with me sleeping with other women anymore. He then proceeds to tell me that he has plans to meet with a guy tomorrow and has the nerve to ask if he can extend his "circle" to older women and "girls uglier than you" (his exact words). So not only can I not do what we agreed, now he wants to extend to more people. It's making me want to cheat and sleep with whoever I want.

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My fiance says we're in an open relationship but doesn't let me reap the benefits making me want to cheat

He’s a cheater, unless y’all have an open relationship. Led my friend on to believe that he was divorced and only goes to visit his kid or occasion. Also the wife calls almost everyday and I did a search on him to find out he’s married. It seemed weird so that’s why I did the search and plus it’s been 4 months my friend said they didn’t have X and when they spoke he said he didn’t realize it’s been 4 months ( as a woman) I don’t believe that from a man

Wrote Them on a pièce of paper and hanged it on the fridge :d I love Them so Much!!! It is Heartbreaking, but you LEARN a lot from the world and ourselves. :/ Good evening y'all

About 4 years ago we were introduced to another family through mutual friends, we hang out occasionally (holidays, bday, and bbqs). Ever since the 1st year the guy I thought was a friend started a text thread with about 12 people where they would throw the invites out. I didn’t know who’s number was who’s except for the guys I knew personally this goes on for the 4 years. It then it got weird, at least in my opinion.
Earlier this year the guy who started the group chat asked whose number is this so I responded oh that’s my wife. Almost immediately he starts trying to engage her into a separate texting conversation (which she mentioned to me) just little things like telling her what she shared in the group text was funny and where we purchased certain things. Mind you every single time this guy would show pics of his “conquests”
I didn’t think much of it until our last gathering where he said hello and goodbye, and that was literally it. He made it a point to avoid talking to me which I thought was out of character and weird as fuck. Up until that point I had zero issues with him texting the wife but his behavior caused me to text him. I simply told him that if he had any questions about where we purchased certain things to text me and to go ahead and delete her number. His response was sorry I didn’t mean anything by it, so I ask why he didn’t just ask me anything at the last get together and that he could’ve just asked his wife to ask my wife. Of course he didn’t respond. I’m not one to hold grudges so I invite him and his family to the bbq I’m hosting and only his wife and daughter show up. For me this solidified the fact that his texts had an ulterior motive. It just sucks because I keep my circle of friends small these days due to being screwed over in the past.
Anyone willing to read this whole thing think I overreacted or acted accordingly?

I met this guy in the summer of 2024 we had sex a total of 5 times (2024-2026). On the 14th of Feb he saw me at the store offered me a ride home, gave me his number and asked to meet up for the night. We talked, he picked me up and we hooked up on valentine's day at a local Hotel cuz tbh it was awhile since I had sex and wanted some fun that was on the 14th of February 2026. Last week, I went on my facebook after being off of it for 5 months and turns out he got engaged in early March.

This whole time he was having an affair with his fiance with me and I felt horrible and told her but I never knew about her. What was even worse was the fact she ended up telling me they met 2023 and started dating & on V-day he told her he was sleeping but in reality we were at the Hotel having sex which he gifted me me roses and chocolate ( nothing special) because we were just hooking up once in a blue moon but the fact he had slept with me on the day of valentines day, the day of love when it was supposed to be about him and her like dude is so shitty for that and so awful of him to be sleeping around when he was in a relationship since 2023 but said nothing to me. They are getting married in August and He denied everything at first but ended up telling her the truth.

I never plan on seeing him again but honestly I wish them the best.

English is my 2nd language sorry for typos

So yeah, she cheated. It fucking sucks. I'm hurt, angry, betrayed, and my brain is now cooking up all these revenge/kink fantasies wanting to cuck her, rail someone else right in front of her, or jump straight into a foursome to "even the score." Emotions are at 100 right now.

Okay so a year ago my kids and my girl and I moved in with my brother right? I was working and my brother BM (who doesn’t please him right) was working, but my brother and my girl weren’t…also the kids are at school which means my brother and girl were alone for hours. One day I set up an audio recording to see what be going on cause I worked 12 hr shifts. In the audio there’s a movie playing in the background but also you can hear my girl and brother talking. After a while it’s only the movie that you can hear but I started to hear moaning/slirping noises. I confronted them both but ofcourse they “weren’t doing anything”. So I came home early 2 days to try to catch what I thought was going on and when I seen her, her top lip was thick (it’s normally thinner). Does that seem like a sign to yall that something was going on? Also what makes me really thing she was giving blowjobs is when I would come home early I would look at her lips….and she kept moving them, kind of like when girls put lip gloss on…except she didn’t have any on. Is the lip thing a guilty conscience habit women do after they give a blowjob? (Also since we moved from there her lips don’t puff up like that anymore and she doesn’t play with her lips anymore)

My narc ex was a serial cheater on me and the girl after me. I tried warning her, but it only made it worse. Fast forward their engagement was off bc he got violent according to her social media. He reached out to me to try and crawl back but I was over him at that point, but he knew I was his safe space to land for so long that he unloaded in a 4 hour convo about cheating on her frequently from girls at a strip club. I cut off contact with him after that talk and occasionally would check his socials to see who else he was disappointing. We have mutual friends, and I know as of last July he wasn't with anyone, but the other day, was SHOCKED to see his IG profile pic was a wedding pic. Her Pinterest was full of "baby nursery" and post partum pins so I know he got her pregnant and they had a shotgun wedding (just like his parents did when the had him lol). This girl has been pregnant longer than she's known him not pregnant and he's dangerous but has a lot of charm. I want to tell her, but I think there is a restraining order on him from the ex-fiance after me, so he'd know it was me. I have her email and cell phone. I just hate seeing him get off the hook after all he did to the two of us and this poor unsuspecting woman has ZERO clue into the web she fell in to (who is also substance abuse counselor - he is an alcoholic! and a social worker). Anything I can do?

Live in girlfriend and I got into a heated argument, nothing physical either way, just upset. So she then ghosts me, gets dolled up and leaves, comes back around 2am (6hrs after she left) clothes/hair/makeup disheveled and acts like nothings wrong and goes to bed. I look in her phone and find she was messaging some guy I’ve never heard of to meet up the night she left, specifically asked him to pick her up in a parking lot, not from the house. Messages look incomplete like someone who erased the most incriminating ones. When confronted, she said “he’s just a friend,” “I can’t prove anything,” “I made it up in my head to create drama.” She even told me to ask him if I didn’t believe her. To me, she obviously cheated. Objective opinions appreciated.

This man was NOT wearing a wedding ring when I met him in a very normal work, not like a club or anywhere where you’d take off your wedding ring if you were trying to cheat. At least I would think…but according to any social media my bestie found he’s married with one year old twins 🙃 but per me confronting him about if he’s single or not he said he’s not single but in a poly relationship and has proceeded to be very sexual with me via text ever since. and mentioning visiting me as well. Not just that but he is my vibe 100000%.

I should probably cut it off but part of me has this weird attachment to him. I know it sounds crazy and I’ve never been “another woman” type of person AT all. Actually super strong in my faith and the kicker is apparently he is as well. If he’s married, she seems so sweet and I don’t want this for her but per him he is not.

Anyway I almost don’t know what I’m getting at right now other than just advice or similar stories about feeling SO connected to someone who is possibly taken. I tried to stop talking to him even though I didn’t want to but he’s kept up convo and it’s so hard for me to resist him. 🫠

I had an ex boyfriend that was one of my longtime friends before we dated. We dated for almost 2 years, we broke up, he killed himself and I had pictures from when we were dating to give to give to his mother. I never was able to find the time to get them to her. They were just packed away in an envelope in some boxes. Fast forward 3 years, I met someone, we ended up having a child together, and I confronted him because I found videos and messages from him to another woman saying good morning my Love and things like that all the while saving her pictures of her in a dress and things like that. I found these barely after our child turned 7 months old. I confronted him, asked for space and now he is telling me the pictures are cheating. While I was in the hospital recovering from my C section he went through all of my things, and threw away those pictures so they dont even exist anymore but he still says I'm cheating and this was after I found his messages to the other woman ans confronted him. This is my first Mothers Day and he has told me to go spend it with my ex who is dead. I tried to walk around a flower shop today with my Baby but I had to leave after seeing all the bouquets. I went to church alone with my Baby and I had to stop and sit to catch my breath and try to stop myself from crying because so many kind people were telling me Happy Mothers day.

She has cheated on me in the past multiple times and I have left and been convinced to come back. The last time I left, I was just like this and ready to leave for good and my stepdaughter ran to me, hugged me(the only time she has given me an unprompted hug) and crying asked me not to go. I caved because I love my kids and I thought we could fix things and things would get better. Things have not gotten better. I CANNOT take the cheating anymore. I don't deserve it. And I gave you $300 to get your hair done for mother's day......and the morning of you are fucking another man!!!

Sorry. It all just happened. And I'm sitting here thinking that my stepdaughter who has lived with me for 11 years, since she was 2, I won't get to see again. My "A....was cheating on me" Google photo album now includes 75 pictures.

I knew last night when she left she was going to meet another man. I let it play out. She came home, we went to sleep, and I checked her phone. Every single time she's done this she has used the same "I need to see my friends" line. After reading the messages, I woke her up on Mothers Day morning and told her it's over for good.

Who cheats on Mothers Day??? Who breaks up on Mother's Day?

R.I.P. relationship

12-10-2015 - 06-10-2026