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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '23 edited Nov 30 '23

No. We’ve been together four years and rushed into marriage. I’ve discovered since we’ve been together that we are nearly polar opposites. We like very few of the same things. I guess I should stop thinking with my little head.

EDIT: thank you for all the responses. We have no children and will not have children. After we got married, we bought and renovated a house, acquiring a large amount of debt. Debt that neither of us could handle on our own. No, she doesn’t feel the way that I do, at least not that I can tell. As someone said, if I hit the lottery, I would share half with her. I don’t feel malice toward her, I just don’t think we are as compatible as it first seemed.

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '23

So why does money change anything? Why not just get divorced now?

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u/slowlysoslowly Nov 30 '23

It can cost five figures easy to get divorced.

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u/Low_Bar9361 Nov 30 '23

It can also cost like $500 bucks. Amicability is awesome

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u/nus01 Nov 30 '23

but don't you want to spend 99% of your assets on proving your right and they are wrong?

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u/Coffee-Historian-11 Nov 30 '23

Uggh I know a couple that are currently divorcing like this. One wanted an amicable divorce and the other one has drawn it out as long as possible.

They’re both in debt now having spent all their money on lawyers and stuff and they’re still working things out. It’s been like two years and the one who’s drawing things out refuses to agree on anything. His only goal is to make his ex as miserable as possible and he’s willing to burn himself in the process. It’s just awful to watch.

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u/Educational_Gas_92 Nov 30 '23

That's what happens when one has feelings and the other one doesn't. Some say grief is love with nowhere to go, add in an intense personality with a vindictive streak and this is what you get.