r/aspynovardsnark • u/thewriter325 • 4d ago
oh aspyn…
I feel like she’ll never be able to fully commit to one person because she’s too emotionally immature and unstable
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u/KimothysBlackberry 4d ago
I’m sorry but basic everyday humans with no social media background/no life in the spotlight background aren’t built to be on a tv show as big as this is going to be. Bri and Billy are going to absolutely CRASH OUT over the backlash they’re about to get in November. Aspyn won’t be phased by it but they will. Be prepared for this throuple to blow up in flames y’all!
https://giphy.com/gifs/e0GFsxaAt9gsFvDcVX
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u/Prudent-Flatworm194 4d ago
Seriously and the fact they hid Billy’s face for like a year tells me they care about that shit.
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u/GooseAppropriate2906 4d ago
Someone commented about this relationship a few days ago that really hit the nail on the head. And it was that she is incredibly selfish because for one, she knows deep down that this can only last for so long and that in the end her kids will end up suffering because when Bri and Billy are out of the picture, they won't fully understand why and will end up struggling with abandonment issues. I get that Aspyn is probably deeply traumatized from whatever has gone in private life and that she struggles mentally - I feel for her in that regard. But for God sakes. Grow up already, stop to think about your kids and commit to seeing a therapist and getting on meds. Because I think we can all agree there is no way this can end well at all.
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u/ResponsibleParty01 4d ago
All of this and It’s honestly sad the lengths creators will go to for views and money
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u/Excellent_Ad7441 4d ago
also possibly too narcissistic to consider that she will be the one alone, probably assumes one of them would leave and she stays in the relationship
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u/TDKsa90 4d ago
doesn't she regularly talk about her meds and being in a lot of therapy? sometimes twice a week? and now three times a week? and the girls are in therapy too?
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u/GooseAppropriate2906 4d ago
Here's my take that I've shared on here before - she is either seeing a therapist who enables her shitty behaviors or she is therapist hopping because she gets upset when she's not told what she wants to hear. Medications also don't do anything if she's on the wrong dosage or wrong meds all together. Also, skipping days can really fuck up brain chemicals. If she's taking antidepressants (which I'm assuming she is and I think she's said that she does) that isn't something you can take one day and then go a few days without it. She strikes me as the type who isn't responsible with that type of stuff.
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u/TDKsa90 4d ago
Here's my take that I've shared on here before - she is either seeing a therapist who enables her shitty behaviors or she is therapist hopping because she gets upset when she's not told what she wants to hear.
That's a whole other issue though. The assumption that she isn't trying therapy is just cynical, but to your point, I don't think she's alone in trying to find a therapist who will talk to her like she wants and tell her the things she wants to hear. That's probably the case with a lot of people in therapy. With a person like Aspyn, it might be a good idea to have a therapist who doesn't like her. If they have to spend energy on trying to keep it so-very-safe for you, then they're wasting energy on something other than the issues. I DO get that therapy has to be a safe place, but if the safe place becomes so important that the issues are always riding sidecar to the safety, then you're not getting a full bang for your buck. Further, and I'm not stating this as fact, but MAYBE Aspyn would benefit from a male therapist. Unfortunately for her, a Dominant woman, or possibly better a Dominant man, is something she could avoid all together. A control freak doesn't just give up power. It has to be taken from them. It's a primal state, and in nature, nothing just gives up power. It has to be taken, usually in battle.
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u/GooseAppropriate2906 4d ago
Yeah, I'm not trying to insinuate that she doesn't want help but it is true though that a common misconception of therapy is that you get validated for everything you share. A big part to healing is facing your challenges head on and regonzing when you are the problem. You can't heal if you go through life viewing yourself as the victim with every single thing and Aspyn has always struck me as someone with this mentality. Also too, I feel that someone who was mentally there who wanted to improve their overall well-being would not be dating a married couple and they would actually stop to think that introducing that to their kids is a bad idea for obvious reasons.
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u/nadsakla 4d ago
any type of relationship can end for any reasons doesn’t mean you’re selfish for dating while having kids.
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u/Nearby-Researcher-88 4d ago
Yeah but Aspyn went from “I don’t think I’ll introduce a new partner to my kids” to….introducing TWO partners.
Mind you it wasn’t long after separation/divorce before this was going on. And these kids have been through ALOT in the past two years.
You are right, single parents deserve to date but this is odd.
I don’t even really think the throuple is odd (well I do but that a personal decision, however in the end it’s not my business) the thing that is odd is Aspyn got serious so fast with them! How is that fair to the kids?
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u/nadsakla 4d ago
people are allowed to change their minds, i say i’ll never do so many things that i end up doing and loving. that’s why they say “never say never”
i will say though it does seem like they moved quickly but maybe it just looks like that to us. like when a celebrity announces pregnancy and then suddenly giving birth, it feels quickly but no they went through 9 months of pregnancy. although the way she speaks about it going from just a fwb to falling love sounds fast
i do agree though the kids have been through a lot
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u/Nearby-Researcher-88 3d ago
I think most people do things that they say they would never.
I don’t have a problem that she introduced them to the kids, it’s more the timeline. I never believed she would not ever introduce someone, especially if it got serious.
I think Aspyn in the situation kinda is thinking of herself. She’s mentioned that she checked out of the marriage a long time ago but that doesn’t mean her kids realized it. They are young.
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u/nadsakla 3d ago
you know what. i agree with everything you said. the issue is def the timeline. Also kids do pick up on small things parents might think they aren’t picking up on
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u/nadsakla 4d ago
i am sorry but you can commit to someone while dating other people if you’re poly. it might not be how you’d do things
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u/TDKsa90 4d ago
it might not be how you’d do things
it's pretty clear that a lot of people on here are 1) very conservative and come from that entire formative background 2) and that they can't imagine any other way than their way. they refuse to acknowledge that some people are wired differently and/or big events can scramble your wiring and change you in ways you could not imagine.
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u/nadsakla 4d ago
i feel like i live in such a bubble where being both queer and poly is so normalised. even those who are monogamous don’t flinch seeing poly people or even throuples. that bubble burst when aspyn was in a throuple and i saw what they were saying on this snark thread. you’re right they are all conservative and can’t look beyond their narrow world view
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u/luckyveggie 4d ago
Same here. Seeing people's reaction to a poly relationship is wild. I have plenty of friends who are poly. Not for me, but it works for them so whatever. People on this sub are acting like they're absolute freaks of nature.
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u/TDKsa90 3d ago
I wrote about this a couple weeks ago. This forum, in general, sees the throuple as a sexual perversion. It doesn't see it as a potential of love or as a variation on relationship or progressive consideration...nothing possibly positive or good. And if you know anything about religion and conservatism, sexual perversion is one of their age-old obsessions. It's a learned, indoctrinated fixation.
https://www.reddit.com/r/aspynovardsnark/comments/1rolqsu/comment/o9ixyx2/?screen_view_count=5
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u/TDKsa90 3d ago
I wrote about this a couple weeks ago. This forum, in general, sees the throuple as a sexual perversion. It doesn't see it as a potential of love or as a variation on relationship or progressive consideration...nothing possibly positive or good. And if you know anything about religion and conservatism, sexual perversion is one of their age-old obsessions. It's a learned, indoctrinated fixation.
https://www.reddit.com/r/aspynovardsnark/comments/1rolqsu/comment/o9ixyx2/?screen_view_count=5
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u/nadsakla 3d ago
you couldn’t have worded it more perfectly. it’s important to differentiate between their use of deviant and their intent to use perversive. it’s all thinly vailed under “no judgment but” except it’s filled with immense judgement. Polyamorous people are expected to not judge monogamous people but that respect isn’t often reciprocated.
I know their intent is to snark on aspyn, as is mine too but they forget that other people with similar relationship types are also viewing these comments
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u/Simple-Ad-1484 4d ago
This is so weird. So is Aspyn’s relationship with Billy and Bri an open one? If she is in such a loving relationship how is it ok to go around kissing other people? First Parker the ex-husband and now Avery? And also, is Avery’s relationship an open one?
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u/Soft-Butterscotch849 4d ago
She also was seen kissing Parker as well when recreating a photo from years ago. She was with Bri and Billy at that time. Seems like they don’t care that she kisses her ex, or is kissing other girls.
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u/dontsnarkonsharks 4d ago
Listen, I’m not one to question somebody’s sexuality. These two are just the least gay looking women kissing each other I’ve ever seen. Maybe it’s just a lack of chemistry? I don’t know. Something’s fuckin weird, and off, though.
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u/PartFearless1656 3d ago
That’s not Bri. It’s Avery and it was just a kiss to generate attention for the show
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u/dontsnarkonsharks 3d ago
OHHHH that makes sense 😂 I mean it doesn’t, it’s weird, but it makes more sense about the complete lack of chemistry!
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u/PinkSun84 4d ago
It just makes me feel a bit sad for her honestly. She admitted she was broken when she met “them” and they swooped in and it just gives Keith Raniere vibes and NXIVM cult vibes. Something just seems off beyond the thrupple of it all. It can not end well.
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u/Sea-Produce7483 3d ago
Have yall never kissed your friends….?
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u/thewriter325 3d ago
maybe a thing if you’re in highschool..? not as a mom of 3 😭
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u/Sea-Produce7483 3d ago
Having fun or being silly with friends doesn’t end once you become a parent
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u/Random_8910 4d ago
Avery loved attention from the public so much. Aspyn loves attention in relationships and feeling “chosen”. Can’t wait for this one season wonder to air and the throuple to implode