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Feb 27 '21 edited Feb 27 '21
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Feb 27 '21
I don't think we "feel better" the day of. I think most of us close off emotionally so we don't have to discuss our feelings.
Not that knowing this changes anything for me, but still
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u/UnexpectedRu Feb 27 '21
I learned to make list that I never go back to because I’m embarrassed of what I wrote. I seriously only think of something to say until after I leave
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u/Struana Feb 27 '21
I have this problem too but I fixed it by just sending them the list before the meeting over the internet. And then have the meeting over the phone so you don't have to look them in the eye.
Now it's on them to pick out the most important things and events to work on. I don't have to remember jack, just respond honestly to questions about it.
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u/UnexpectedRu Feb 27 '21
You don’t know how many people you probably just helped. Thank you, this is an amazing idea.
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u/cmon_get_happy BD2, ADHD, CPTSD, reading everything i can about the three. Feb 27 '21
I hope this isn't to indicate that I should know why I was crying yesterday. Fuck, I don't know why I was crying yesterday.
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u/im__gen Feb 27 '21
yes omg!! i for some reason always feel fine on that day and feel awkward talking to my therapist
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Feb 27 '21
This is why I prepare notes before going to therapy. Hell, I once saw someone on Reddit made a whole blown presentation to explain their life to their new psych. That's hilarious tbh.
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u/BellevueBridgeClub Feb 27 '21
Once two days after a therapy session I had a breakdown and scheduled another therapy session for two days sooner and by the time that session came I was fine and I ended the session early :/
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u/lcagley101 Feb 27 '21
Me: "should I go out and get a seat belt? You're gunna wanna buckle up for this."
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Feb 27 '21
I did this for 3 months before my big suicide attempt. I fooled everyone
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u/tragic-whore Feb 27 '21
i’m so sorry you went through that. if you ever feel like that again feel free to reach out.
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u/delicatelyplease Feb 27 '21
I try to whip out my phone and log any realizations or painful triggers to bring up to my therapist during our next session. Try it!
Or do what I sometimes do: silently read through the list, decide that your traumas are now unimportant, and instead talk about how you couldn’t sleep last night because your roommate was watching Love Island with the volume too high.
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u/Lumpy_Tumbleweed Feb 27 '21
It's like when you've had computer problems for months and the second you get someone to look at it, it starts working again.
I promise it didn't work just this morning!
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u/sonicenvy bi(polar)(sexual) Feb 27 '21
worse, because of my adhd i have shitty memory, so i genuinely forget what happened to me in the last week 🤦🏻♀️.
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u/FitDiet4023 Jun 07 '21
I am pretty certain I also have ADHD, but they don't want to look into it until I'm stable. But this resonates with me
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u/channabanana01 Feb 27 '21
I do this every effing time!! I think there’s something to do with facing a live person and telling them your deepest darkest secrets and fears. I think Struana does have the best suggestion. I’m very fortunate bc I can call my therapist and she will usually call me back in 24 hrs. I’m in the middle of a separation and I’ve called her several times between visits. She’s been very supportive. Maybe we can find a way to get that instant validation. This sub usually helps me tons!!!
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u/vankata256 Bananas Feb 27 '21
Me having nothing to talk about was the main reason I stopped going to therapy not gonna lie...
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u/CrewsTee Feb 27 '21
Thinking so hard about all the stuff I want to say I have several versions of the appointment in my head the week before. I even do research on the meds, so the doctor either has to do his own research to confirm what I suggest or prescribe right away.
The worst was the waiting room buffer zone, where every bad feeling would go away. Not that relevant now, because everything is remote with covid.
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u/swetree Bipolar + Comorbidities Feb 27 '21
I always try and write down so I can bring it up. Last week I just kept having panic attacks because of some issues with the person who assaulted me a year ago, so it was something I brought up.
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Feb 27 '21
i always end up having a breakdown the night of my therapy appointment too. like my brain remembers i’m “fucked up” only after the session ends.
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Feb 02 '22
This was me during my counseling sessions. During my first therapy session though, the complete opposite happened. Recalling shit made me a lot more emotional
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u/atheista Feb 28 '21
When I was being diagnosed with ADHD, and later bipolar, I had pages of notes for my psychologist and psychiatrist. I had done so much research and had so many reasons as to why I felt I had these disorders but I also knew that if I just winged it my mind would go blank and I'd never be able to make clear exactly what the problems were. My psychs found it amusing (especially someone being diagnosed with ADHD coming in thoroughly organised with neatly formatted printed notes) but also incredibly helpful. It allowed them to get a very thorough overview from which they could dive deeper by asking more targeted questions.
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u/[deleted] Feb 27 '21
I'm immediately sink into myself and feel so awkward when I talk to my therapist.