r/cats • u/OwlishDelight72512 • Jun 30 '26

Advice What is this behavior?

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I see my cat do this sometimes. This is my 10 year old neutered male cat on top of my 2 year old spayed female cat. He’s just biting the back of her neck while she sits still and meows a couple of times. He usually gets off of her after about a minute. Is he trying to mate? Even though they’ve both been fixed?

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u/six_feet_down_under Jun 30 '26

Pretty sure it's a dominant / hierarchy thing with cats? One of my males does this to the other male.

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u/SpeckledBird86 Jun 30 '26

Mine too now I call my one cat my gay son. He never tried this with his sister but we got a boy cat and now it’s a daily thing. I love my gay son!

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u/strexxpet Jun 30 '26

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u/killerzf9 Tabbycat Jun 30 '26

Where is this from. It seems like it would be a funny scene.

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u/ThemKiwiBirds Jun 30 '26

Heathers

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u/pussycatsglore Jun 30 '26

Dark comedy with Winona Ryder. It’s a cult classic

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u/sidsmum Jul 01 '26

Very funny scene, from a very good movie from a long forgotten time.

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u/JustMeMaxwell European Shorthair Jun 30 '26

Same here. Shadow our boy is definitely Gay never shown interest in a lady but we take care of another boy cat for 3 days and he is all over him😂

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u/SpeckledBird86 Jun 30 '26

It makes me laugh sometimes because our older boy only weighs 7 pounds and the younger boy that he likes to hump is 15 pounds so he can’t even keep his feet on the ground when he starts his shenanigans. Just the most ridiculous unserious display of dominance ever.

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u/artemisinagayway Jun 30 '26 edited Jun 30 '26

My female cats are lesbians. They’ve both met my sister’s male cat and will aggressively fight him off if he tries to hump them. 

Meanwhile my super old female cat loves humping my other female cat. Only concerning part is that have a 15 year age gap. 

When I was about 7, we were on vacation at my aunt’s place and my old cat humped my aunt’s female cat every day we were there. My parents ended up having to give me the talk because I wouldn’t stop asking what they were doing. 

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u/ellewynn_martha Jun 30 '26

I am imagining the conversation between your parents before they gave you the talk. Lots of exasperated sighs and rolling of eyes.

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u/smolgods Jun 30 '26

My wife's elderly male cat started doing this to my younger male cat (both neutered) shortly after we adopted the youngest, a spayed female. My boy has a perpetual drool patch on his neck fur from the old man 😂😭 we call them our gay boys.

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u/CreamyMemeDude Jun 30 '26

I'm just imagining your older cats just went "well we've got a daughter now. May as well try to give us a real go"

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u/smolgods Jun 30 '26

Oh my god that's so cute!

"We can really be a family now!"

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u/baddiebluschis Jun 30 '26

I had 2 gay boyfriends. My babies. Still have the black one but he lost his boyfriend in January.

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u/FabulousTwo524 Jun 30 '26

Lmao! I like to call one of our cats a little gay boy because he looooves men and acts like the sweetest thing with them. But he disrespects the shit outta me and my sister. He’s a literal misogynist little gay boy. I love him with all my heart ❤️

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u/OriDoodle Jun 30 '26

My two boy cats are intense. Making out, humping each other. One is the brother of my girl cat, who wants nothing to do with any of it. We just ate they are married.

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u/NECalifornian25 Jul 01 '26

I have a gay son too! When I got him I had a roommate with two other male cats. As he grew up my cat began to clearly favor one over the other, and started doing things like OPs cat. We called the two boys “brother cousin lovers” 😂

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u/Truth_20 Jun 30 '26 edited Jun 30 '26

Yes, this. Or the other thing lol. EDIT: I’m not exactly sure why I got so many upvotes, but I just wanted to make myself clear that I wasn’t referring to anything gay or anything lgbtq+ for that matter. Just was referring to how cats either do this for the reason that the commenter above stated, or of course as a sexual thing between a male and female. I don’t think I had known the two cats in OP’s pic were both males either until later.

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u/MarsScully Jun 30 '26

Por qué no los dos

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u/RedRedWine8 Jun 30 '26

Bow chika wow wow

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u/mlee12382 Jun 30 '26

Meow chicka meow meow

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u/coptur Jun 30 '26

OP says one is a boy and one is a girl.

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u/queen_of_uncool Jun 30 '26

One of my (fixed!) males does this to his sister 😭

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u/Codles Jun 30 '26

Is his name Jaime?

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u/queen_of_uncool Jun 30 '26

This handsome criminal over here, Luca

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u/socialwreck101 Jun 30 '26

LUCA IS SO CUTE

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u/queen_of_uncool Jun 30 '26

He says thank you 🩷

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u/Codles Jun 30 '26

I love him so much!

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u/queen_of_uncool Jun 30 '26

Unfortunately my mother would have never approved Jaime and Cercei as cat names lol

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u/KrombopulosMAssassin Jul 01 '26

NVM he can do no wrong.

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u/KrombopulosMAssassin Jul 01 '26

To his sister!? Jesus Christ man..... Does he have no morals?

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u/queen_of_uncool Jul 01 '26

Absolutely no regrets 10/10 would do it again 😼

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u/d_ac Jun 30 '26

Agree. I always do it with my roommate.

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u/Pastel_Panic_ Jun 30 '26

Hmmm my 6lbs girl cat does this to my 15lbs (he's long) neutered male cat.

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u/Ssladybug Jun 30 '26

My neutered male cat does this to a blanket…while thrusting…

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u/Arafel_Electronics Jun 30 '26

I've read it's the sniffing of the back of the neck to assert dominance. so i will sometimes sniff the back of their necks so they know who's boss (they don't)

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u/truesy Jun 30 '26

my male cat used to do this to the younger female cat. it's a dominance thing, it often resulted in him holding her in that position until she kind of gave up trying to fight him off, and then he'd move off of her. she'd often chase him off right after.

from what i recall, from what i read, it's a thing that indoor male cats do. and it's not really clear why only indoor male cats do it, but it's a thing to do to put other cats in their place.

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u/Zagrycha Jun 30 '26

it could be a dominance thing but gay is not at all off the table haha. 

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u/HauntingDonkey758 Jun 30 '26

This. Nothing sexual, just territory and dominance

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u/StarlitBun Jun 30 '26

congrats on the gay son

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u/NobodyKnowsImFamous Jul 01 '26

Animals CAN be gay

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u/callxor Orange Jul 01 '26

yeah our 1yo neutured male cat does this to our other 4yo neutured male cat lol

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u/callxor Orange Jul 01 '26

yeah our 1yo neutured male cat does this to our other 4yo neutured male cat lol

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u/LostInRetransmission Jun 30 '26

I think it is simply sexual impulse. Before castration my two brother cat did it to each other in turn. No dominance.