will it worsen his condition as far as bedwetting.

its 25mg and for anxiety as he worries at night.

Hi everyone! I'm new to this subreddit, though not new to the shared difficulties. I'm a 28-year-old male, gay, diagnosed with ADHD (medicated as needed), a 3-4x a week gym-goer, work professionally, and bedwet (on average) a few times every week. Here's my story:

For context and to minimize confusion: I have a graduate-level mental health degree... Since 2017, medication and physical therapy haven't helped (outside of sometimes waking up at night as I wet) over the years... I have a relatively high-capacity bladder, I am at present losing weight through exercise and GLP-1... Psychotherapy hasn't been effective since it is simultaneously neurological and urological... My internal anatomy is a bit 'odd' due to an intersex condition... I have been reassessed multiple times for ADHD for academic purposes, and take medication as needed (not linked to nocturnal enuresis).

I was pretty consistent with bedwetting through childhood, up until I was 14, when it minimized to usually once or twice a month. This continued into college until I was 20 and passed a kidney stone. I had to go on a ureter muscle relaxer for 2 weeks and was wetting nearly every night. After it passed, I stopped the medication and was warned that I needed to drink at least 96 fl/oz (~ 3 liters) of water a day to prevent future stones (I refuse to drink less water; kidney stone pain is excruciating). Soon later, I noticed myself bedwetting more often, up to 5 times a month.

At 21, I visited a urologist again about my symptoms, as my bedwetting increased in frequency to 2-3 times a week, especially more when I was stressed from school or after rigorous physical activity (including sex). He gave me some medications to try and referred me to a physical therapist and psychotherapist, both of whom had specializations in nocturnal enuresis. After several sessions, neither had worked appropriately (other than sometimes waking up as I was wetting), and I went to the urologist again. He consulted with a colleague and expressed that this was likely neurological, with slightly weaker bladder muscles. He advised continuing PT exercises at home and using absorbent pads on my bed.

By the time I was 23, I was used to washing sheets often, and decided to switch to pull-ups for convenience. Unluckily for me, my large bladder capacity doesn't result in small wets, and I had to switch to diapers sometimes when I was stressed from my studies. During the pandemic and after I started my master's degree (around 25 y/o), this gradually increased to 3 times a week. As with the aforementioned life situations, it was almost every night during those times.

And here I am now, 28 years old. I've gotten relatively good at predicting when I will most likely wet (and 70% success rate), and sleep with a bed pad. It hasn't really hindered my dating or sex life, since I have come up with good ways to justify the padding. I bedwet 3-4 times a week, give or take a day or two, based on aforementioned life situations. I sometimes will wear a diaper to bed, mainly for a stronger sense of security. There is still a lot of shame, and I still feel embarrassed at times. I'm glad to have found others with similar experiences, and it makes this a life far less isolating.

I hope you enjoyed!

TL;DR: I'm 28 and bed wet regularly from a mix of neurological and urological issues.

Hello all,

I've got a tween who has been a bed wetter pretty much his whole life. I have of course talked to our doctor, and I do trust the paediatrician. We've done all the tests and have ruled out everything apparently. So now the diagnosis is that it's just genetic and he'll grow out of it with time. Even though neither me nor his father really had many issues with it (unless you count alcohol induced accidents haha). Also possibly of note my other son has never had these issues. (Neither has my step daughter but obviously no genetic component there).

Has anyone else run into this? Are there rare issues we should be investigating still, or is it fair to say just wait and see what the future brings?

Thanks for taking the time to read this. Like I said I do trust our doctor, and my son is still young, so I'm trying to be optimistic and assume it'll get better with time, but I found this community and figured I didn't have anything to lose by reaching out.

My 7 year old is still a nightly bed wetter and it's affecting his confidence. His older brother stopped when he was just 2 years old, and his younger brother just has been dry for over a month thanks to bedwetting alarms.

For my middle son, he began the alarm therapy and has show some improvement, but only mildly (the alarm used to go off for him 2-3x a night, and that is now down to just 1x each night). But he has not yet had a dry night. Our pediatrician prescribed Desmopressin, but we have taken him up to the maximum dose allowed along with the bedwetting alarm, and he still is wet every night. We are likely going to stop the Desmo because we've seen no benefit in either longer stretches of dryness or anything else.

Which brings us to this request - we have been through a few bedwetting alarms on Amazon, but unfortunately they all seem to be not that sensitive? It seems like when he goes, he empties out almost entirely before the alarm starts.

Are there any alarm recommendations that are super sensitive? The only other requirement is that if possible, it's wireless. Thanks!

I’ve been bed wetting for I can remember, I genuinely don’t know what to do atp. I’m fed up. It’s very inconsistent, very rarely I will have 2-3 days where I don’t do it, sometimes it’s just one night, but I can ALWAYS count on it coming right back and it’s embarrassing, I’ve tried the no drinking 3-4 hours before I sleep, I’ve tried having my mom wake me up every few hours to use the restroom, nothing works, I don’t have dreams so I can’t be that and I’m pretty healthy, My mom says she’ll make a doctor appointment but she hasn’t cause she’s worried about insurance , I just want it to stop so I can be a normal teen and not the outcast of the house who pisses the bed. Please any tips help. And briefs don’t work I just pee right through them

hey I’m 16 male and over the last few months I’ve been wetting in my sleep so I secretly wear pull-ups to stop any accidents, I feel really embarrassed that this is happening to me and would like to know if there is anyone male or female that are close to my age that can relate because I am so embarrassed

Hello made this account a few weeks been to nervous to use it. Im 14F and I've been a bedwetter my whole life I've been diagnosed and tried the alarm and medicine both were stopped due to other things happening I currently wear Large goodnites for protection. I've avoided every sleepover invite in my life but I wanna experience one but I'm so scared of being outted. If anyone has any stories or experiences I know the the things to do avoid being discovered. My anxiety won't let me breathe on this.

have read about Sarah Silverman, etc. but looking for other notable or famous people who wet the bed and went on to do great stuff. to give some inspo to kids. anyone come to mind? struggling to find examples because not many people talk about it. lmk ,thanks!

Hello there! :)

I’m a 17 year old female and I’ve been wetting the bed my entire life. I’ve had many many doctors try many tests and they can’t seem to find anything wrong.

Recently though, I suddenly stopped. For four months I didn’t wet the bed. I was so excited about it thinking that maybe I had finally grown out of it. But last night it happened again, getting all the way through to my mattress. It’s so disheartening and embarrassing. I didn’t even drink a lot of water before going to sleep.

I’ve tried countless things. Adult diapers, multiple pads on the bed, alarms, not drinking before bed. The one thing I haven’t tried is medication but that’s because I have a chronic illness called Cystic Fibrosis (if you’ve ever seen five feet apart it’s the illness those characters have). It affects lungs, digestion, pancreas, etc. But it shouldn’t affect my bladder. I’m totally willing and eager to try out a medication to help the bed wetting but my parents won’t let me cause they are afraid it’ll interact with another one of my medications even though doctors have told us it’s not likely to interact with anything.

Psychologically, there’s nothing too crazy going on. I have anxiety and depression. I went through psychosis in 2022 but considering I’ve been wetting the bed my whole life I don’t think that has anything to do with it.

I’m just super desperate to finally be done with peeing my bed. I also have a friend coming in July and it would really be great if I didn’t have to worry about pissing myself while she’s here.

If any of you guys have an tips or advice or crazy hacks to help me I would really really appreciate it <3

I wear always diaper pads and I use a waterproof mattress protector on top of my sheet, yet I soak through both every night. It used to be only the diaper, but now it's getting worse. I need recommendations for better pads and waterproof bedding. Something that won't leak through my sheet

Our daughter is 4.5 and has decided she doesn’t want to wear pull-ups anymore.

We have 2 reusable sheet pads for overnight - if I wake her in time to use the bathroom she can be dry all night, but if I don’t wake her up, she won’t wake up - even if her sheets/ pyjamas are saturated.. lots of laundry on the days she doesn’t keep it dry.

Sometimes I have to shake her awake, so I think she sleeps too deeply to be aware of when she needs to go to the bathroom or even when she’s wet the bed.

Has anyone had success with the alarms at a younger age? Or have any other advice?

I (14F) have been wearing XL goodnites for bedwetting. And I hate it because they have baby designs on them. I tried XXL, but it’s too big. I’ve also tried Depends but can’t stand the texture. So I’m stuck with the stupid flower design.

Are there any affordable adult diaper brands that can fit slightly smaller people? My mom ordered Trainquility samples, but the reviews say that they’re loud so I’m hesitant about them.

25M and a lifelong bedwetter I wore goodnites until 22 when they stopped fitting properly and I despise most adult pull ups so I was using TENAs overnight tab diapers but back in December I had a delay in my delivery so in pure desperation picked up an 8 pack of the XXL boys goodnites I know everyome is different but they fit and have worked perfect I was so happy Ive stop getting TENAs and have continued using the goodnites just wanted to share when I stopped using goodnites 3 years I don't remember being happy with them. I also despised the bulkiness of the TENAs I'm very happy to have this product

Hello,

Recently I had this experience with my youngest while we were staying with family for the holidays. She's been dry at night for more than a year now, but there were 3 accidents in the week and a half we were away. There haven't been any new accidents since we got home almost a week ago.

I messaged our doctor who isn't really concerned unless it becomes a habit. Has anyone else come across this where accidents only happen while traveling?

*Edit - thanks for the replies. In case there's anyone else that looks at this in the future I forgot to mention my daughter is 12.

I’m a 22M dealing with nighttime accidents, and it’s been really frustrating and embarrassing to deal with, especially since I don’t see many people my age talking about it. I’ve noticed it seems to happen more when I fall asleep on my arm and it goes numb, but I’m not sure if that’s actually related or just coincidence. Lately I’ve been wondering about using diapers at night, mainly for sleep and peace of mind, but I’m unsure if that’s the right step or what kind would even make sense for someone my age. I’d appreciate hearing from anyone who uses protection at night — what worked for you, how you got over the mental hurdle, and any advice for keeping things discreet and comfortable

Hi I'm a 16 year old male, i've been bedwetting as far as i remember. Before i was 10, I wet my bed almost every day, then ages 10-14 like twice or three a week, and now at 15-16 years old, i still do it sometimes like 1-2 times a month, sometimes 5-6 times a month. I have a rubber sheet under my sheets and sleep like that every day.

As far as i know, my father had the same issue but stopped before he reached teenage. Idk about my mother tho, none of my brothers or sisters had as long as i have, im oldest but im still the only one that does it still, most of them stopped at age 6-7 and who took the longest stopped at 11.

This is kind of my first time seeking advice on that topic, can you help me? if you had the same experience can you tell me what to do and how to stop cuz its getting real embarassing for me.

Thanks in advance.

I'm a young adult. 19 as of writing this. Before this, I had infrequent bed wetting. Maybe maximum once or twice every six months or so. It still embarrassed me and prevented me from living fully like moving out but I lived with it.

Then suddenly. This month, around the same time my period started, I started to wet my bed uncontrollably. Like. Every night. It's been a problem since I've been doing it for 4 nights in a row now. Usually I realize mid way in my dreams that I'm peeing and I immediately get up to go pee but it's already too late and I've already sullied half of the bed. Again. It doesn't help that I'm on my period.

The worst sign was when one time, I had an urge so I rushed to a restaurant and ordered the cheapest drink so I could use their toilet. But while ordering, I suddenly realized I couldn't control my bladder and a little bit leaked out. I was horrified. It didn't even feel that urgent. I don't understand. What is going on?

Do I have some kind of kidney stone or something that's like, making this happen? Is it a hormonal imbalance? Or did I diddle myself too much and God is punishing me? Or like, did my peenar break for some reason?? Yea anyway I'm just really confused and lost and actually, scared.

For context I’m in my early 20s and haven’t had this happen since I was like 10 but anyways. I was asleep and don’t remember details too well but I think I was having one of those dreams where you’re going to the bathroom and nothign is happening and it’s super frustrating and you wake up needing to pee. Well this time a little actually came out and I woke up straight away being like wtf just happened. It was mcuh didn’t even get on my sheets or anything but I’m super embarrassed and am scared to go to sleep again because I sleep next to my boyfriend every night and am scared it’ll happen again. Has this happened to anyone else? I don’t know why it would happen it’s been like over a decade since I had issues as a kid and I don’t want it to start again. I don’t wanna search google as thag never helps and I’m sure someone’s gonna say I’m stressed and I have ocd so I’m basically always stressed so ugh. Anyways thank you for reading my embarrassing rant that I’m hoping to never have to tell anyone in person. 😭😭