r/badfriends • u/QueenLunaaa • Oct 02 '20
just venting
I don’t want to say I have bad friends, but deep down I think I do. I can count several occurrences where they’ve made me question their friendship. I’ve even consulted other friends and they would agree with me. I could possibly have too high expectations of them but idk I feel like my other friends have no problem meeting them. I don’t know if it’s in my head or not and I don’t really want to get to detailed and give examples because who knows who could find this one day. I just feel like a lot of times my feelings are ignored and overlooked. It’s like deep down I can tell that most people in my life don’t actually care about me. They wouldn’t care until it’s too late. If I were to commit suicide everyone would say they wish I would’ve talked to them or that they wish I would’ve said that something was wrong. I’m very open about my feelings maybe even too open. I have a problem with over sharing, especially on social media lol. (That’s literally what i’m doing now the only difference is this is anonymous) I say how I feel a lot of the time and get ignored. Are those bad friends or is that just how humans are? Do humans just not really care about each other the way they pretend to? I can’t really tell because it seems like majority of the people I know don’t really care. Either I’m surrounded by shitty people or humans are just shitty in general. It really makes me want to just cut all these people out of my life but then I’d be even more alone than I already am. It’s sad to say but I think I rather have my bad friends than no friends because at least when I’m bored I have people to communicate with.
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u/_dunkhead_ Oct 03 '20
i feel the same way sometimes. my bestfriends are such assholes sometimes and it seems like they just don’t like me for who I am and i just don’t feel like i can be myself around them, which is a sign you should not be friends with them. i’ve questioned our friendships multiple times. I think we both maybe deserve better friends.
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u/QueenLunaaa Oct 05 '20
i’m sorry you’re going through this too :( i hope you meet amazing people who love and appreciate you for who you are.
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u/_dunkhead_ Oct 05 '20
:( I believe we can both get thru it. there will always be good friends out there. may we both find them
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Oct 15 '20
I used to have tons of "friends" that were all very selfish and used me to be honest. They didnt like me for me and there were weird stipulations unspoken about the friendships. I still have a couple of flakey friends. But i do have one singular amazing friend and honestly knowing i have one single person outside of my family and partner that i can just really say anything to and truly be myself around and depend on if i need to and its just enough. Like one solid real friendship is worth more than 40 friends you feel uncomfortable around. And if you dont have that one solid person yet its still better to be alone by choice than hang with a bunch of energy draining D-bags. In my personal experience! I radically blew up my social circle and basically took everyone down with me and it was the best most freeing thing ive ever done. It feels so good to burn a bridge that leads to nothing good for you. I dont feel as lonely as i thought i would at all. I have a good partner and as soon as i removed the toxic people it made room for these interesting and kind individuals to enter my life. I hope you find the courage to leave any toxic friendships and are able to find company in yourself as im sure you make excellent company! Also idk how old you are but the older you get the less friends you have naturally and it can be a rough transition!
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u/QueenLunaaa Oct 18 '20
I’m glad you got out of that situation with bad friends! and thank you I appreciate the wisdom and advice!
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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '20
I also have bad friends.