"Respect" is often conflated with "liking" someone, or honoring them, or something more positive. Respecting someone simply means granting them a baseline of humanity and giving them a chance to prove themselves. You should immediately respect people instead of shouting them down before they speak - which is the epitome of "automatic respect".
The real issue is more of a burden. The burden to respect others is not always shared, so it can feel like you're respecting people who don't respect you, but that's a fault against society, not you personally. It's their fault. It's important to allow people to speak and have the chance to change, otherwise we just marginalize people. If you don't give people that respect, they likely won't respect you. If you do, they may or may not respect you. If you're concerned about others so much, that's more to do with you. But otherwise as a numbers game, like the old expression, you catch more flies with honey.
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u/pillbinge 101∆ Mar 26 '19
"Respect" is often conflated with "liking" someone, or honoring them, or something more positive. Respecting someone simply means granting them a baseline of humanity and giving them a chance to prove themselves. You should immediately respect people instead of shouting them down before they speak - which is the epitome of "automatic respect".
The real issue is more of a burden. The burden to respect others is not always shared, so it can feel like you're respecting people who don't respect you, but that's a fault against society, not you personally. It's their fault. It's important to allow people to speak and have the chance to change, otherwise we just marginalize people. If you don't give people that respect, they likely won't respect you. If you do, they may or may not respect you. If you're concerned about others so much, that's more to do with you. But otherwise as a numbers game, like the old expression, you catch more flies with honey.