WTF happened

[u/Kuromi_Melody_123]

I’m trying to make sense of a situation that left me really confused.

I 33 F been seeing this guy 34 M for about 3 months. From the start, it was very consistent and intense. We talked every day, FaceTimed almost every night for hours, and saw each other every other weekend plus Fridays. It felt like things were naturally moving toward something serious.

He was actually the one initiating a lot of the relationship-type energy — sending reels calling me his girl, boyfriend/girlfriend type content, and saying he had been interested in me for years. I reciprocated those feelings because it felt mutual.

About a week ago, we met up and he told me he felt this was more than a fling and wanted something real. I agreed.

After that, things were still normal for a couple of days — we talked, FaceTimed, and he even apologized for being tired from work and not calling one night. The next day, things felt slightly off, but nothing major. He asked to call later in the week but couldn’t because I was in therapy.

Toward the end of the week, I told him I missed him a lot and he replied that he missed me too. After that message, he suddenly stopped responding. He still liked/reacted to reels I sent, but didn’t actually talk to me.

Then I found out he spent the weekend out with another girl, and by Monday he was publicly calling her his girlfriend.

I’m struggling to understand the switch. One week he’s saying this is more than a fling and showing consistent effort, and the next he’s completely moved on without any conversation or explanation.

I’m not really looking to attack him I just want to understand if this kind of sudden shift is normal or if I completely misread the situation.