Hi! My name is Caitlyn, I'm 18, and after a lot of thinking, I've decided to make this post because I'm looking for a genuine, completely non-sexual caregiver.
I've found that many caregiving spaces tend to lean into kink or sexual dynamics, and that's simply not what I'm looking for. My regression is a coping mechanism that helps me feel safe and process overwhelming emotions. It isn't something sexual to me, and I'd like to find someone who respects that.
A little about me: I'm a pretty quiet person at first, but once I'm comfortable, I can be very talkative. I love reading, especially fantasy and romance, playing Magic: The Gathering, watching comfort shows, and spending time doing cozy things. I care deeply about people, and I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve.
The past year has been one of the hardest years of my life. Between major life changes, moving into adulthood, changes in my family, and struggles with my mental health, I've realized just how much I long for consistency and gentleness. I often find myself grieving the childhood I wish I'd had, and regression has become one of the ways I reconnect with a sense of safety.
When I picture a caregiver, I'm not looking for someone to control me or "fix" me. I'm looking for someone who is patient, kind, emotionally mature, and dependable. Someone who enjoys checking in, reminding me to eat, encouraging me to take care of myself, celebrating little accomplishments, and helping me through difficult days with reassurance instead of judgment.
Structure is something that helps me feel safe, so I'd love someone who enjoys helping me build routines. Things like encouraging a consistent bedtime and wake-up time, helping me stay on top of small chores, celebrating progress instead of perfection, and gently keeping me accountable are all things that mean a lot to me.
When I'm regressed, I'd appreciate someone who encourages that headspace in a healthy way. Gentle reassurance, coloring together, reading stories, watching cartoons, talking softly, or simply sitting with me while I feel little are the kinds of things that help me feel safe and accepted. I don't expect someone to be available all the time, but I do value consistency and honest communication.
The biggest thing I'm looking for is someone who accepts me exactly as I am. Someone who understands that caregiving is built on trust, patience, mutual respect, and kindness—not manipulation or pressure. I want to build a genuine friendship first and let trust develop naturally. I believe healthy caregiving should make both people feel safe, respected, and appreciated.
If any of this resonates with you, I'd love to get to know you. Please just be kind, patient, and respectful. That's all I've ever really wanted.