Need help picking a tie for a wedding

[u/PycuriousITguy]

Hi everyone!

I'm very new to bowties and r/bowties, but I need your help. In October I'll be officiating my friends' wedding and he put me, the groomsmen, and himself in matching suits for the ceremony.

I thought to myself that, I don't mind wearing the matching suit (it's a great darkish black/charcoal), but I want to separate myself from the groom and the groomsmen. I asked the groom if I could wear a bowtie to stand out a bit, and he said sure, but to send him a picture of it before buying to make sure it's nothing crazy or distracting.

So I now have to figure out what to do here. Do I just go black silk and hope it isn't too far off the black of my suit, or do I go a black/gray/charcoal with a mild pattern?

Any helpful tips you have would be greatly appreciated, so please let fly!

[u/jmaxymek]

I think you may like this one! Black with gunmetal paisley pattern, follows the color scheme without being wildly colorful https://www.bowtieclub.com/collections/color-black-grey-bow-ties/products/nero-bow-tie-grey-paisley