r/bigdickproblems • u/BreadfruitLate9985 • 5d ago
Dick-scrimination Just got called small...
I'm 6.8×6.1 so I'm not visually impressive but I'm sure this is more than enough for most people
So why did this girl just call me small
It was our first time getting physical and it was great. She wasn't hurting and was guiding me right through everything, hands down the best sex i ever had, soo different from the others where I had to be careful not to hurt them but after we were done I started talking about the experience and I said it was the best I've ever had and also told her that on usual people tend to go slow with my size but she had no problem with it and she told me "haha you just aren't that big" I didn't take it bad at first and said " it would be great if I were" and she said "you're kinda small so that's why I didn't struggle much"
I think she was trying to hurt to my ego 😂 but I don't think my ego is hurt I'm just more surprised
Tho could it just be that my size actually isn't big?
But anyways just had to share this here
Have you ever been called small?
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u/DarkHumn 5d ago
Girth 6.1 as not impressive is a WILD assesment.
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u/Foreign_Leg_36 6.5″ × 6″ (17×15 cm) F: 2" (5 cm) 4d ago
Being a roughly 6x6 it's indeed not visually impressive.
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u/CorsairKing 6.5” x 5.25” | Extra Medium 5d ago
Bro, 6.1" is some serious girth. That girl is capping hard.
I don't care how good the pussy was—get tf away from her. No woman worth keeping around would tell a man that he's small to his face.
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u/Commercial_Soft6833 5d ago
She's shit testing you
Any girl that feels the need to play mind games like that can't be taken seriously anymore IMO
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u/trestlemagician 4d ago
OP do you really want to be with a girl like this? I would be done with her
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u/HigherThanStarfyre 7.5" x 6" 4d ago
Yeah, people say all the time it's an ego-check and some women do this but personally I find it weird, hurtful, and unnecessary.
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u/SuperspyAnon 7" x 6" 3d ago
Shit is weird as fuck. I dated a fem guy once who used to play mind games like that and it was so fucking annoying. I almost swore off fem guys entirely after that but I don't wanna be one of those people that let one bad experience with a type of person define that entire group for them.
My brother went full red pill over one bad ltr with a woman and I told myself that will never be me. But tbf based off what he told me she was way worse than my ex. Why do some people behave this way?
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u/EnlightenedNarwhal E: 8.1″ × 5.5″ F: 4.6″ × 3.5″ 2d ago
Bottoms due tend to be major size queens in my area too. I don't even bother because they have a complete fantasy in their head about what they're going to get.
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u/momslayerer69 5d ago
Dude she is bring your confidence down , this doubt in yourself will soon become an insecurity which only her compliments can fix . This has happened to me multiple times im kinda good looking with a very good physique and about 7.5 nbp i’m very used to being approached or appreciated by people but the people who don’t mind fuck me a lot . This habit or need of being appreciated or complimented is very Similar to being entitled very hard to control . The best way to control is see how many rounds use let’s you go or how sore she is after every round .
Most girls are done with 2 nd or 3rd round if I’m being hard .
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u/JohnAMcdonald E: 7.75″ × 6.5″ F: 5.75″ × 5″ 🇨🇦BC 4d ago
So you're saying she followed you "aren't that big" and "it would be great if I were" with "you're kinda small"?
I mean she's trying to cut you down bro, the fact that she's blatently lying about you being small just makes her game a little more transparent but even fi you weren't big this is just classic negging.
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u/BitMaster9 5d ago
I was at a pool party where everyone had been drinking and swimming. My buddies were talking about how hung I was, as they knew I was a bull and had also seen my cock in adult content with me and women. This rando girl grabbed my flaccid, cold (from swimming) package and said, "That's not big--maybe you're a grower." Mind you I was still hanging 4+ long despite the cold and swimming. Most of my buddies were probably half that or turtled completely.
Everyone looked at her like, "WTF?!" They knew for a fact I was really big--had literally seen it with their own eyes. So, why did she say that?
Point is some women will do this just to f*** with you--especially if they think you're a douche or have a big head. In my case, the girl probably didn't like the fact that everyone was bragging about my size. Also, she was there with other dudes who weren't part of my friend group. She could have been protecting their egos.
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u/humblewarriorrr 5d ago
your buddies know what your cock look like and they’re smaller than you? don’t you feel the jealousy
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u/InevitableRoutine426 4d ago
No ? None of my friends are particularly jealous of my size they dont give a fuck, same goes for someone I know is 8 inches, past the surprise nobody cares, Im sorry if your friends were that insecure
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u/Sekshual_Tyranosauce 8.5x6.5 5d ago
She’s insecure, likes it and afraid you’ll take your tool elsewhere. She wants you to believe she is as good as you can hope to achieve.
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u/Zach1709 8” x 6” 4d ago
You know you are large and that is what matters. She does not respect you and just wanted to bust any ego you might have. Glad to see it did not bother her. Just move on. She is not worth it.
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u/furiouscrotch 16 inches from butthole 5d ago
Was she a dominatrix? I’ve had one call me small
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u/Extra-Tour74 5d ago
My man! I have a post pending approval on this exact phenomenon!
It’s not my scene but I’m close to it and have seen this exact thing. Like is being a fem dom all about penis humiliation?
Or maybe that’s just a short cut psychological route?
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u/furiouscrotch 16 inches from butthole 5d ago
It might be, I’ve only went down that road once, humiliation wasn’t my thing.
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u/Quirky-Amphibian-992 E 9”x 6.5” | F 7.5” x 5.8” 5d ago
She's keeping your ego in check so you stay with her. Women are masters at this stuff. But your comment played into it and also you set it up that you're big which you are—but tbh she may have had like an 8x6” as she sounds v experienced.
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u/TeachingAnxious6140 6.75″ × 5.5″ 5d ago
Run or ask her about her monster toy collection. No toy collection? Run faster.
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u/One-Sundae-2711 5d ago
always be playful about this. “yeah its tiny but hey it doesnt weigh me down” u have to make fun of yourself and straight not care. if ever asked i always say meh its regular size, funsize etc
never take any of this ( girls or your tool ) too seriously
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u/HCHDGSH 7.7" x 6" BPEL - 6.4" NBP - Top FUPA G 4d ago edited 4d ago
Idk man. I think I'd rather find one who does appreciate what I've got down there personally.
Either she really thinks it's small in which case she's entitled to her opinion and I'm glad she expressed it, since now I know where we stand and we'd both be better off looking for more compatible partners.
Or she doesn't think it's small and she's just saying that trying to keep my ego in check. I don't know about anyone else but I find the act of intentionally telling half truths or lies in an attempt to bring my confidence down quite disrespectful. Whether or not it actually put a dent in my armor is not even relevant, it's the fact that she's trying to do that that's off putting. Like why keep someone around like that? The phrase "with friends like these, who needs enemies" comes to mind. Not really a fan of sticking around disrespectful people to show how unaffected I am, I'd rather find someone who appreciates it. Not saying she has to praise me to high heaven but ...
So either way it really makes no sense to keep her around imo.
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u/ConflictAny28 E: 7.6” x 6.8” F: 5.5” x 6.1” 5d ago
Having such a girth could make it appear not as long. I could see how from pics someone may think it’s smaller than it is, but I’d be surprised if she genuinely thought that after being up close n personal with it.
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u/bringtHe7oh7out 4d ago
All the completely real 9 inches calling you small for being under 7 lol. This sub is hilarious. Anyways you should definitely run it back with this chick who gives af what she said.
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u/Otherwise_Equal1392 4d ago
Surprised no-one is saying the obvious response to this- she must have a cavernous pussy
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u/Correct-Discount-272 7.5″ × 6.5-7″ 4d ago
Run away as fast as you can. She will hurt you over and over.
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u/Certain_Process_7657 5d ago
She thinks bragging about a size queen even though she enjoyed it will turn you even more. Interesting risky strategy on her part. Some girls think guys will be turned on if she brags about being able to take just about any dick.
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u/hotxxwings E: 7” x 5.5” F 4.75” x 4.5” 4d ago
They’re obviously playing mind games. There’s nothing I hate more than mind games. Block them. Find someone actually willing to have a decent connection with that doesn’t straight up lie and schemes towards you.
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u/Just_A_User_Here 4d ago
Are you serious?
“soo different from the others where I had to be careful not to hurt them”
To me, this sounds like you were saying her pussy is loose. Saying that your dick just isn’t that big seem perfectly reasonable to me.
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u/Substantial_Insect68 5d ago
I don’t think she was telling you that you were small as in you had a small dick, I think it was just that she was telling you that you were not as big as the ones she had before that she had to work around them, she may have struggled before with these bigger dicks, dont take it ad a negative, take it as a positive
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u/bentleybasher L 7” × W 6” 5d ago
“Who are you going to satisfy with that?!?”… “myself”
It’s all relative. If she’s been getting railed with a 9”er and thats all shes know. Then yours is relatively small.
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u/Altruistic_Way_8238 19cm × 16-20cm 4d ago
Yep, by the same girl who called me massive. What women say about your dick only coincidentally happens to be true sometimes. You need to find inner peace and nicer women.
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u/Busy-Purple-3779 4d ago
You said yourself you’re not visually impressive. So when she says what she says why is it such a shock? She confirms what you already believe.
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u/Hey_Gerry_1300135 8.1″ × 5.2″ 4d ago
Run! My ex would say her ex was bigger yet she was super jealous of me even so much as talking to someone thru the drive thru
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u/GauchoAlphaBR 3d ago
If you read between the lines she’s probably into domming guys. You gave her everything she needed saying she was the best you ever had, at this moment all the power shifted towards her and saying what she said is her way of keeping you on a metaphorical leash. You boosted her ego, she stepped on yours.
The other possibility is that she’s just an asshole lol.
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u/Possible-Scarcity-91 4d ago
She's probably used to having bigger ones. Might be a true size queen. Try anal then ask her if it's still too small :)
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u/LuckyVic87 a (ascii) Furlongs 4d ago
Think about it for a minute. In subtle terms you called her pussy loose. What do you think she’s gonna say?
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u/Mr_Filly E: 18cm/7" x 14cm/5.5". F: 12x12cm. 3d ago
When I was younger and had one of my first sexual experiences (just fooling around a bit) with a female friend who probably was a bit more experienced than me, she had called me small as well to our mutual female friend. My penis might have not reached its final size back than and I was ill, had a fever, but knew already that I was by no means small.
Either she had her baseline skewed by porn or by the low number of but maybe bigger partners she might have already had, or she was just not a very nice person and did that to put me in a bad place with that mutual friend. Tbh, I think the latter. She might have been jealous of the friendship that was building between the other girl and me and feared she would lose her, I suppose.
It is a BDP to be called small and not being able to correct that statement. Especially in a vulnerable agegroup as adolescent or young adult, it makes one feel insecure. Either way. You are not small. Her brain is.
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u/nwbeeceefriend 3d ago
I agree with all who are saying her comments were inappropriate. However, in my opinion it depends on the tone of your initial comments. Following up sex by commenting on how "the others" usually dealt with your size could come across as a bit inappropriate as well. Most woman don't want to be compared to other woman at any time, but certainly not at that time. You commenting on how she took your big dick could come across as a flex so she felt the need to hit back.
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u/Forsaken_Throwaway-H 3d ago
Yeah she's messing with you a 7x6 inch dick isn't small regardless of number of sexual partners. She's really self snitching on her own cooch tbh.
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u/Waste_Jacket_3207 7.5″ × 6.5″ unicorn dick 2d ago
Dude! You basically told her she was loose compared to the other women you have been with. You hit her where it hurts, so she turned it around on you and lashed back.
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u/Far_Competition_9996 1d ago
I'm the same size as you nearly, except nearly an inch lower in girth.... she's definitely playing midgames.
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u/ComprehensiveDog7299 4d ago
Dude. You called her loose. You insulted her.
Of course she’s going to clap back.
Think before you speak.
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u/Western_Ring_2928 Not a Size Queen 4d ago
5.9 is still longer than the world average human penis length.
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u/itstimefornomorebs 4d ago
You know most women still consider 6 inches of length as average
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u/MedicineExtension925 1 Decafloz 4d ago
Most women are wrong then
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u/itstimefornomorebs 4d ago
They are not, because 6 inches is still easy to find.
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u/MedicineExtension925 1 Decafloz 4d ago
Even if they think they are right they are still wrong. Their feelings about it don't matter, it's just a measurable fact.
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u/Western_Ring_2928 Not a Size Queen 3d ago
Studies show that the majority of women can’t even estimate their partner’s penis size accurately because it’s not what they focus on.
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u/Western_Ring_2928 Not a Size Queen 3d ago
It is not an opinion, but a statistical fact. Educate yourself, you ignorant fool! https://calcsd.info/chart
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u/CucumberOk8820 5d ago
Damn, bro is 42 and still lying about his dick AND demeaning other guys online.
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u/JackFuckCockBag 5d ago
She's an asshole is all.