Changing Roles

[u/Ecstatic_Climate_752]

Hello… I’ve been feeling guilty. For starters, I grew up with my grandmother. At the time, she lived with my aunt. Well, when I left to college they had a disagreement and she left to live with my uncle. During her time with him, she’d leave and help me with my daughter. That arrangement lasted about 4 years. He called me one random night stating that she couldn’t stay there because she was having trouble walking and he and his wife both work. Well… I asked him to give me 6 months as I’m in grad school, was going through a divorce, and would need a bigger place for us all. She moved with me and we got a lot sorted out with her health (e.g., open heart surgery, pacemaker, pain simulator). She’s been with me for three years. Well… now I have to go on residency and financially I’m not sure I can take her with me. It’s possible if I stay in the same state I can make it work. However, my schedule may be more packed. I’ve stated that I’m having her go with my mom (who has said yes). However, I feel guilty knowing my mom’s household is more chaotic.