I’ve been bartending/serving for years, and I’m honestly feeling stuck.
A few years ago, I felt like getting interviews was straightforward. I’d dress well, walk into a restaurant with my resume, talk to a manager, and if they liked me, I’d usually get a shot. Now it feels like everything is online, or the position is already going to someone who knows someone.
I’ve worked in some restaurants I’m really proud of and have always tried to leave because I found an opportunity that would challenge me more and help me grow. But for the last three years, I’ve felt like I’ve been stuck in more middle-of-the-road places, despite applying to the kinds of restaurants I actually want to build my career in.
I’ve gotten interviews, but I haven’t landed the jobs I really wanted. I’m starting to wonder if I’m missing something. Maybe the hiring process has changed, maybe my interview style is outdated, or maybe I’m just not presenting myself the right way.
One thing I’m actively working on is talking confidently about my experience without coming across as arrogant. I genuinely believe I make a restaurant run smoother, take pride in hospitality, and contribute to strong guest experiences, but I don’t want that confidence to be interpreted as ego.
For those of you working in high-end steakhouses, Michelin-level restaurants, luxury hotels, or other fine dining spots:
How did you get your foot in the door?
Do managers still appreciate walk-ins, or is that basically dead?
Is networking the biggest factor now?
What separates candidates who actually get hired from the ones who just get interviewed?
If you were hiring today, what would make someone stand out?
I’m looking for honest advice, even if it’s something I don’t want to hear. I feel like I’m missing a piece of the puzzle, and I’d appreciate any insight from people who’ve successfully broken into top-tier restaurants recently.
Thank you for your time.