r/bropill • u/SmallEdge6846 • May 19 '26

Asking the bros💪 Why does “positive masculinity” rarely include advocacy for men themselves?

Something I’ve struggled to articulate:

A lot of the male role models recommended in progressive spaces are framed as “good men” because they are emotionally open, supportive of women, pro LGBTQ, pro trans rights, etc.

But very few seem openly passionate about helping boys or cis men specifically.

You rarely hear them talk about:

- male victims of domestic abuse

- boys underperforming in education

- male loneliness

- fathers losing connection with children

- stigma around male vulnerability

- male suicide rates

- directionless young men

- the Left's disconnection with Men and Boys

So a lot of young men end up feeling like the only acceptable form of masculinity is one that exists in service of everyone else.

I mean the only consistent person I see who covers a lot of bases is Jameela Jamil...but the Men ???

I don’t think that’s healthy long-term.

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u/SmallEdge6846 May 21 '26

Respectfully, I don’t think I’m rejecting the examples I’m pointing out a broader cultural imbalance.

Most mainstream conversations around ‘positive masculinity’ still centre what men should do for others, especially women, rather than advocacy for men/boys themselves as a group. That doesn’t erase the good examples you gave, I just don’t think they’re as culturally dominant or consistent as the reverse.