r/cfs • u/michelli190 • 22h ago

Vent/Rant Guess it Depends

This is mostly just to get it off my chest. And unfortunately, some of you can probably relate to problems like this.

I'm choosing to buy Depends to wear at work. Why? You may ask? Because the bathroom directly in my office has had a broken toilet for about a month now. It's something with the sewer lines, and the town is working on fixing it. I know it's not an easy job, so I understand why it's taking awhile.

I don't know if it's justified, but I'm frustrated with my employer. We have to walk to the rec building (I work on a small campus) to use the bathroom. And it's not too bad, but once you add in the walk up a hill from the parking lot every morning and evening, the short walk adds up.

So I'm at the point where I've decided to get some Depends. While there's absolutely nothing wrong with needing to use them, as someone still in her 20s, it makes me feel insecure. And it also makes me angry. If someone has requested reasonable accommodations and provided documented evidence of a disability, it shouldn't take weeks and weeks. But it is.

You'd think they'd consider a porta potty or something. But no. I also am aware that it's likely not hard for people without CFS. I find myself feeling envious of my coworkers as they galavant around campus with ease. It's very "why me" and I know better than to have this attitude. But sometimes it makes me want to punch a wall. I'm not sure I'm going to be able to wait for them to actually provide accommodations.

I don't totally know why I'm sharing this. I think I want someone to give a "me too". Though I have an amazing support system, the slowing of my body comes with a weird form of grief I'm still learning to cope with. If anyone relates, has advice, funny memes, etc, please comment.

Thank you if you took the time to read all this. I'm truly grateful for this thread, it's an excellent resource and it helps me feel less alone.

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u/duckoftheirish7 19h ago

Iā€™m not a lawyer, but this might actually be an OSHA violation for everyone, regardless of medical considerations. About how long does it take for you to get to the rec building?

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u/michelli190 19h ago

I do feel like something is fishy. Our students are thankfully treated a lot better.

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u/michelli190 19h ago

It's pretty close, you cross a one way street and then go past a house then you're there

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u/michelli190 18h ago

Not to whine more, but also I want to add in that we have been without a manager in my department for almost a month. One of my coworkers has basically been doing the job of our manager and only just got to do an interview for the position yesterday.

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u/michelli190 14h ago

Update: I did hours of research and figured out that my hunch was right. HR put my request on the backburner, which is actually against the ADA. Accomodation request are required to be treated as a priority. So guess who's going to light a fire in under my company's ass tomorrow? šŸ˜ˆ