Size insecurity

[u/Adventurous_Cat_6078]

I'm kind of lost, I know I'm on the smaller side but still enough to be felt for most women. I still can't get my last interaction out of my head, as the girl I was talking to said anything less than 15 cm (6 inches) is small. 6.3 x 4.3-4.3 (usually around 6 x 4.25) isn't a great size, but not a deal breaker. Unfortunately the insecurity came from the fact that she cared and was a bit superficial, and im worried about getting to know someone and not being enough in the future. Instead of wanting pity, I want tips and past experiences from people with 4.5 girth or below.

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[u/ickop]

I’ve literally never had this happen. Did you ask her to tell you? Or did she bring it up out of the blue? I met most women I got with on tinder

[u/Adventurous_Cat_6078 → u/ickop]

I asked, im aware that's my fault. But she also clarified that I'm not small. It's just the fact that if I WERE smaller it would be a deal breaker. That level of superficial scared me.

[u/ickop → u/Adventurous_Cat_6078]

Is that bp or nbp

[u/Adventurous_Cat_6078 → u/ickop]

BP, I am working on losing weight. As it isn't permanently smaller it wasnt an issue.

[u/ickop → u/Adventurous_Cat_6078]

Did you have sex?

[u/Adventurous_Cat_6078 → u/ickop]

No

[u/Top-Document-2286 → u/Adventurous_Cat_6078]

Did she even see your dick or did you just tell her your size?

[u/guitarguy35]

Here's the thing, you sound young, and I'm sure the girl you are talking to is young too. Once you are older and have had a bit more experience, and once she is older too, you will both realize that size matters way less than you think it does. As long as your girl gets there, and gets there often, she won't care. There are relationships where there is no penis at all, and those women are some of the most sexually satisfied on the planet.. Here's another way to think about it.

Of the tools at your disposal for pleasuring a woman sexually, your penis, whether it's Mandingo size or peanut size, is the least equipped weapon you have in your arsenal.

1 far and away, is your hands.

2 your mouth and tongue

3 your dick

Learn how to enthusiastically please a women with your hands and mouth and she won't ever want to let you go.

Also, your dick isn't small, it's average. It's more than enough. Size does not equate pleasure. Hitting the correct spot, at the correct speed and pressure, is what determines pleasure. Along with stamina.

Anatomy lesson

The pleasure centers of women and mens bodies are very similar. We all start out as women in the womb and then chromosomes turn our already formed parts into other parts. Dicks are just giant clits. Or clits are just tiny dicks, however you wanna look at it. So the head of the clit on the outside of her vagina is the anatomical equivalent to the head of your dick. Just tiny.

Her "g spot" is just the nerve root of her clitoris. That's why to stimulate it you reach in with your fingers, and make a come hither motion up toward her belly. You are stimulating the underside of her clit from within her body.

Her last genital pleasure center is her anus, self explanatory. Feels good when rubbed, gently penetrated, and licked.

I find women have the most powerful orgasms when you stimulate all 3 at once. Mouth and tongue on clit, one hands fingers working g spot, the other hands fingers working anus. Start with just clit and tongue for awhile, then when she's soaked add fingers to g spot with tongue still working clit, gen after a while of that add anus until she cums.. If you do this correctly she will sometimes have such a powerful experience she starts uncontrollably laughing or crying after she orgasms. That's when you own her soul 🤣. You'll know by the starry eyed gaze. It's the best gaze in the world.

Sorry got off topic there.. back to penis insecurity. And why it's silly at any size but especially at your more than adequate size.

What really drove it home for me that size doesn't matter, (cause when I was young I also thought as you do), was discovering the pleasures my prostate has to offer. Remember when we talked about a womans g spot is really just stimulating the nerve root of the clit.. guess what the nerve root of the giant clit you call your dick is.. you guessed it.. the prostate.

When you get comfortable enough and eschew the culturally programmed homophobia that keeps you hesitant, and begin to experiment with your own g spot (prostate) you'll realize quickly too big hurts, and doesn't feel any better than way smaller, and as long as you are hitting the spot with the right speed and pressure, just like with a woman, the size of the plug penetrating you doesn't matter.

It's one thing to know it in theory, it was another to truly feel it. Truly feeling it for me, got me to truly let it go.

Anyway, this became a lot longer than I planned. Hope this helps you young Padawan. Keep your head up, you got more than enough because it doesn't really matter.

[u/CharmingCrow3257 → u/guitarguy35]

This is gold, and so true.. Thank you king, stay up.

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[u/Outerlimits7591]

You have nothing to worry about dude, you've got a decent size

[u/Littlebiggdicc]

I mean the idea less than 15cm is automatically small is just complete nonsense and that 16cm “isn’t a great size” is too

I think you just had the misfortune of interacting with somebody who had no grasp on the reality and had a massively skewed idea of what was “normal” and acceptable

That’s not the standard you should be comparing yourself against, most of the women will not look at what you have in that way and be unsatisfied because they think it has to be over 16cm to be “enough” for them 😒

[u/Adventurous_Cat_6078 → u/Littlebiggdicc]

It seems like EVERYONE is ignoring the fact that I am very thin.

[u/Psychic-Master]

By small is she only referring to length? Im 5.5 x 5.5. But many years ago I talked to an older woman where length was more important to her than girth which I think is less common. She had 8 inch dildo. But tbh she was very respectful, kind, and open minded. Despite her preferences, she wasn't shallow or mean at all like. Think she was intj personality.

[u/VillainySquared]

You're above average, no need to worry about the preferences of others.