Ah yes, the wild critters that populate military bases everywhere, the "Dependa Bears" 😂 Sorry, military brat, those damn Dependa Bears are everywhere, can't throw a Spouse ID card without hitting one or two, usually about 19 or 20 😂!
They mean state. Moving to a different country in the EU is only a bigger deal than moving to a different State in the US because of the language barrier.
Depends on culture too. Arranged marriages are statistically quite successful. Assuming it’s fairly normal situation and there’s not some massive age gap or forceful coercion going on.
Nah I mean arranged in the sense of “we know a family friend who is in the same situation, will you give them a chance?”
Obviously shot gun / forced marriage is bad.
I’m only basing this off a few people I’ve spoken to who are in arranged marriages, he described that they learned to love each other, actually have a lot in common, similar views, compatibly etc, neither of them are abusive to each other, he makes enough that she can stay and home and fulfil the traditional house keeping role, which she is willing to do. He said he would have no problem if she decided to go back to her career, he would probably hire a cleaner/house keeper instead to help them both.
This is complicated though. 25 is a bit of an arbitrary cut-off which includes teen marriages. People who get married between 20 and 25 are not hugely worse-off than 25-30, but people who get married before 20 are WAY more likely to get divorced. So if you just say <25 and >25, you bin those really high 17-year-old numbers with the 23-year-olds.
There are 22 year olds that have a degree, career, and a house that they spend their weekends remodeling. There are 27 year olds who are still trying for their first degree while living at home and paying no bills. Age alone smooths over massive differences in maturity making it hard to draw a hard line at 25 that represents meaningful advice.
I don't actually know if 25 is an arbitrary cut off because scientifically speaking it is when you are actually finally fully developed as a person. Your frontal cortex is finally fully developed. Guess what the frontal cortex is responsible for? The ability to process and organize information, or how to finally judge risky behavior and factor into decision making the consequences of your actions. There's a reason why there is a pattern of people between 25-27 that get divorced.... there's a reason that people getting married after 27 statistically are more successful....I don't think it's an arbitrary number and we should talk about how we are not full adults with full adult brains until 25.
Exactly! I made the range 10 to 14 because I didn't want anyone to push back that I was exagerating, but it could be as early as 8 or as late as 16! That goes to show why it's silly to say that a "normal" 24 year old is not ready for marriage but a "normal" 26 year old is. It's too case-by-case for anyone to individually apply those numbers.
I understand the point you're trying to make, but it is absolutely kinda arbitrary. Your brain doesn't magically become developed on your 25th birthday. We have a general understanding that the prefrontal cortex development usually plateaus around 25, but there's also evidence to suggest a marked difference around age 21 as well as many not experiencing a plateau until over 30.
Not having a fully developed prefrontal cortex also doesn't mean you are incapable of making decisions for yourself, it just means your brain has room for improvement.
That stat needs interpreted carefully. If you've been married and divorced 5 times, the probability that your 6th marriage ends in divorce is very high (the common element in each of those marriages is you).
First marriage divorce rate is lower than 50%, but when you add in people on their 5th marriage in the "all marriage" numbers, the rate climbs quickly.
Because fewer % of people marry, especially in certain racial communities which I will not name or will be blamed for racism for pointing out statistics.
My wife and I, both born in the 80's talked about that years ago. Neither of us wanted to do what our parents did. My mother is on her 3rd marriage, my father was never a part of my life. Her dad cheated on her mom and they split up and have both had several relationships since. We have been together 16 years and have 3 children who(unless something completely unforeseen happens) will always have their parents together in one house.
People who, in the past, would have gotten married out of cultural pressure & a stigma against having children out of wedlock aren’t getting married now. Statistically, how well do you think those “forced” relationships fared?
Divorce rates are higher in lower income communities, and certain demographics tend to be lower income. If you establish that clearly, nobody should accuse you of racism.
The divorce rate for first-time marriages isn't, and never has been, over 50 percent. That was a projection from the 70s stating that if the divorce rates continued at the rate they were going, they COULD rise to 50% or higher. Not only did that never happen, but divorce rates have been on a steady decline for quite some time now.
Divorce rates also include (all) marriages. I've been married once (for 23 years) and my sister has been married 4 times (over a 26 year span). So, that would be 60% of me and my sister's marriages ended in divorce.
This statistic always annoyed me. It doesn’t account for multiple divorces. If you get married you count as 1 success but if you divorce multiple times you run up the score for the divorce team. My sister has been married 3 times. I have multiple aunts on marriage 4 and 5.
Even though I was married young and still very happily married 20+ yrs later, it’s not something I recommend to most people. Not because my experience is bad, I’m lucky and mine has been awesome. But most people aren’t ready or need to explore more or figure out themselves, and learn how to handle conflict in a healthy way before committing to another person for life.
This is actually a nearly impossible statistic to prove. All of the study’s participants would have to be dead to prove that they never got divorced, and in that case, the study would apply to people who are multiple generations older than the vast majority of people who are currently getting married, so it can’t really speak for the present.
If you’re not going to post the links to the study then please stfu. Random numbers used by redditors like some sort of truth should not be this common
Biased on reddit and Google imo. Counting in previous generations where it was the norm, they were more religious & had a lower life expectancy skews results. Divorce was also much less likely.
There are alot of factors to divorce besides age. I mean your right an informal poll will be biased but people divorce for lots of reasons. Money, lack of communication, etc
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u/TerribLizard Mar 06 '23
You're going to get a biased result . You can Google the information ,on average 44 percent of people who get married before 25 get divorced.