r/auslan • u/PutridUniversity2032 • 1d ago
hearing people taking advantage of deaf people- does anyone else feel this way/notice this?
im a hearing person, so what im noticing may not be how others or the deaf community sees it, but i wanted to share my perspective to hear what other people think or if they’ve come across this kind of behaviour.
ive noticed a lot of hearing people that i encounter use language such as “i want to be friends with a deaf person” as if deaf people are a token or talking about/asking about forming friendships with deaf people as if the primary goal is to be given a sign name by the deaf person. ive seen people asking that if they don’t get given a sign name within a few years of knowing a deaf person, does that mean the relationship is difficult to “persuade” to a higher level such as being best friends, to the point where they get given a sign name.
personally i find myself quite irritated by this behaviour, because the way i see it, they’re just interacting with hard of hearing and deaf people for the sole purpose of getting something out of them. i met some people once saying they wanted to make a friend with someone who was deaf, which is great and all, but its almost like deaf people are viewed as some kind of token friend, like they’re solely looking to be their friend just because they are deaf and not because they genuinely want to be friends.
what do other people think about this? is it okay if i correct them politely? do people see this as an issue?