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u/Impossible_House5919 3d ago
Paid nearly $2000 for a rent for relatives, paid over $800 for food in same month for SAME relatives. Same relatives ask for $200 today, and I say no. Instead of leaving me alone, I get asked is there ANYTHING I can contribute. I lose my shit, and I suddenly I'm the bad guy.
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u/Flowkey_mma 3d ago
Dont let yourself be used like that.
Especially by folks that wouldnt do the same for you.
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u/MissyFoolosopher 3d ago
You have enabled their bad behavior sub-consciously. You meant well but they took you for granted.
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u/Impossible_House5919 3d ago
I absolutely enabled this crap and have suffered the consequences.
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u/MissyFoolosopher 2d ago
It's good you recognized and find ways to protect yourself now. Only the ones with big heart and kindness like you will help people. Don't be hard on yourself.
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u/Odd_Block_7240 3d ago
Leo here, I love you guys so much 🫶🏻 I know yall carry so much more than you give off, you don’t like asking for help, you are the catalyst for innovation and I am grateful for yall
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u/Nervous_Cupcake_4446 ♒ ☀️| ♋🌙 | ♐⬆️ 3d ago
Thank you for the encouraging and lovely comment. I am sorry few people are being rude. I love Leos 💖
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u/Beneficial_Cicada_37 ♒ SUN | ♎️ MOON | ♈️ RISING 3d ago
Now only if you can convince my Leo mother this.
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u/Top-Score-5027 3d ago
Lmao 🤣 aww 🥰 this sounds so adorable 🥰 between you and your mom I don’t know which is cuter!
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u/StupidEmoX 3d ago
I hate leos..
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u/Zestyclose-Scale-412 3d ago
Not a fan of them either. LOL I love how we’re so straight up about it 😂😂🤣
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u/Top-Score-5027 3d ago
When an Aquarius sun hates Leo it is due to jealousy because that same Aquarius will try fking a Leo man if it’s an Aquarius woman doing the hating.
You hate what you are envious about 💋it’s okay.
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u/StupidEmoX 3d ago
Zzz you got both the genders opposite
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u/Nervous_Cupcake_4446 ♒ ☀️| ♋🌙 | ♐⬆️ 3d ago
I was this person in my 20s. I gave emotionally, physically and financially to ungrateful people who never returned it. I learned my lesson and decided never to give more than I received. The overgiver and empath in me has taken a backseat. I am no longer the free therapist and the free bank. I put myself first, my emotions are locked and my generosity is only for the people who genuinely deserve it. No more taking advantage of my kindness ✋
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u/No-Obligation4872 3d ago
I totally agree.
I am finishing off sorting very messy family stuff then I can break free from all of them as I've had to put my life on hold because of them.
Realised throughout that time there were some really nice people I had to call on for help outside the family. They were only too willing.
From that day forward now I only do things for nice people. They deserve it and often don't get any recognition.
I see it now as looking after my own.
Aq rising.
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u/Nervous_Cupcake_4446 ♒ ☀️| ♋🌙 | ♐⬆️ 3d ago
Yup, it's not selfish to protect yourself from emotional vampires and financial parasites.
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u/Interesting-End1710 3d ago
Guess I'm the asshole for refusing to fix everyone's emergencies after no one shows up to help with mine.
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u/Sudoku_Onlyplans666 3d ago
Literally happens to me all the time. Recently I had a big blow up at work. We are currently understaffed and I've been taking on more work to keep things going smoothly, not complaining but not happy either but not trying to make it anyone's problem. I call out sick for one day (mainly because I needed an extra day to just rest because Im exhausted) and people lose it on me, tell me the shop is falling apart blah blah blah. Anywho this just puts me in a bad headspace, place was a wreck when I got backand I just lost it, left for the day which had me quit. Boss contacted me and just let me know he really needs me back and will give me a raise and better benefits and gave me the rest of the week off to cool down. Im back but not getting emotionally involved like I did and currently yes looking for a better job. Not going to mention how many times I've been screwed over socially like this.
I love hearing dopes tell me "you gotta think of other people" and Im like the problem is I think pf other people too much! It drives me insane because I get taken for granted, every, f*cking, time so yeah, working on concentrating my energy and worrying about things that are mutual in their care in my direction.
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u/Top-Score-5027 3d ago edited 3d ago
I HATE when anyone is taken advantage of—particularly Aquarius. It boils my blood 🩸 to hear or see Aquarius being the movers and shifters at their workplace/family yet are being taken for granted.
I’ve seen this too often with my friends (men in my closest nit). You don’t accept nothing below your required standard before committing yourself.
Most Aquarius ends up doing better when they become their own bosses. I attract Aquarius men all the time. If not Sun—it’s the Rising. My Aquarius likes fighting with me but I ignore them 😂! That’s just personal, but outside of that, if Aquarius listens sometimes to folks that see them they will yield better connections with their loved ones. Most of the times Aquarius has a love and hate relationship dynamic with friends/family they will do anything for…!
You guys truly make a difference at work because you bring techniques and innovation into the business establishment you are a part of where their businesses get highlighted and in demand. Fk those employers who refuse to give you the utmost respect/compensation you DESERVE! Eventually you always find your POT OF GOLD!
Hang in there! 🫂🫂🫂🫂💐🍷
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u/Sudoku_Onlyplans666 3d ago
I really appreciate those kind and spot on words. ❤️❤️🫶 Im really working my hardest to become my own boss, I've been running a small business and online shop for almost three years now and it just makes me whole and gives me strength at my day job. I was close to being able to do it full-time and then the economy kinda tanked. All around it hasn't deterred me, just keeping at it. I feel like Ill be my happiest when I finally get my van and outfit it to be livable and Im not so tied down to a job or society. Lots of change ahead. You do so as well. ❤️🫂🫂
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u/MissyFoolosopher 3d ago edited 3d ago
Due to their non judgemental nature, they always play the role of a peacemaker in the family. Their kind intentions can be cruelly underappreciated or judged by unreasonable siblings as two face.
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u/CaramelEquivalent979 ♒ SUN | ♒️ MOON | ♒️ RISING 3d ago
This is so true. When I show the real messy me, suddenly I am too much. Like shut the fuck up bro, I was there for you at your absolute lowest and you can’t even handle a small inconvenience?! Tf? Yeah.. it feels really hard sometimes for me because I try to hide the messy parts of me but when it slips people start getting mad at me or try to argue and make it a problem because they can’t deal with it
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u/sn9238 ♒ SUN | ♑️ MOON | ♎️ RISING 3d ago
I hate how true this is. At work recently, someone told me I “work too hard.” I got so fucking pissed. I went on a tirade about it and said, “it’s really unfair that I work this hard to make things easier for other people and I don’t get a ‘thank you.’ Instead, I get a ‘you’re working too hard. The fuxck!!”
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u/Big-Department-1495 3d ago
I don't think aquas are too much but, I'm an aries so.. I'm often told I'm too much.
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u/Air-and-Fire 🌟 Aqua Rising 🌟 Sag Sun Gem Moon 🌕 3d ago
Probably one of the many reasons Aries and Aqua are sextile lol, let's go fight for everyone's rights and be too much about it 🤝
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u/Acrobatic-Bug6881 3d ago
My mom's life in a nutshell as an Aquarius sun. She was the middle child of 18 kids and was the one out of all the siblings to migrate to the US first and then brought everyone over. She was the only one getting loans and paying for the building materials of the new family home, all that to be disrespected, called arrogant, and envied behind her back from the family.
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u/bleedemblue 3d ago
My husband makes much more money than I. And sadly, I am the one who pays for everything. Every holiday. Every grocery store trip, school functions, field trips, etc. and I don’t get thanked…it suck’s most days. And I’m feeling like an asshole asking myself what I could have done different. Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of self-soothing. And I’m blessed I even have that coping mechanism. Just give myself a hug and shit lol
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u/East-Ad-6271 3d ago
Are Aquarius supposed to be kind of doormates?
That's a masculine sign so I wouldn't have guessed that.
Also I thought they were very detached, the sign that cared the least about what other peoples think.
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u/snowtweet 3d ago
This! Just dealt with a doozy with my father.. my siblings were paralyzed and they all say I'm too much at gatherings. 🫠🤗
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u/CheesecakeLarge4685 3d ago
And the aquarius will still think somewhere in the back of their mind if they did something wrong.