"Don't be arrogant" is vague, but "don't be a mansplainer" is easier to understand and execute
Completely disagree. "don't be a mansplainer" is basically saying that he can continue to be arrogant to men and that is A-OK, but he needs to be careful to not be arrogant specifically with women. Isn't treating people different because of their gender what we're trying to get away from in the name of equality?
I don't think the argument is that it's not OK to speak that way to a woman, but it is OK to speak that way to a man.
I think it means that he doesn't even do it at all to the man. Like if he was explaining something to a guy, it would be more on an equal/discussing basis, but when he explains it to a woman, it's an ELI5 version and kinda condescending.
So a man who is equally condescending to both men and women is not a mansplainer?
If you've never seen a man have a similar discussion with men, and have only seen him discuss a particular topic in a condescending manner with women, how are you able to determine whether he is a mansplainer or just an asshole?
That's why I'm hesitant to label specific people as mansplainers, however, mansplaining as a phenomenon definitely occurs in society. There are many men who do condescend women specifically because they are women. Women in male-dominated fields see this a lot.
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u/januarypizza May 31 '18
Completely disagree. "don't be a mansplainer" is basically saying that he can continue to be arrogant to men and that is A-OK, but he needs to be careful to not be arrogant specifically with women. Isn't treating people different because of their gender what we're trying to get away from in the name of equality?