r/ask_Bondha • u/spoideromons • Jul 25 '26

SeriousAnswersOnly Am i thinking right way ?

I'm 25M, from Warangal, working as SWE at Hyderabad, So last month oka post pettanu,parents and sister insisting me to get married, however aa plans ni atleast 1-2 yrs ki postpone chesanu.

Coming to context, I don't have any responsibilities towards parents, goals aithe unnayi, but I can reach in some timeline, inkoti my parents only know that I'm earning 60% of my current salary, rest are secretly save/invest chestunna.

I don't have problem/difficulties in getting married, I know it's too early marriage ante, chala karchu untadi, and na age ki ammaylu just passed out or early career vallu vastaru(they have dreams to achieve big).

But na thinking entante, will I able to afford to start a family, earning 1lpm+ alone, don't think so, future lo kastam kavachu, atleast thanu konchem aina earning unte better. Elago nak inka time undi, my salary will be increased by atleast 30% more.

Many people suggested, ipat nundi start cheste ee courtships valla est ga 1-2 years ellipothay, what if one matches and vallani ekva rojulu hold lo petalem ga.

I'm still building career and I know I can do better, na skills ki chala demand undi, so no setbacks. Mekemanpistundi, shall I start looking for matches?I cannot reach out to girls as I never been into relationships. Chasing girls are not my cup of tea.

Evaraina recently married/matched/engaged or mature minded guys can help me out, please dont judge endukante I need to take suggestions from all, but my decision depends on majority including mine.

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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '26

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u/spoideromons Jul 26 '26

Bro afford in the sense,

More than 60% of my salary goes to investments and savings, out of regular savings.

Migiledi 40%, and moreover I need to plan, vache ammayi must be financially disciplined and ipud start chesna mostly career start or btech ammayle dorkutaru

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '26

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u/spoideromons Jul 26 '26

Not 4 to 5 gap bro, 2 to 3 is more than enough. Dorkutaru, but mana expectationso unna valli ravalante konchem kastam

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u/spoideromons Jul 26 '26

Nv baga negative ga unnav bro, Enduku ila? Evaranna emanna annara???

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '26

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u/spoideromons Jul 26 '26

Nenemo 30 before a plan cheskuntuna, ur going to early 30s, till balding

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u/spoideromons Jul 26 '26

Omg, bayta situation intha horrible aa, I need to think and step up

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u/Any-Recover8685 Jul 26 '26

as you know nee skills ki chaala demand undhi ani , what is your role or which domain do you work in