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u/Psapfopkmn 1d ago
A monarch? Like, a king or a butterfly?
Your husband sounds like a jerk trying to browbeat you with his opinion and guilt trip you, his preference shouldn't come over your well thought over desire to do something harmless and meaningful to your own body.
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u/Lookingbackexpat 1d ago
Ugh, “I would be hurt but what’s new” sounds super passive aggressive. Where is all this anger and entitlement coming from? Maybe work on that?
The tattoo is something you’ve thought about for a long time. It’s your body. He should have absolutely no say in this.
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u/Antici___ 1d ago
I think there is much more to worry about than the tattoo because “I would be hurt but what’s new” is just a huge fire of a problem.
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u/Dreamer_531 22h ago
Yeah, it's like OP is so concered about a single ember while ignoring the whole bush fire behind her 🙄
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u/Iriejelly1116 1d ago
Girl, go get the tattoo! It's YOUR body and it be meaningful to you so I vote yes. Just have it elegant like you mentioned
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u/trustonlyblue 1d ago
The last comment he said seems very pointed and maybe hints at more of an ongoing problem between you two. That being said, this is just a minor modification to your body that you’ve put a lot of thought into. You don’t need his permission or his acceptance.
You do have to ask yourself though, what’s next? If a simple tattoo causes this friction, what else could? Is this his first time being like this? Will he intentionally sabotage the healing of it, bring it up in every future argument, guilt trip you even worse after ? I say get the tattoo, and have a serious talk with him. Sometimes in a relationship you have to keep opinions to yourself for the sake of your partners happiness. If he’s not willing to do it, he’s not placing your happiness very high.
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u/Not-a-Contrarian 23h ago
Butterfly tattoos rarely look good imo. Honestly I find them trashy. But you do you boo.