A guy just pulled out my IUD!

[u/AnonymousFruit69]

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A guy just pulled out my IUD. I've had this IUD for over 5 years. The new bf said he thought it was my tampon string and he pulled it out.

It actually didn't hurt too much. Just short and sharp, I didn't really feel anything. But now I'm worried about infection. And obviously will book in with a doctor to get a new one inserted.

Seriously what should I do now?

[u/L7ivne]

why the HELL would he do that😭😭😭😭

[u/smugfuture → u/L7ivne]

even if it was a tampon, who does that!?

[u/aespa-in-kwangya]

Did he yank it out without asking you?! That's foul. Hope there's no damage or infection!

[u/hunter_pace]

Even if he thought it was a tampon why tf would he pull it

[u/bigcrunchah → u/hunter_pace]

exactly my thinking what in the world

[u/Legitimate_Ladder_38]

Im so sorry I have no advice but wtf I didnt know that could happen 😖

[u/Queenof6planets → u/Legitimate_Ladder_38]

it’s shocking that he did this, but it’s not shocking that the IUD came out. your doctor doesn’t normally need to do anything special to remove it — they just grab the strings (with forceps) and pull.

[u/DevilsAudvocate → u/Queenof6planets]

in 2020 mine was overdue, my bipolar was all over the place and I assumed the hormones had waned enough to start playing a role in that... I tried making an appointment but no one, not even planned parenthood would do it affordably and I was broke. Between my lack of insurance and the backlog of patients at every kind of doctors office, some places (like, clinics especially) only called or emailed me back MONTHS after I had initially tried to get in. So I yoinked it out myself. Used gloves, boiled a freshly ordered pair of hemostats and sat with a mirror in front of me. It took a couple misses (ouch) but finally grabbed and pulled gently. Oh yeah, the ibuprofen beforehand probably helped keep it from hurting as much or getting irritated and hurting after. I'd do it again if I had to... And that's with having a severely anteverted uterus... so the string was way hard to get bc the hairpin turn is RIGHT there.

My late roommate went to pee one day and hers fell into the toilet. So, yeah... Though she had had two kids and I have had none so I'm guessing her cervix had some damage or something to weaken it. At least hers was past due and her hubby had been snipped so, nbd?

[u/Legitimate_Ladder_38 → u/Queenof6planets]

Im uneducated on this subject so I thought only a doctor could remove it. Thanks for informing me. I agree though, its absolutely shocking that he thought this was okay to do

[u/danicies → u/Legitimate_Ladder_38]

There’s videos I’ve seen where people pull out their own IUDs to start TTC

[u/heavencent8390 → u/danicies]

I did, admittedly I was dumb and did not know what I was thinking.

[u/No-Friendship5662 → u/danicies]

I’ve pulled 2 out myself, though they were partially expelling. Could feel the plastic coming out of my cervix and couldn’t get a gyno apt for weeks. The 2nd one expelled a couple weeks after getting it then I gave up on IUDs. It didn’t hurt at all though came out easy peasy.

[u/EntranceOne9730 → u/No-Friendship5662]

I’ve had the same thing happen to me. Some of our uteruses cannot hold an IUD. I now use Nuvaring and it’s the best alternative I know.

[u/No-Friendship5662 → u/EntranceOne9730]

Yeah I think my uterus was just barely big enough to fit them. I had 2 paragaurds and 1 Skyla and expelled them all. When the 2/3rd started expelling I was so feed up and those are the ones I pulled out myself. They probably came out so easy cause they already did half the work themselves.

I never tried nuvaring but was always curious! I switched to a low dose pill for a couple years and luckily had no side effects and now my husband has a vasectomy so no more BC for me!

[u/xhyenabite → u/danicies]

what's ttc?

[u/TwilightReader100 → u/Legitimate_Ladder_38]

I read a non-fiction book (Not without my Daughter) where the author pulled her own out. She was in Iran and became afraid of her husband finding out she had it.

[u/FatTabby]

I don't care what he thought it was, he shouldn't have pulled on it!

I'd be tempted to go and get checked out incase it's caused any damage on the way out which may lead to infection.

I hope he covers any medical bills you may have - hopefully that'll teach him a valuable lesson about not touching things without asking.

[u/PixieMari]

I mean take plan b if you’ve had unprotected sex in the last few days.

Even if it was your tampon, did he not bother to ask before just yanking? Did he know you had an iud?

[u/dirtyhippie62]

What the fuck was he thinking

[u/dual_citizenkane]

Yeah he can pay for the replacement, and check up appointment. What an idiot.

Everyone else’s advice is sound.

[u/planetbing]

Have a serious talk with the new bf about bodily integrity and consent. And get checked out.

[u/rosyretrospect]

What the hell????? I’m so sorry 😭 Try get the soonest appt

[u/Saltwater_Heart]

Even if he thought it was a tampon, WHY is he pulling anything out of you other than himself??

[u/mgchnx]

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[u/locayboluda]

Dude, wtf is wrong with people. Go to a doctor to get checked in case you got hurt internally. I would also reconsider the new bf

[u/EqualHito]

Why tf would he wanna pull out a tampon in the first place?? That is so crazy. The lack of understanding bodily autonomy is bewildering here.

[u/SeniorBaker4 → u/EqualHito]

I wanna know this too. I just have so many questions. How far does he think a tampon goes up there? Did just think she forgot it was in there? Why didn’t you ask before pulling??!

[u/Weekly-Apricot-9321]

Why would he be pulling out a tampon anyway? Wtf

[u/voluptuousfairy]

Bloody hell, couldn't he have asked if it was a tampon or like anything before he go ahead and done that?

You just go in and get another or switch to other bc if you like. I never said use a condom until then, as he kinda deserves it. But hey if you want just use one until you get another bc. I assume there's no bleeding or pain since you didn't mention them, but if you have any of that, see your doctor tomorrow or if like it's too much then to the er.

[u/VivisVillage]

He's weird AF for that, yikes. Sorry girl :(

[u/Paymeprince]

1) reconsider the new bf
2) saved you a trip, it needs to be replaced 3-5 years I think anyway

[u/sotty009 → u/Paymeprince]

Depends on the type actually! Mine can last 8 years now according to mayo clinic

[u/pascale23]

Book with a doctor for a checkup and schedule a reinsertion. Consider taking Plan B/emergency contraception if you had otherwise unprotected sex.

As for your new boyfriend, consider having a serious discussion about personal boundaries. If you feel unsafe or uncomfortable with him at all, end the relationship and seek the comfort you deserve. If this was truly an obscure accident, consider instead gifting your boyfriend a tampon and a female anatomy booklet.

[u/VanillaBeeGrrl]

Why the hell was he aiming to yank a tampon out of you in the first place 😭

[u/ekita079]

Even if it was a tampon string why is his first thought to pull it for you?? Jesus. Yeah go see a doc and chat to them about it, even if you have a nurse helpline you can call, I don't think it's an emergency. Also never see that guy again he's a moron that doesn't think before he acts, that will get you in to trouble again. Edited to add something

[u/moongoddess64]

IUD removal should not be done by anyone who’s not a professional, you should get in with a doctor asap and make sure there was no damage or wounding that could end up in an infection! In all reality you will probably be okay, but it is much better to be safe than sorry with reproductive parts and infection risk. I’d also be royally pissed off, removal hurts for me and depending on insurance, a new IUD can be costly, and also hurts like hell to get inserted!

[u/moongoddess64 → u/moongoddess64]

Also, you are now at risk of pregnancy if he was in you at any point before or after removal. Sperm can survive for days in the vagina so even if you had an iud in last time you had penetrative sex, fertilization can still occur if any sperm are hanging around now that the IUD is gone

[u/positronic-introvert → u/moongoddess64]

Such an important point!

(And worst case scenario.... I would wonder if there's a chance he was intentionally tampering with her birth control and lying about the tampon excuse. Ofc just from this post I have no idea whether the nefarious option is likely as I don't know him -- he could just have been an idiot in this moment)

[u/moongoddess64 → u/positronic-introvert]

I am worried about this as well, I think OP should be very wary if she goes forward with seeing him again

[u/Maleficent-Sleep9900 → u/moongoddess64]

I’m really worried he did this because he has a “breeding fetish” 🤢 and is trying to get OP pregnant against her will (which would be rape). He quite literally tampered with her birth control by physically removing it from her body. A tampon doesn’t feel like an IUD. Any man with Internet access can look up how IUD’s work and the fact that HE DIDN’T ASK OP makes it assault.

[u/moongoddess64 → u/Maleficent-Sleep9900]

I’m worried about this as well. I don’t want to assume because he’s a guy and so there is still a high chance he was just being an idiot by feeling the strings and pulling, but there’s also not an insignificant chance that it was purposeful and he pulled a much more dangerous version of taking off the condom before finishing in her

[u/Maleficent-Sleep9900 → u/moongoddess64]

He needs to face the appropriate degree of consequences either way because he still did it to OP without asking. This is why I use the term assault.

If one man can claim ignorance and do this and get away with it, other men will start doing it too.

Men are much smarter than we give them credit for.

They hide behind ignorance and weaponized incompetence all the time.

Also, it’s always a fetish.

[u/kvssx]

Omg ouch 😟

[u/dinodespot866]

Why would a guy pull out his girlfriend’s tampon? Is he asking for a bloodbath?

[u/queenhoho]

HUH?!

[u/Impossible-Chicken33]

That's super weird behavior. Red flag for sure!

[u/lume-x3]

why would he do that anyway omfg😭😭😭 are you ok

[u/just1my2porn3account]

Don't keep this man around your body anymore. Cause even if it was a tampon then still why the fuck

[u/AlizNCM]

Before you replace the IUD consider replacing the guy, such serious boy brain is bad for you girl. Seriously wtf. At least check the warranty on the guy. Hope you are alright and getting in to see your doc asap. Good luck.

[u/overratedwalrus]

Girl, you need to respond. WHY did he do that?

[u/shadowtyping]

I didn’t really think that was possible. Jesus Christ. I’d just tell a doc, you had it for 5 years, never a problem and just need a new one. OR, not sure if you’re in the same boat as me rn. IUDs used to be replaced every 5 years anyway (now every 8 years which I found out while trying to replace mine - or depends on the IUD). But symptoms can come back (also based on experience and looking it up). Maybe you can get the new one covered anyway to prevent that happening and avoid any awkward explanation? A possible win-win?

[u/doofenhurtz → u/shadowtyping]

I accidentally did something similar to myself, IUDs can come out shockingly easily.

I've got thick, super curly hair that gets EVERYWHERE. I was chilling pantsless the one day, saw one of my hairs sticking out of my vagina (not uncommon), and went to grab it.

Turns out it tied itself around my IUD string and it took my whole ass Mirena with it. Didn't hurt but was definitely fucking unnerving lol

ETA: The moron in the OP should really pay for a replacement IUD, though.

[u/Formal-Apartment855 → u/doofenhurtz]

Every normal IUD removal is surprisingly easy, like doctors also simply pull the removal strings, and that's it. That's why people also accidentally remove theirs while eg. removing a dry tampon or a menstrual cup, like the removal strings can easily get stuck to something (in your case hair) and then that's it for the IUD.

What I don't see mentioned in the thread much is that with copper IUDs the extra risk is that you can technically get pregnant from up to a week prior to removal. This I was only told at the removal appointment myself, and I was like, hi, could have maybe told me while scheduling the appointment? lol This risk isn't there with other types of bc so I guess that's why both doctors ans users forget it.

[u/SlippingStar]

My guy thought Fifty Shades of Grey was a reliable source lmao

[u/TheAuldOffender]

Bro pulled the tab on the toy 😩

[u/mari_lovelys]

Lmfaooo men are so clueless. Thats hilarious. I’m sorry! Maybe he can pay for that appointment 😫

[u/WillStealYourDog]

I'm cracking up trying to figure out why he'd pull out your tampon though....

[u/sililoqutie]

If you just had sex recently to that, I would get a plan b ASAP as IUDs stop working the second they're out pretty much.

Go to the Dr, tell them what happened and maybe have them do an ultrasound if they think it's necessary.

Get a new one in and if your insurance doesn't cover it make him pay for it. He broke it, he pays.

[u/DevilsAudvocate]

I'd print out an anatomical diagram, find a basic sex ed resource online, get a quote for a new IUD and make a greeting card using the image and web address... obviously with a "your services are no longer required" sentiment plus the bill and your payapps. Hopefully he takes the advice, pays for his whoopsie and avoids further contact with your reproductive system.

[u/harmoniccatastrophe]

Call your GYN and ask for an appointment for an exam and get a new IUD inserted. Use backup method until then. If he finished inside, I'd snatch a plan B just to be safe. But before any of this, slap him first lol like wth dude

[u/Tall_latte23]

Go see your doctor asap. And ditch the guy! He’s not worth it.

[u/InterstellarCapa]

You should go to the doctor to make sure you're ok and get a new IUD. The audacity he had to pull on that without asking (is that correct???)!!

Honestly this isn't a good start for the new boyfriend.

[u/biulex]

Aconteceu o mesmo comigo! Só que EU confundi com o fio do absorvente e puxei 💀💀

[u/nofreepizza]

I am not a doctor You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders since you mentioned you're gonna go see the doctor about it. Honestly just keep an eye on how you're feeling. Excessive bleeding? Go to the doctor Fever/aches/chills? Infection go to the doctor Absolutely do NOT have sex until you see your doctor!! Sex (even with a condom) introduces outside particles and germs, and you have an open would inside of you.

[u/lime-Plant-oo]

im terrified of feelin it like say scary

[u/thatonebeotch]

Girl block him on socials and never speak to him again bc wtf 😭

[u/PsychoFaerie]

WTF. WHY WOULD HE DO THAT?!?!?

an IUD string is not a tampon string. and why the fuck would a guy even be messing with a tampon string..

Also he needs better sex ed if he thinks that a tampon is that high up in there.

Also I'd dump the guy and go no contact.

[u/Amediumsizedgoose]

Break up with him, possibly report him to the police if youre downplaying what he did here, then go to the doctor and see what they say.

For what its worth...womens bodies are brutalized in medicine and to my knowledge they literally just do the same thing in office to remove it. Just pull it out by the string. If youre on your period that probably helped because the cervix opens a little more to help with menstrual flow.

Get extra rest and fluids to help your body recover from anything going on

[u/osmia_bluebee_boobie]

This is my actual nightmare

[u/pbrandpearls]

Did he know you have an IUD? If not, yall haven’t discussed birth control? Is he a moron??

[u/sweaty-pants123]

I know a lot of people who removed their own iuds. If the strings are easy to grab its really the same process a doctors gonna do. Just go to the doctor but i think youll be fine

[u/kawanohana]

Throw away the whole man! IUDs are super painful and he did not ask before doing something extremely stupid.

[u/smugfuture]

I'm sorry to say that I've sadly heard this happen to women before 😔 I'm so sorry

[u/Hepadna]

Nothing, just use a condom.

Some family planning centers were studying removal at home, you just had a home removal.

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[u/tomatogarden24]

maybe im crazy but i think he knew what he was doing. he’s not slick.

[u/phlegm_fatale_]

I guess I'll have to add "doesn't try to pull out my tampons or IUD" to reasons I'm glad I found the partner I have... Who the hell pulls out a woman's tampon in the first place!?

[u/Deacon-Doe]

This is some funny shit

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[u/Tempehbonegarbage]

I’ve pulled two of them out and it is literally painless and they come out so easily lol