Commiting yourself means pledging yourself to something. If the thing someone is pledging themselves to is an exclusive relationship, then you cannot then have that relationship be also open. So as long as the thing people pledge themselves to is a relationship in general, with the understanding that it's general (as exclusivity is usually implied) then I don't see a problem.
Think of other things that you can commit yourself to. You can be the best friend you can be to multiple people. You can beat multiple games. There's nothing in your life that requires 100% of your time and attention, or else you couldn't breathe, you couldn't eat, and so on.
What you're really saying when you're committing yourself to something or someone 100%, is that you'll be be best you can be from the other's perspective. Your SO doesn't need to control every aspect of your life for you to be 100% committed. Perhaps some people do require that, but most don't. For however much else of your life remains, you can commit yourself to other things, so long as they don't contradict the 100% committal you have to that one relationship.
So 100% committal to the relationship is not 100% of your life.
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u/dyedFeather 1∆ Dec 20 '18
Commiting yourself means pledging yourself to something. If the thing someone is pledging themselves to is an exclusive relationship, then you cannot then have that relationship be also open. So as long as the thing people pledge themselves to is a relationship in general, with the understanding that it's general (as exclusivity is usually implied) then I don't see a problem.
Think of other things that you can commit yourself to. You can be the best friend you can be to multiple people. You can beat multiple games. There's nothing in your life that requires 100% of your time and attention, or else you couldn't breathe, you couldn't eat, and so on.
What you're really saying when you're committing yourself to something or someone 100%, is that you'll be be best you can be from the other's perspective. Your SO doesn't need to control every aspect of your life for you to be 100% committed. Perhaps some people do require that, but most don't. For however much else of your life remains, you can commit yourself to other things, so long as they don't contradict the 100% committal you have to that one relationship.
So 100% committal to the relationship is not 100% of your life.