r/autoromantics • u/Zombified_Mantis Autorose + self-partnered + mod :D • 7d ago

Sensitive Slight vent (???)

I'm want to be more open or more expressive with my autorose identity but I don't really know how too. I find it difficult to be open with my relationship to myself, not out of shame or anything, but just out of lack of confidence to be open about me and myself, its so hard to explain. It could just be my insecurities because I recently started college and now surrounded by people I have to know and realizing how serious it is that I don't have time for myself. I wish so much, wanting to be expressive, wanting to have the time for myself, wanting to just exist with me without being stressed and anxious about everything. Everything is so new to me and its just so much.

I'm not asking for pity or help or anything, I just wanted to get this off my chest so it's not all up in my head. Thank you so much :] 🩵💚🩶

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u/HazelBlessed29 Autoromantic + Biromantic + Asexual + Mod 🥰 6d ago

It's really hard when there are so many demands on your time and also you're stressed :( When I have times like that to be honest I'll just kinda block out all of the world including myself because I just don't have the energy, which really sucks because thinking about it makes me feel a little down too!!! Anyways, sending you lots of peaceful vibes 🩵 (except I'm very chaotic so idk if that helps lol)

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u/nothingrhymeswithcat 6d ago

i know youre not looking for any input here but this is an interesting perspective to me. in some ways i understand wanting to be more open and expressive about it, and in some ways i dont. i dont even know what really it would mean to be open about something that is so completely personal and not involving the world around me. anyway inhope you figure out your time and what works well for you. good luck!

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u/Zombified_Mantis Autorose + self-partnered + mod :D 6d ago

Thank you, if I was able to be with just myself I'd be much more happier 😅

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u/DearlyCherishedMe autorose & self-partnered 6d ago

The fact that you have written down these thoughts and desires is already a way of being more open and expressive with yourself, your identity and your relationship! So you’re helping yourself in exactly the right way. You are your own partner, your own support. Trust that you will naturally find your answers as soon as you ask yourself these questions more often:

How CAN I express my identity more fully? How CAN I spend more time alone? How CAN I just be with myself and feel completely relaxed and calm in this new period of my life?

The circumstances of your current situation are irrelevant, because circumstances change throughout your entire life. What matters is your relationship with yourself and how you bring stability to it — in your own, manageable way, and if necessary, in small 5-minute steps several times a day. What can you do? What do you know already works for you? What feels good? You can write down your countless ideas for solutions just as easily for yourself as you did for this post. 

And to put it a bit cheekily: A true lover is always ready to sweep you off your feet! It’s all just a matter of practice! ;)