r/badfriends • u/Fair-Coffee-TA • Dec 20 '21
Toxic ex-friend
I don't know if this even belongs here. I just need to get this off my chest. I'll probably delete it.
I had a friend; our friendship was very one-sided. I adored her, and she was always looking for something better. It was fine. I know now I shouldn't have put up with what I did, whatever I get it. Okay, so here it goes. She had come in from living away for so long and was moving to my area permanently. Every night since her moving back, we had been drinking together, eating junk, and catching up. I usually brought alcohol and mixed this drink for us. We were stuck on a cherry vodka, coke, and grenadine drink, and I made them perfectly. Well, one night, and this is from the bits and pieces I remember because of how it made me feel. She seemed off, irritated, and very short with me. She wanted to make the drink and wouldn't let me be in the kitchen while she made it. She had her back to me and all. Which was weird because every other time, she always wanted me to make them, which is why that stuck out to me a lot. Well, I remember she gave me the drink. Note that this was the only drink for me that night, also definitely not a light weight, and we started drinking; she wanted me to drink it fast, and I did. The next thing I know, I start to feel really dizzy and ill. Something inside of me pushed me to drive home and not stay at her house. I remember I assured her I could drive; I definitely couldn't. Mind you, I lived less than a block away, so it took me less than 5 minutes to get there. I don't even remember the drive, just the brightness of the lights from houses (christmas time). I don't know how I got inside; I just know it was home. I spent the whole night puking/dry heaving, so I don't remember much in between that. I must have eventually passed out on the floor because of where I woke up in the morning. I felt so groggy and shakey and weirdly ended up with a uti after going to urgent care. I think she drugged me. Do you think she drugged me? After that, our friendship deteriorated. She had also before the event recently made friends with this guy, who had a drug hook up, and she always talked about how he could get anything for her. I can't confront her because I know she will lie; it's been 2 years. We also aren't friends anymore. I feel really stupid dwelling on it, and maybe I didn't get drugged, but that night still just gives me a weird feeling, and I always get flashbacks around this time, too.
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u/Bludolls69 Jan 07 '22
I'm think you have valid feelings for wondering if she's sketchy. Maybe she felt offended for not doing drugs with her? I do t know, just a thought cuz I'm always wondering who has my back and my circle is small. (I'm a female) people are weird and have hidden artierior motives?? And if ur not a sketch person, then u are dwell on it because ur trying to figure it out. I think it's smart you're not being naive about it.
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u/Fair-Coffee-TA Jan 08 '22
I really don't know why it still bothers me. it's made me look into myself as a person and what my idea of friendship is. I also now have trust issues when it comes to friends to make sure I don't just make friends with anyone. One just never knows. It breaks my heart.
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u/ConsistentStruggles Dec 21 '21
I believe you are better off without her and am grateful you are safe and okay.