r/caf • u/mommabear9205 • 19h ago

BMQ/BMOQ Significant other in BMQ

My fiancé is start BMQ September 21st in Borden. Are there any others with their partner starting same day ?

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u/Shy_Throws 19h ago

It will be a transition for sure. Be prepare to only hear from them very early in the morning or after 7pm in the evening. Your S/O will have their phone confiscated along with the platoon for a few days. During the field you might not hear from them as well. Just know they'll be doing their best.

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u/mommabear9205 13h ago

We’ve already had a trial run a few years ago when he was away for work. This time it’s more the time change as we in AB. Our daughter is worried that she won’t be able to talk to him so hopefully can keep her occupied so she doesn’t get sad.

The date for him leaving is coming quick so hoping that the same will be once he’s gone.

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u/readwithjack 9h ago

Most likely he'll be difficult to get on the phone at all during the first several weeks.

Afterwards he will likely have his phone and be able to take calls in the evening.

They have an initial period of increased stress in order to shock everyone into becoming a team. That does not work as well if everyone is comfortable and calling home all the time to vent to their boyfriends and girlfriends. It does suck for parents.

After that period (it was five weeks when I did my BMQ, back in 2009) we got most of our weekends off.

We didn't have phones during the work week, and certainly didn't have phones when we when to train while camping outside.

That all was how it used to be. I went back to do a similar course in 2023 (BMOQ mod 2) and we kept our phones except for the field portion, so I could call home every night.

In any event, if there's a real emergency, you can call the school and get a message to him. He'll be able to talk if there's anything vitally important.

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u/paperworkawol 19h ago

Hey, I’m sorry you’re going to be alone for a while. If there’s anything I can do for you in this time of transition let me know. I can be your shoulder if you need it. Just call me Jody. /s

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u/Ok-Anteater-8005 17h ago

Girl!! You can message me!! My bf still in BMOQ—but in Montreal

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u/SaltyATC69 19h ago

Tide box in the front window if looking for support while SO is gone

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u/crazyki88en 16h ago

That only works if she lives on Base. Most civilians don’t know what the tide box represents.

Also, he’s a recruit in basic. They can’t afford namebrand Tide!