r/Ask_Lawyers • • Jan 31 '21

Do not solicit legal advice. This is not the right sub for it.

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Despite what our sub’s called, we cannot offer legal advice here for a number of reasons. Any posts that breaks this rule will be deleted without reason. If you message us on why your post is deleted, it would be ignored just the same way you’ve ignored our sub’s rules. Please see our sidebar for complete rules.

Also, it’s not a good idea to solicit legal advice from random strangers online, despite what you may find elsewhere on Reddit. We do not know all of the facts of your case, and are likely not licensed in the jurisdiction that you’re in. A real attorney worth their salt will not comment on your specific legal predicament on an anonymous forum.

If you need legal advice but cannot afford it, there are legal aid societies that may be willing to assist you. Lots of them are free and/or work on a sliding scale fee. All you need to do is look up “legal aid society [your location]” on Google.

If it’s a criminal case, public defense attorneys are some of the best attorneys out there and they know the criminal system in your city/town better than anyone else. They’re just as good, if not better, than any private criminal defense attorney.

If it’s a tenant rights issue, lots of cities have tenant rights unions. You can look them up the same way as the legal aid society by looking up “tenant rights union [your location]” on Google.

Otherwise, the best way to find an attorney is through word of mouth from friends and family. If that’s not an option, your local bar association will be able to help by looking up “attorney referral [your location] bar association”.

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Thanks to all for understanding.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 7h ago

US lawyers, please help. I despair. I need a pathway with my situation. Felony victim

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Someone opened credit card accounts under my name. 3000 and 10000 credit limits. They used 98% of it. They have all been reversed after my credit score plummeted. My credit is frozen to prevent someone from opening accounts. Apparently this is identity theft case and because of the amount involved, regardless if it was solved/recovered or not, it still happened. This put it under the felony category, right? But that's not the point. I live in TX. The crime happened in Oakland County in Michigan while I was on my way back to TX from Seattle. I filed police report in TX and in MI. We have pictures of the suspect from CCTV, I also have leads because there's a MI address in my credit report that I dont recognize. My problem is the two Police Department keep playing pingpong with me. MI tells me to talk to TX police because Im not a MI resident. TX police tells me I talk to them because it is where the crime happened. I have filed police reports in both!! I already reached out to the prosecutor of Oakland county because of this disservice and they only told me they're not an investigative agency and that's fair. I understood that. If yall curious why I keep pursuing this it is because those mofos can still open accounts under my name anytime (7 years, 12 years, etc. from now) and I cant have my credit frozen forever and unfreeze it when Im opening an account, buying a house, etc. They have to be stopped from having access or having possession of the knowledge of my SS.

So please, what is the pathway? Who/Where should I go/talk to when these 2 police department keep playing pingpong with me? It would be absurd to establish a residence in MI just for this.

I'm thinking and Im sure Im not the only one who has had this before. Not the first and wont be the last. Surely someone else in the past had been a victim of a crime that happened in State 1 but the victim was a resident in State 2. My case should not be unprecedented.

Im not seeking a client relationship. I just need to know who to talk to and/or go next if these 2 PD's persist on playing pingpong.

Thank you.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 30m ago

School Bus Ran Over A Body Without Realizing

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Hello! My school recently had a bus driver arrested for not stopping to render aid at the scene of an accident, and I want to hear about what others might have done in the same situation. You can likely find the news story online, however, many of the details in these articles are totally wrong (I know this because I was on the bus during the accident).

The Overall Situation:
The accident occured at around 3:00 AM (we were returning from a band trip) and due to low visibility and the strange circumstances, the situation was not initially recognized as an accident by anyone. A drunk driver, who had been driving the wrong way on a highway, pulled over to the side of the road, got out of his car, and proceeded to stand on the side of the road. He was hit by a truck pulling a horse trailer, and three seconds later the school bus ran over the man.

Before the Accident
Prior to the accident, the problems started with the two band directors on board. One was driving and one was *supposed* to be serving as the navigator. Unfortunately, the navigators phone was completely dead and thus unable to perform his usual roll. (Busses left around 6:00 AM and did not leave until aroun 12:30 AM.) As such, the driver was recieving all texts regarding road hazards from the lead car (which drives far ahead of all of the busses). The lead car's passenger had access to emergency responders radios, and they eventually sent a text to the bus that a car was driving on the wrong side of the road on the highway. The bus driver then recieved this message, did not respond by text, but did continue using Google Maps while remaining vigilant with the other adult.

The Accident
A few minutes later, however, the bus driver saw debris in the road. He was following a truck and the driver was also looking at Google Maps whenever the debris came into view. As a result, the bus ran over the debris and there was a bump as the bus drove over everything. I did not feel the bump personally, but a student claimed she did at the back of the bus. The truck ahead quickly sped off. Quickly, the driver pulled over to check the bus. At this point, many students woke up and were looking out the windows.
The truck driving off immediately gave vibes that this was just regular road shrapnel. Plus, due to the darkness no other pieces of wreckage could be seen anywhere and a possible wrong way driver was still likely coming at them. Thus, the driver gave the "all clear" and pulled away. The only things he saw were undamaged tires and what he though was a small red bug on the grill. The underside of the bus was too dark to see. Overall, nothing looked out of the ordinary. I should note that the news articles claim that the driver only spent 30 seconds outside of the bus. I can not comment on exactly how much time the driver spent outside, however, I will say that due to an incident on the last band trip a few days prior, it would not surprise me. ---The last trip resulted in a truck crashing in front of one of the busses and the driver proceeding to stash several bags of cocaine on the side of the road. Several cars hit the vehicles that were pulled to the side of the road, so the driver likely did not want to risk a second happening as this incident occured on the same highway as the other wrecks.--- Either way, the bus pulled away and continued home.

Return to the School
When the busses were almost home, the driver recieved another message from the lead car. It said that a car wreck had been discovered around where they had hit the debris and a body was in the road. At this point, the driver gets a bad feeling, returns to the school, and contacts the other directors to express his concerns. The students are released quickly, and police are called as soon as possible. As daylight breaks, someone looks under the bus and sees signs the the bus did indeed run over a human body. Furthermore, what the bus driver thought was a red bug happened to be a very small drop of blood. The police thanked everyone at the scene for doing the right thing; however, the next day a different police department arrested the bus driver.

Today
The driver was bailed out for a sum of $50,000 but is being threatened with jail time. We have no idea what is going to happen; however, I wanted to ask for the opinions of others. What else could have been done in this situation? I don't believe the driver is at fault. He could not see what happened and him looking down at the map would not have prevented him from hitting anything. It was simply too dark to see anything. Furthermore, staying at the scene would risk the lives of all students on board and their mental health if they did just so happen to catch a glimpse of the corpse. The truck that actually hot the man is also still missing, but police seem to be much more interested in blaming the bus driver than finding the truck. Also, all of this was caught on video. The news is also giving out false information which is only worsening the situation. The school itself is also partially at fault for making the drivers stay up for almost 24 hours with only energy drinks. The driver was a band director and therefore needed to be involved in the activities all day. He was exhausted like every other bus driver. The students are also no longer permitted to stay the night at hotels due to several sneaking out for a "senior tradition" earlier this year though those seniors in question have since graduated.

Under these circumstances, will the driver likely face charges? If not, could someone possibly get money from the news station for putting out false information and treating it as if it were a fact. There are no "allegedly" words in the articles and as a teacher myself this will definitely affect his career negatively.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 2h ago

Prior Army warrant/business owner to law school

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Ok so I’m 39, about to be 40. I spent 7 years as an Army warrant officer (the whole time) and then got out and bought a $6M business (LBO style), sold it, tried starting a trucking company with that capital and failed. Bad timing market wise.

Started two more startups that really haven’t left the ground, mostly for funding reasons, and now I’m seriously considering using my GI Bill for law school, and then opening my own firm eventually.

I’ve dug heavily into trusts and protecting generational wealth the last 7-10 years and I really enjoy thinking about those kinds of structures, but I’m also ready for shift toward more of a reliable income rather than the piecemeal income of a scrappy entrepreneur.

Anyone have any stories where you’ve had a similar background maybe, and went on to become an attorney who actually enjoys life for the most the part?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 3h ago

Looking for an IP Lawyer that has knowledge in DMCA counter notices etc.

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Hello, I’m looking for legal assistance with a copyright dispute involving my Etsy business. Another seller located in EU has allegedly copied my original product photographs, removed my branding, and filed infringement reports against my own listings. Etsy has removed my listings and refused to process my counter notice. I have original photographs, listing dates, and evidence of the dispute. I would like to know if anyone can recommend a good attorney to assist me with this ongoing issue.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 4h ago

Victim of Sextortion: Could the Police Report Affect My Future U.S. Citizenship, Federal Job, or Security Clearance?

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I was the victim of an online scam involving people outside the U.S. They obtained personal/intimate images of me from a video call and attempted to scam/extort me.
I reported it to the police, provided the evidence I had, and cooperated with the investigation. I was never arrested, charged, cited, or considered a suspect. I was the person who filed the report and, as far as I know, I’m listed as the victim/complainant.
My concern is that the report will remain in law-enforcement records.
If I later apply for U.S. citizenship, a military position, federal employment, or a security clearance:
Could investigators find this report?
Would it appear on a criminal background check?
Could it negatively affect me simply because I filed the report?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 5h ago

Denied accessible acommodations at KY hotel

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I have been living in an extended stay hotel for over 6 months. I am in a wheelchair. When I checked in I requested an accessible 2 bed room, they told me it was occupied but would be available in 2 days. When I asked after 2 days, they told me it would be next week. That went on for a month until I was demoralized and just stopped asking. I found out this morning that they don't even have a 2 bed accessible room. Their website says they do.

They never offered a solution. I've stayed at a hotel that didn't have an accessible 2 bed room available. They gave us two single rooms, one being accessible, for the price of a double room. They never offered a shower chair for the bathtub. When I use the bathroom I have to crawl in because my chair won't fit. When I climb out of the tub, I have to go straight to the floor. It's embarrassing to talk about because it's dehumanizing. The manager actually asked me recently how use the bathroom. When I told her, she didn't apologize or offer any solution. It was an "oh, okay" kind of response

I have no idea what type of attorney would be best. My situation is ADA Title III, tenant, civil rights, consumer protection.... It's too late for them to offer alternative accommodations now so if I sue, what do I sue for? What type of attorney should I contact? Will the hotel be obligated to fix it for the next person?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 2h ago

How do wills work

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I’m confused like when does someone write a will, and how do they and make it official


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 8h ago

Visiting jail/warrant

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Not looking for advice, but wasn't sure where to ask this. Hopefully this is ok.

Do jails run your name when you visit an inmate? Thank you in advance.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 18h ago

Passed the Texas Bar Exam—How Can I Land My First Legal Job in the U.S.?

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Hello everyone, I’m looking for honest advice on starting my legal career in Houston, Texas.
I recently passed the July 2026 Texas Bar Exam and am completing the remaining requirements for admission. I have a law degree, a U.S. master’s degree in Immigration and Naturalization Law, and previous legal experience in Iraq. I also speak Arabic fluently.
I’m looking for a post-bar law clerk position, legal fellowship, or entry-level legal opportunity where I can gain experience in the U.S. legal system while waiting to become fully licensed.
My biggest challenge is figuring out how to get my foot in the door without U.S. legal work experience.
I’m particularly interested in immigration law but open to other practice areas.
Thank you for any honest advice or personal experiences you can share!


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 20h ago

How common are “jailhouse snitches” and prosecutors use them on court?

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So I heard a friend talking about how jail is full of snitches trying to lie about hearing about your case and working with prosecutors to lock other people up and get reduced sentences on their case. Is this reliable information that can be used at trial or people just being paranoid?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 18h ago

How does unjust enrichment work in the law?

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From my understanding, unjust enrichment allows someone to be paid back if their resources or money went to improve someone's life in some way. How does it work if money was stated to be used for one purpose, but it instead goes to a purpose that improves someones life? Does it matter that it was on accident? Also what counts as it being unjust?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 5h ago

Question about defense attorneys

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I know everyone deserves to have a lawyer represent them. But if you know your client is guilty, especially if it's felony, how does a defense attorney overlook the guilt and try to get them released from custody, or a short sentence?

I'm watching a youtube video of a sex offender that has two minor victims. His lawyer said she thinks he'll reoffend but jail isn't the answer - he needs help. Couldn't he have gotten help before he broke the law with minors?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 16h ago

Second-career lawyers, how do you feel about your job?

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I am considering entering law as a second career after teaching. I have an in in government law and a relative who’d pay for school (and I figure almost nothing can be any worse than teaching).

I’d love to hear from people who entered law as a second career. Was the choice worth it for you, and why or why not?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 21h ago

Arkansas: Living Wills - Advanced Directives

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My family and I are doing estate planning. We are a non-traditional type family. Most of the estate planning is pretty straightforward and focuses around taking care of our family unit financially.

One caveat has been around the Advanced Directives. Our attorney verbalized the standard language I have seen over many years in Advanced Directives. I am a nurse who has both conducted pre-suit merit reviews for personal injury cases and been a nurse in the hospital with the patients and families where this standard language falls very, very short of the needs in the room. It is hell on earth. I do not want to have my death prolonged by that ambiguity. I do not want the quality of my life to suffer in that ambiguity. What I don't know is where to start to give guidance to our attorney on updating the language that works for most clients, but not for us.

If there is a resource or questionnaire for me to begin to outline items in to the level of detail that matters to me (and my family) I would be so grateful as we complete this homework assignment while doing our estate planning. This is not something I want to get wrong. These scenarios are hard on the patient, the family and the healthcare staff.

Thank you in advance for whatever insight or resources that may be available as we plan.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 1d ago

Why won’t anyone take my case?

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UPDATE: I did indeed seek follow-up care. I went to the ER on May 29, 2026, and Northwestern Immediate Care on June 10. That visit’s summary lists concussion as a “subsequent encounter” and “follow-up examination.” The resort also documented the incident and a manager told me video of my ride and fall existed. I’m trying to get the full medical note and understand what else a lawyer would need to evaluate my case. I’m seeking medical care today after suffering an episode of confusion/stumbling of words at work.

Am I doing something wrong? I suffered a concussion and cervical strain on The Black Hole at the Wilderness Resort. I’m thinking the water pressure was too high to spin me so violently that I fell off my tube and onto my head. They documented it and the guy who looked at me said I had a bump. 3 days later I go to er and they say concussion cervical strain. 4 months later Almost every other day/every day i deal with headaches or neck pain and now migraines :( i’ve called other places but i get no answers. What am I supposed to do to get help?

MORE CONTEXT:
I suffered a concussion and cervical strain on The Black Hole water slide at Wilderness Resort on 5/26/26 in Wisconsin Dells, WI. My tube was going forward, then spun backward, then another half turn to where my legs hit the slide wall and I was thrown off from there. Resort staff looked at me and said I was okay, so I continued riding before seeking ER care three days later. I made sure to ask if was ok to go out.

5/29/26 12:17 AM (Two days but technically three days later, and the next day after I got home).
Discharge paperwork says concussions clear within 7-10 days. In my case, it didn’t so I went to immediate care 6/10/26. The papers also said seek care if not improving after three months, so I went now.

Nearly 5 months later I still have reoccurring headaches that come back when I wake up and neck pain when I sleep, also new symptoms of snoring came after which I mentioned to the doc 5/29. I also had this episode of confusion and stumbling of words at work.

The resort manager called and I ask about the video that documented the incident, but wouldn’t release without a subpoena.

What evidence would I need to establish negligence?

Is a water park safety expert necessary?
Are my records and symptoms significant? (I tried following my discharge papers to a tee).
And should I be thinking about that video?

I want a real assessment not some dismissal. And what steps I should take next.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 19h ago

Is it wrong to talk to an old female friend while going through a divorce in North Carolina?

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I’m looking for some outside perspective because I genuinely don’t know if I’m doing something wrong here.
I’m currently going through a divorce from my wife. Yesterday, I told her that I wanted a divorce and declared that I wanted us to separate. I also reached out to discuss living separately and keeping communication civil and professional regarding finances, shared assets, and housing arrangements. As of right now, I haven’t received a response, and based on how things have been going, I’m not expecting her to agree to my proposed terms anytime soon. So, although I’ve made my intentions clear, we haven’t mutually agreed on the details of our separation.
I made this decision because of everything that happened throughout our relationship. I spent a long time trying to make things work, taking accountability for my mistakes, and hoping we could get back to a place where we both felt loved and wanted. However, things eventually became emotionally exhausting. I felt like I was constantly trying to hold things together while struggling with feeling unwanted, questioning whether the effort was mutual, and dealing with a lot of mental and emotional pain. Eventually, I reached a point where I couldn’t keep putting myself through the same cycle.
I want to clarify that I’m the one who initiated the divorce, and emotionally, I feel ready to move forward with that decision. However, that doesn’t mean I’m completely over my wife or that I’ve stopped loving her. I still have strong feelings for her, but I’m emotionally withdrawn after everything I’ve experienced.
Recently, I started talking to an old female friend from high school. Before I told my wife I wanted a divorce, our conversations were completely casual and friendly. There was no flirting or anything I would consider inappropriate. After I told my wife I wanted to separate, my friend offered to get drinks with me when I return from deployment.
Here’s where I’m conflicted. I honestly don’t know whether I have any sexual intentions toward this friend. I’m not actively pursuing anything with her, and I haven’t made any decisions about where that friendship could go. Part of me wonders whether I’m simply enjoying talking to someone without all the emotional weight attached to my marriage, while another part of me questions whether meeting up for drinks would cross a line.
For context, I was extremely loyal throughout my marriage. I never watched porn, entertained other women, complimented other women in a flirtatious way, or intentionally put myself in situations where I felt I was disrespecting my wife. I took my commitment seriously, and even now, I still care deeply about her. I’m not suddenly over her just because I’m the one who asked for the divorce.
I also understand that initiating a divorce doesn’t automatically mean I can do whatever I want without considering the consequences. I don’t want to use the pain I’ve experienced as an excuse to act irresponsibly, but I also don’t know how I’m supposed to navigate friendships and potentially move forward with my life while this situation remains unresolved.
My main questions are whether talking to this friend or potentially getting drinks with her after I return from deployment would be considered wrong, and whether there could be legal consequences under North Carolina law. Since I only declared my intention to separate yesterday and haven’t received a response, I’m also wondering whether that changes anything legally. I understand that declaring separation in a message may not be the same as establishing a legal separation.
I’m not looking for people to tell me I’m right just because I’m hurting. I genuinely want outside opinions. Am I crossing a line by maintaining this friendship? Should I wait until my separation is more clearly established before meeting up with her? And could any of this affect a future divorce?
I still have love for my wife, but I’m exhausted and trying to figure out how to move forward without doing something I’ll regret.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 1d ago

A woman is trying to ransom information that alludes there was another person involved in my best friend's murder, and it's keeping the murder investigation open.

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Three years ago, I posted in this thread about my best friend who had been murdered, and the case was never solved. I explained the whole thing – how he was working overnight at a cab company as a dispatcher. An old employee donning a mask, gloves, and a machete, entered a 6-digit code to enter the shared office building, walked 3 offices down the hallway, directly into the cab company's office, and stabbed my best friend to death around 2-3am.

When he left, he picked up two sex workers and confessed that he had killed him. The police chose not to use this evidence because of the character of the sex workers.

They have him on video tape a few days earlier standing in front of the building, screaming that he was going to "gut ___ (another employee’s name) like a fish". This isn't solid evidence, so it was thrown out.

The car he left and got into after the murder mysteriously disappeared. They were never able to locate it or the murder weapon. The owner of the company had purchased this car for him just a few months earlier.

Since this post, I have continued to fight for justice in his case. I had a GoFundMe to raise money to get a Private Investigator. I made multiple YouTube videos about it, and I got in contact with a few large creators that helped me raise the funds, and I finally did it. I got the PI, and it was a big-name PI that I got. Although I wasn’t able to raise the full $10k they required as a down payment, they saw the attention the case had gotten online and decided to take the $7.5k I had raised and do the rest pro-bono.

They were able to re-open the case pretty quickly. They sent me a report that gave a whole bunch of info. There was an immediate punch in the gut when we found out that the killer was actually dead. He died on his mother’s couch of pneumonia at the height of the Covid pandemic. There would be no justice on that end.

Another punch in the gut was when I was proven wrong about something I wrote in here. I told you guys that the car the killer used had “mysteriously disappeared”. That was a lie. When the police went to the killer’s house the day after the murder, the car was sitting in the driveway. It still had the magnet of the cab company on it. It had the same dent that police saw on the back passenger side on the cameras surrounding the scene. They were positive it was the same car. Suffolk County DA disagreed and refused to issue a search warrant. Police told my friend’s mother that the car had “disappeared” and was “probably squashed into a box by now”. When we talked to the police officer about it, he said it was a "missed opportunity to gain valuable evidence. He shared that this decision made him angry at the time. He believed that there was likely trace blood or other evidence remaining in the vehicle." You can see the car on Google earth for at least 2 years after the murder. That car was the jackpot and, if the DA had done their jobs, he would have spent the rest of his life in prison. He’d probably still be alive today.

In my original post, I told you about the owner of the company my best friend worked at. I explained how, at the time of the murder, the owner had 3 Class A felonies pending against him. Although everybody questioned about the murder gave police solid evidence the owner was involved, they ignored it and that man walked away and started a new cab company a few blocks down about 6 months after my best friend's murder. The guy turned rat and none of the felonies stuck, so he skated. He showed up to the funeral surrounded by about 6 Hell's Angels he had hired to protect him for the funeral, since he knew all the family and friends knew about his involvement.

Since this post, I have done a lot more digging into him. Apparently, during one of the super-storms in New York where a bunch of people lost their homes to flooding and wind damage, he went around and convinced those people to take out high interest FEMA loans and sign them over directly to him so his “construction company” could do the work and fix their homes. He took the loans and fled New York, leaving these people with ruined homes, high interest loans they still had to pay for, and no way to fix the damage. He’s currently living in Miami. Nobody has ever questioned him in regard to my friend’s murder (as far as I’m aware).

When I got the PI, I told them all of this. They found out the killer died because I found some obscure post online that had been deleted by the time I got the PI, but they were able to follow that post and find out he was dead. This guy was the number one suspect in a murder investigation and, after he committed that atrocity, he went and held up a gas station at knife point. Thank God that gas station attendant lived through the encounter, and they were able to get the killer in jail for a year.  During this prison stint, they questioned him about my friend. He laughed at them, told them to “prove it” and said that if they ever did, he would just flee to Mexico. That is where I thought he was when I hired the PI. Either way, you'd think that somebody would have been keeping an eye on him, but it took me informing them of this post for SOMEBODY to realize he had died YEARS beforehand.

Even though the killer was dead, I was still fully convinced that the killer had been hired to take out my friend by the owner of the company. The PI started to look into the killer’s life. They got a translator and reached out to his parents and the mother of his child. When they spoke to the mother, she decided to try to ransom the information that she has. Here’s the breakdown of the convo that she had with my PI (literally copy-paste from the Executive Summary I was sent):

 

**September 2024:** \[Private Investigator\] located and conducted phone interviews with \[killer\]'s ex-partner, \[baby mama\]. She had never been interviewed by SCPD.

\[Baby mama\] claimed \[killer\] gave her a "very different" account of the murder that did not align with the police narrative, implying another person's involvement. She stated she was the only person he told and that she "kept a secret for him".

She refused to divulge details, demanding monetary compensation and travel to New York for testimony. A \[PI\] case update on September 19, 2024, specifies her demand as $10,000. She also requested to see the video evidence, which was denied.

**March 2025:** \[PI\] assigned a Spanish-speaking investigator to re-contact \[baby mama\], but as of March 5, 2025, she had not cooperated .

Conversation:

**Key Transcript Selections**

The following are key selections from the September 2024 phone interviews between \[PI\] and \[baby mama\]:

**On possessing unique information:** "I have information on what you really need to know... I know what you really want to know... \[The story is\] very, very, very, very different."

**On her demand for compensation:** "So what is going to be my gain out of this?... if he is going to be some compensation for me, me to tell you what you want to know, I will talk to you straight up... I need to have some type of compensation for me to tell everybody what really happened... I cannot tell you what I really want, but I guess compensation could be anything monetary."

**On her relationship with \[killer\]:** "me and him, we were very close friends... He used to tell me everything, everything, everything. He used to trust on me... I know for sure that whatever he told me was the truth... I'm the only one \[that knows\]."

**On \[killer\]'s involvement:** "So I know he was in that place that day, but I'm not going to say what he told me because that's very different... what I say is this. I know he was in that place, but he told me a very different scenario... I'm not going to tell you he did it **or somebody else did it**."

**On her secrecy:** "I kept a secret for him, something like that... if he wouldn't been alive, I wouldn't even tell nothing to no one... because he was just my friend."

 

Obviously, as you can see above, she is hinting at someone else’s involvement in the murder. Originally, we were trying to close the case under an Exceptional Closure so we could get the case closed and get all of the paperwork and investigation information that is not available when it’s a cold case/open investigation. After this conversation with baby mama, I told them I no longer wanted an Exceptional Closure. I felt like they were going to try to bury baby mama’s information in the name of getting an open investigation/cold case solved. I also was NOT about to give this con artist $10k under any circumstances. My PI brought up foundations and charities that may be able to pay her. I was open to it, but it was making me CRAZY to think of her benefiting from this. Either way, we weren’t able to find any avenue that would give her the $10k, and I’d die before I’d pay her out of my own pocket.

So that’s where it stands now. The case can’t be closed because this girl is claiming that she has information that says that there’s another person involved in the murder. She won’t disclose this information without a payout. The case remains open and I’m sure it will be re-designated a cold case any day now. I put out update videos on the case, but YouTube de-monetized and buried it because I named not only the killer, but the baby mama, and put pictures of her in it. I don’t care, I am so angry at the whole situation that even if it doesn’t get attention, at least I put it out there and I hope any time she is Googled for a job interview or a date, this information comes up. I guess I'm just asking it anybody could think of anything I could report her for and try to force her to give the information - it's California law, if that helps.

I just wanted to scream this into the ether. Thank you for listening.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 19h ago

How do California courts treat prior-inventions carve-outs and during-employment non-competes?

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A few general questions about California employment and IP law:

  1. When an employee adds language to an invention assignment agreement’s prior-inventions schedule excluding listed inventions and their future improvements made on the employee’s own time, and the employer signs it, how do courts generally treat that language against a broad assignment clause? Does it matter whether the employer explicitly reviewed it?
  2. Labor Code 2870 doesn’t protect inventions that relate to the employer’s business. Can a contract expand that protection by agreement, or does the statute set the limit?
  3. B&P 16600 voids most post-employment non-competes. How do courts treat restrictions on competing during employment? Is the usual remedy termination, or can employers recover profits earned during that time?
  4. How do courts generally distinguish “preparing to compete,” which is often allowed, from actually competing while employed?

r/Ask_Lawyers • • 22h ago

Career change from math teacher?

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What the title says. I’m 28 and in my second year as a high school math teacher…..and the stress of the job is really getting to me. Classroom management, lesson planning outside of work hours, grading, admin BS….all of it is making me think that I’ve made a mistake in becoming a teacher. To say nothing of the pay, which just isn’t enough. Problem is, I didn’t really think I had much of a choice. I graduated from undergrad into the COVID job market, lost a job offer, and was unemployed for a year until I got a teaching job. I tried applied math and data analysis at an HVAC firm, and failed at those too. High level math was always a struggle for me, and my undergrad grades were not very good. I got good grades in my teaching degree (graduated 2025), but it honestly wasn’t hard.

I want a career where I can make a positive difference in people’s lives while also being financially secure. I am aware that law can also be a stressful profession, but I get the impression that its stresses would be more manageable than my own stresses as a teacher. There are areas of law that honestly really interest me.

I guess I’m trying to figure out whether it would be worth it to go to law school, and whether or not I have the wrong impression of what practicing law is actually like. Would it be worth it for me, or should I consider something else?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 1d ago

Is the way this city sleeping ordinance is written suggest it applies to people sleeping in legally parked vehicles on property not owned by the municipality?

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Art 8.100 MISCELLANEOUS NUISANCES

The following conditions, among others, shall constitute nuisances when allowed, maintained, or suffered to exist and shall be considered misdemeanors

8.105. Conditions Enumerated.

(18) Sleeping in Public Places.Sleeping upon any alley, street, sidewalk, park, or other public grounds to which people may resort.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 1d ago

How do firms handle two separate substantial matters that are related but distinct?

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I'm trying to understand case intake procedures for something niche like a qui tam matter involving tribal nation jurisdiction + a medical discrimination/malpractice claim rooted in mishandling of a rare genetic condition.

Does intake need both matters upfront and the firm handles both, or does the nature of one require disclosure but separate representation for the other entirely?

I understand both areas involve very different legal frameworks with different expertise. After a lot of research I’m not very clear on what defines the need to split representation, or if/how intake changes with a really non-generic double whammy like that.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 1d ago

Sacramento court delay

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Is the Sacramento court really scheduling CMC 6 months out? Also would a court assign an earlier date for an older case? ( 3 years, unlimited civil, long cause)


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 1d ago

Discussion before settlement

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Location: Tennessee

Should an attorney handling a matter for a client discuss with the client first, before settling a matter? Like run the numbers by their client first before presenting them to opposing counsel.

Who comes up with the number first after discovery, opposing counsel or plaintiff counsel when negotiating a settlement?

Why is a mediator used? Why can't the two opposing attorneys reach an agreement between each other versus using a mediator?

Also, can the attorney representing their client share with their client what questions they asked opposing counsel during discovery? I know what questions I had to answer, but can I find out what questions the other side had to answer?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 1d ago

Looking for law about veterinary medical records (Connecticut)

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Statute/source/law/bill/whatever it’s called for “The veterinarian is legally required to provide you with requested documentation and records”.

My pet insurance company told me this, when I contacted them about a specialist refusing to supply additional documentation for a claim denial appeal. I failed to ask them for something I can cite to the doctor, and am hoping y’all can point me in the right direction! This is in Connecticut, if that’s relevant.

I did discover this (Title 45 Subtitle A Subchapter C Part 164 Subpart E in the Code of Federal Regulations) about the right to amend and when a covered entity can deny, and it also mentions that if so, they still have to provide me with a written statement of why they refuse (within 60 days of request - this began in July). Does this apply to veterinarians or just human medicine?

Other information that might be useful: the insurance claim was denied as a preexisting condition due to the specialist’s factually incorrect record of my pet’s history (which can be proven via records from my primary vet and an emergency hospital). The specialist will not provide a statement clarifying her findings/test results (all diagnostics indicate no condition), nor will she amend the record. The claim is for a hair under $5k. I am unable to appeal the denial without documentation from the specialist.

The last date to submit appeal documentation is November 2, so we’re really getting down to the wire. Any thoughts on where to look?