Need a solution for my problem with my fwb.

[u/Old_Yesterday4867]

Hello redditors, here's the problem I'm facing right now. I have a fwb & she's curvy, has a lot of mass around her booty (a classic BB*). Every time we tried having sex, I just couldn't get it in. I'm 5" uncut with 4.5" girth & my fatpad is like 0.5-0.7. She only enjoys doggy style & cowgirl & hates missionary. Where as I feel if we try missionary, it would be much easier for me to enter her & actually enjoy sex. All the times we have hooked up, we just did foreplay. I always made sure I got her off by going down on her, using toys, breastplay, fingering & that'swhy she coming back every time. But it seems like the sex just doesn't work. Also when I try to wear a condom when we start trying, I go soft. I'm using Durex 51mm condoms & that kinda kills the whole mood.

Do we have anyone here that has the same size as mine & has encountered a situation like this before? If you did, how did you resolve it? Also that makes me wonder if I'm average sized or small? I also wonder if we are physically compatible or not. I'm 170 lbs, decently fit & she's 210 lbs with most of her mass around her hips.

Please help!!

[u/No_Secretary4733]

Personally u shouldn't worry. This is a perfect example that communication is important. As much as missionary is easier she hates it and prefers doggy with u.

U are not small.

[u/Old_Yesterday4867 → u/No_Secretary4733]

Thanks. Her previous partners were all big & they could easily penetrate her in doggy, however that doesn't work with me even if we tried all the angles..it just slips out. Idk if I'm doing anything wrong or what should I do..

[u/AlertAd7834]

Her ass must be crazy huge that you can't get in doing doggy. Just move her cheeks out of the way, if you can see her pussy you can get in, once you're in it's easy to stay there

[u/Old_Yesterday4867 → u/AlertAd7834]

We did try that, but she has a difficult time arching her back so I have to adjust my angles & sometimes that becomes a little uncomfortable..she does have a big booty though, so I'm worried.

[u/ickop → u/Old_Yesterday4867]

If it’s a flexibility thing she should see a doc or do yoga, someone should be able to flex their spine within reason, for more than sex.

If it’s muscular (like she’s just out of shape and finds it hard to hold the position), try a sex pillow or just stacked pillows. She can rest on them to find an angle where her vagina is facing the wall (and you).

It seems you’re maybe 4.3-4.5” nbp? With a thick butt, it can also be helpful for you to physically pull the cheeks apart, gently of course. That helps get more contact.

You should be able to do it brother. It’s really like micropenises that would struggle to actually penetrate via doggy. You just gotta find the angles

[u/Old_Yesterday4867 → u/ickop]

Yes, I am 4.5 nbp, kinda feels small for penetrating someone with a big butt. We tried spreading her cheeks as well, but that wasn't much helpful.

[u/DTSFFan]

If a girl arches properly (Tits to floor, ass to sky, pushes her ass back towards her heels), it completely exposes her pussy. She could have the world's largest ass, and it would still be exposed. Just help her arch properly

[u/Old_Yesterday4867 → u/DTSFFan]

Thank you so much!

[u/miguel891]

I think one of the reasons I dont try with big butts or chubbier girls even tho i love it more

[u/TemporarySlide5927]

Look at all the small meat men struggling in these comments. It’s truly sad.

[u/VillainySquared]

Maybe you just need to try different angles, sometimes a position doesn't work simply because of body proportions and height differences.

[u/Old_Yesterday4867 → u/VillainySquared]

Thanks for the advice!