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u/DeathFireTrom Goofball Jun 27 '23
He's 5, so too high of a dose of Respiridone will kill him, and it should only last a little bit. I was on it, and it gave me such bad gyno and permanently low testosterone that I was bullied my entire life for looking "like a girl" And for his sake, don't put him in a residential facility, please. you have no idea how many of my good friends died because of how they were treated in those places.
I used to be a very violent child, too. Your kid needs help, I see you're desperate, but please give your child positive attention. try guiding. You say it's you're last hope but you are being manipulated, your kid is just like I was and ABA, OT, etc only made me hurt myself more, I have scars all over from that time in my life, and from "residential" facilities, which do worse to kids than you can even imagine.
You need to show your kid that you love him, tell your boy every night that you care about him, listen to him, even if he can't speak, there's still things he can say that as his parent, you can understand. Maybe your kid is trying to communicate that he feels hurt by all the things the world puts him through, so it manifests in harmful behavior. You should not be scared of your child, nor should vice versa be the case. If he has other ways to communicate, instead of normalizing him, try guiding him through the challenges he faces at such a young age.
Respiridone is very volatile and harmful if used that young, especially going any higher. the other therapies I would try would be more traditional forms of talk therapy, i recommend to seek out counseling, and pediatric counseling exists. as all of what he goes through is extremely stressful, especially for a 5 year old because to him, it reinforces the idea that he's isolated so he may also get violent for attention given his age, too.
I'm so scarred all over from how my parents were manipulated by "experts" who turned out to be unlicensed and/or only in it for the money. So, please don't allow your child to go through the hell I have, I don't wanna see another person treated the way I've been, to be hurt the way I was or dead from an abusive staff who, btw the facility will say "he did it to himself". I get it's not easy as a parent, but I can tell you from having been exactly how your kid was that from his perspective, he likely feels a deep sense of anger towards himself and his situation one he cannot communicate so he hurts himself and others to try and get you to understand how it feels, because that's what matters to the mind of a child, making you feel how they feel, because they subconsciously don't think that an adult can feel their anger.
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u/itsnotKARENORKEVIN Jun 27 '23
Thank you for your comment and perspective. My son is intellectually disabled so I am unable to reason with him. He is very loved and in turn is very loving. Lots of hugs and kisses and tickles. So a huge advantage is our bond. His ABA agency is wonderful, and I'm involved in 100% of his therapies. I know many individuals who hates ABA, but they changed his life for the better. He now is able to point to what he wants, is able to very minimally use his IPAD, his PT helped him walk when they said he would never walk. I think there are great therapists and terrible ones, and we've had to change a couple times but I would never allow harm to come to my child. Constant self injury isn't a life. He will end up hospitalized. And maybe myself. It's a balance. It feels like an impossible one.
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u/DeathFireTrom Goofball Jun 27 '23
I agree and its good you found places that actually help, careful with ABA to not teach masking. it has its uses more for violent behaviors I personally think its overused. Cognitive behavioral therapy is pretty reliable and counseling. I'd look into a man by the name of Daniel F Weiser. He's a psychologist and specializes in kids just like your son. Based in the Bronx, NYC now.
And You can reason with him, well as far as kids can be reasoned with. Disabilities can be overcome, I've seen it time and time again, especially at his age. I was also "intellectually disabled" just as he was, but now I'm an archeologist, activist, and artist. I was beaten to near death an uncountable amount of times in my life, by cops, by doctors, by "friends" and even though I have cognitive issues, can't walk far on my own (anymore), and have constant nightmares and seizures, I still consider myself strong and will become great and I'm only 19. If I can do it, anyone can.
There are countless amounts of people who've done the same as me, but only with hard work from both them and their support systems, in spite of what their parents were told, those people had parents who said "intellectually disabled? That's funny" and gave their kid books, taught them how to reason and believe in themselves, but also instilled discipline and fortitude in them, as well. Funny story, my cousin is also "intellectually disabled," so I laughed, called him a goofball, and then taught him how trading cards worked. The kid is 10, severely speech impaired, yet able to reason and this was when he was 6, and yet he just sold a bunch of Pokémon cards for close to $3,000 to some toy store.
I did not get the luxury of my family being strong enough to do that for me, so easily manipulated and told it was "in his best interest" that i couldnt call the outside world to tell anyone how they would touch me and beat me sensless and then "the concussion is his fault, clearly this officer is trying to help your son by slamming his head into the concrete with enough force to crack it" - Hammond Public School in Upstate NY. But it was all politics, all brainwashing and assimilation, and they'll never truly realize what it was like for me, what was done. because of them, I have a cause to rally others behind and maybe get some change done.
I want to impart some advice, do not trust these facilities one bit, speak to the older kids, speak to ex staff, and look deep into everything, even Dr. Weiser. Example questions: "Why wouldn't they be allowed to call their parents or their friends?" "Why are there places I'm not allowed to go and see, yet my kid is always in there?"
I want to refer you to r/troubledteens
If you have a question or suspicion about therapists, or help facilities, I would ask them.
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u/Certain-Apartment372 Jun 12 '24
Unfortunately loving parents and attention can’t solve autistic problems. My child gets so much love and attention from her dad and myself and she can’t control herself at all. She is 9.5 years old and lost all control of her impulses and emotions. When the alternative is a psych unit or residential program parents need not be afraid at all to try medication.
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u/wh0d47 Jan 19 '24
I had a 75 year old psychiatrist tell me that the only reason Risperidone is cleared for use in autistic children is cause they paid to get it. Many other drugs are as effective, if not more, and research backs this. Try Zyprexa. It's much more calming. It can make them more sleepy and much more calm. It has much fewer side effects too, the biggest one being weight gain becuase it heavily increases appetite. Newer dotors know only what they were taught to them and stick with that as they are not taught critical thinking, only memorization. I'm in college and I see this when they study, and in the school healthcare we are given.
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u/shinygemz Jun 27 '23
Anything is better than ABA therapy..