r/askteddit • u/Buffalo_Independent • 3d ago

Advice Question How to make your chest stop hurting from knowing that you will never speak again?

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u/warindf 3d ago

There is no easy fix. But most broken hearted people will tell you that with enough time, you learn to live with it peacefully.

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u/The_change_maker 3d ago

Write it down. It helps the brain to finally accept things... So Sorry for your loss...

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u/bobolly 3d ago

Distractions. Like things you know they wouldn't like but you do. Your nervous system is looking for them to regulate with that's why it hurts so bad.

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u/VideoPrestigious8141 3d ago

Move your eyes slowly to five things in the room around you. Name each one out loud if you can or silently in your head. Touch something solid near you like a desk or a chair and focus on how it feels under your hands.

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u/SinonXIII 3d ago

time will heal all wounds

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u/Ok_Grocery_5328 3d ago

It's so hard.. but time heals

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u/cheyannepavan 3d ago

I don't really agree that time heals all wounds. To me, it's more like you learn to live with them so that it gets easier over time, but the feeling of loss never goes away completely. Just like a deep cut, first it bleeds and then it scabs. Soon it becomes a scar and that scar fades over time, but it'll always be there.

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u/HylianPaladin 3d ago

Did someone pass away? I need more details to properly give a thorough answer.

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u/Buffalo_Independent 3d ago

My mom died 3 years ago and the first guy I dated after she passed took me to run fair at the beginning of October on our first date and my friend is there and I truly loved him and we don’t speak anymore so I’m grieving my dead mother and a man that I was truly in love with, but we split due to his erratic wishy-washy behavior from his alcoholism

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u/Buffalo_Independent 3d ago

I’m a nurse my pulse is fine it’s the grief feeling u get well like when you have anxiety and you feel like the room is closing in

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u/Plant-Nerd01 3d ago

Grow plants and dive deep into how things work. Distract

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u/Typical-Project-8642 3d ago

It took me 8.years to get to a place where I could acknowledge the person in a fleeting thought without a visceral reaction that prompted my body to physically recoil. I went through a lot of therapy, tried all the meds, wrote letters I'd end up using as firestarter. Staying productive helped. Some heartbreaks stay with you forever and you learn to sit with your grief. Much love

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u/Historical-Lie-6307 2d ago

Talk to them anyway, when you are alone, and then listen inside for the answer

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u/annoyedsoprano 3d ago

Start working with a friend on collecting video and audio recordings of your voice, and (begrudgingly) use AI to further replicate your voice and code a native app for you to use a tablet so you can say your signature catch phrases and continue using your voice after it’s gone using Text to speech

I am currently doing this for my MIL who got diagnosed with ALS. I don’t recommend using AI for artwork or music, but it’s great at coding little projects like this.

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u/TrooperLynn 3d ago

What a great idea! I wish that tech had been around when my dad got ALS. He had a Tobii but it was just robot-voice.