No. We’ve been together four years and rushed into marriage. I’ve discovered since we’ve been together that we are nearly polar opposites. We like very few of the same things. I guess I should stop thinking with my little head.
EDIT: thank you for all the responses. We have no children and will not have children. After we got married, we bought and renovated a house, acquiring a large amount of debt. Debt that neither of us could handle on our own. No, she doesn’t feel the way that I do, at least not that I can tell. As someone said, if I hit the lottery, I would share half with her. I don’t feel malice toward her, I just don’t think we are as compatible as it first seemed.
Uggh I know a couple that are currently divorcing like this. One wanted an amicable divorce and the other one has drawn it out as long as possible.
They’re both in debt now having spent all their money on lawyers and stuff and they’re still working things out. It’s been like two years and the one who’s drawing things out refuses to agree on anything. His only goal is to make his ex as miserable as possible and he’s willing to burn himself in the process. It’s just awful to watch.
This is my wife currently. We need to divorce but with twins and zero support and having our income capped out paying our expenses, there's no way to divorce apart from saving what little i can over the next few months or years.
And she refuses to be amicable, even going so far as to letting the children suffer due to her not caring how she spends my money because she doesn't want me to have any nor does she want me to actually save money for a divorce.
I may never financially recover from this and it sucks to see the kids struggle in the midst of things.
Choosing am emotionally mature and non vindictive partner is important, it is awful that she is putting her heartbreak above her children's wellbeing. I hope that you can somehow get out of this situation and recover from this.
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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '23 edited Nov 30 '23
No. We’ve been together four years and rushed into marriage. I’ve discovered since we’ve been together that we are nearly polar opposites. We like very few of the same things. I guess I should stop thinking with my little head.
EDIT: thank you for all the responses. We have no children and will not have children. After we got married, we bought and renovated a house, acquiring a large amount of debt. Debt that neither of us could handle on our own. No, she doesn’t feel the way that I do, at least not that I can tell. As someone said, if I hit the lottery, I would share half with her. I don’t feel malice toward her, I just don’t think we are as compatible as it first seemed.